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Atonement
July 26th, 2009, 12:01 AM
Lately, I'm feeling incredibly left out. Unincluded. This summer, it seems like everyone gets together and hangs out, but no one, and I repeat, no one, ever thinks to call me. I'm one of those people that is friends with everyone, but good friends with no one. So, I get overlooked, which makes me feel like a pile of shit. I talk to people a good amount, I don't just hang out at home all day, I'm out and I see people occasionally, I keep in touch, but if people ever do a group ativity or want to hang out, I'm on the very very very very bottom of the list. It just makes me feel so unwanted. This is really more of a rant than a question, but if you have advice, go for it.

Wonder.
July 26th, 2009, 01:12 AM
I know how you feel. I am in the same position and I have been my whole life. Only one summer I had a friend who called. You just have to get used to it. Try calling them and plan a group activity. At least you have friends that call you back I would think. Maybe you just aren't all that fun. But you will be able to find one true friend that has a good time when around you.

Bougainvillea
July 26th, 2009, 01:16 AM
Usually if you try and host something. I'm that way. But I'll text my friends and say "Hey! Want to go to blah blah..."
And then we create a date and yeah.

YourFriend
July 26th, 2009, 09:07 AM
Lately, I'm feeling incredibly left out. Unincluded. This summer, it seems like everyone gets together and hangs out, but no one, and I repeat, no one, ever thinks to call me. I'm one of those people that is friends with everyone, but good friends with no one. So, I get overlooked, which makes me feel like a pile of shit. I talk to people a good amount, I don't just hang out at home all day, I'm out and I see people occasionally, I keep in touch, but if people ever do a group ativity or want to hang out, I'm on the very very very very bottom of the list. It just makes me feel so unwanted. This is really more of a rant than a question, but if you have advice, go for it.

I feel exacly the same... That's one of the reasons this is the most boring summer for me so far.

IAMWILL
July 26th, 2009, 05:03 PM
Addi :(

They need to know of you. They need to know your presence, and accept that, or you need a new set of friends, because as of now, these people aren't your friends. I'm sure this is a really common situation for everyone, me included, but you just have to let them know that your are around. Maybe a text to people or a call asking them if they want to hang out? If you instigate the influence of yourself into this whole group of friends who hang out thing, and you continue to persist, you will be included.

Donkey
July 26th, 2009, 05:13 PM
Addi :(

They need to know of you. They need to know your presence, and accept that, or you need a new set of friends, because as of now, these people aren't your friends. I'm sure this is a really common situation for everyone, me included, but you just have to let them know that your are around. Maybe a text to people or a call asking them if they want to hang out? If you instigate the influence of yourself into this whole group of friends who hang out thing, and you continue to persist, you will be included.
I don't think you get the point.

These people are your friends, but maybe you should call them and develop closer relationships with a selected few instead of being the global friend who no one knows that well.