People that are uncomfortable around homosexuals. [Archive]

Atonement

July 25th, 2009, 10:43 PM

Right so this was sparked by a conversation with a lifeguard friend of mine who was lone guarding the baby pool with one teen age lesbian that was watching her baby brother. She came back saying,

"Is she a lesbian?"
"I think so, meh, I guess."
"I thought so. It was so awkward and uncomfortable."
"Why?"
"I don't know, it just was."

Now, this girl was not very homophobic by nature, but she was uncomfortable. So, my questions:

A. Why do people that call themselves non-homophobic feel uncomfortable around homosexuals?

B. If there is no sexual advance, whats the problem?

tripolar

July 25th, 2009, 10:51 PM

A. Why do people that call themselves non-homophobic feel uncomfortable around homosexuals?

B. If there is no sexual advance, whats the problem?

a. some people feel awkward because there worried that an advance maybe made, or they maybe are getting checked out.

b. as said, they are worried that an advance maybe made.

AllThatIsLeft

July 25th, 2009, 11:41 PM

I believe paranoia...
because there is a minority, they believe they even check out the straight people.

or, think that they are more sexually aggressive, because of a stereotype.

Ithink.

Atonement

July 25th, 2009, 11:43 PM

I always laugh how people are uncomfortable because they think that the homosexual is checking them out or something. I'm like, how arrogant can you get to think that everyone is checking you out? I got a good point across a friend of mine once that hated a gay kid because he thought he was checking him out.

"Do you want to fuck all the girls you see?"
"No."
"So what makes you think he wants to fuck you?"

AllThatIsLeft

July 25th, 2009, 11:46 PM

lol, i agree.
idk in general, but the homophobes i've met were quite full of themselves. but i doubt it applies to all O.o

mosaic.

July 26th, 2009, 12:32 AM

Maybe some feel uncomfortable because they are not used to being exposed to homosexuality.

It's also possible that homosexuality isn't widely accepted in our culture, and some believe that being around a homosexual counts as affiliation.

DTeen

July 26th, 2009, 03:41 AM

Are you uncomfortable around Bisexual people or Homosexual people? If so Why?
Else
Post a comment =P

(Sorry didn't put a Not Uncomfortable option)
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I really could care less if I'm around anyone who is gay or bi

NeverTooLate

July 26th, 2009, 03:42 AM

No i like being around gays and bis

Brilliance

July 26th, 2009, 03:57 AM

No I'm not. One of my closest friends is gay and I couldn't imagine my days without him.

Reality

July 26th, 2009, 04:51 AM

Not really. If they're attracted to me, though, it's awkward, but the same with a girl who's attracted me that I'm not interested in.

YourFriend

July 26th, 2009, 08:58 AM

I love every1! I don't care if i'm around homosexuals, bisexuals or heterosexuals.

YourFriend

July 26th, 2009, 09:02 AM

Because of the mind... and maybe some really paranoid peeps think those homosexuals will try to rape them, but that's pure bullshit. Homosexuals are as normal as any1 else when it comes to anything but sex or relationships.

ShatteredWings

July 26th, 2009, 10:33 AM

Right so this was sparked by a conversation with a lifeguard friend of mine who was lone guarding the baby pool with one teen age lesbian that was watching her baby brother. She came back saying,

"Is she a lesbian?"
"I think so, meh, I guess."
"I thought so. It was so awkward and uncomfortable."
"Why?"
"I don't know, it just was."
Have to ask, how did you know this? She have a girlfriend? or just she's mre like "i DON'T give a fuck who knows why hide?"

A. Why do people that call themselves non-homophobic feel uncomfortable around homosexuals?

B. If there is no sexual advance, whats the problem?
Answer to both. We're different, and people get weird around anyone who's not 'normal'

Atonement

July 26th, 2009, 10:40 AM

Have to ask, how did you know this? She have a girlfriend? or just she's mre like "i DON'T give a fuck who knows why hide?"

I know this because she's made out with women in my school and will admit on question that she's a lesbian.

ShatteredWings

July 26th, 2009, 10:43 AM

okay fair enough.

The Batman

July 26th, 2009, 10:49 AM

I went to a party last night and there was a drag queen there who my mom and my cousins are friends with, and I was scared everytime he came around me I was very uncomfortable(and it was from more than the fact that he had on these shorts that showed half his ass and he was extremely hideous). I also get uncomfortable around other out gay people including my cousin's boyfriend, but my uncle is bi and I spent the night hanging with him. For me it's not that the person might approach me(because depending on the guy I'll love it) it's that I'm not use to being around gay people so sorta puts me in defense mode.

Viral Death

July 26th, 2009, 11:47 AM

Dont have a problem with them as long as they dont come on me. They made their way to being a homosexual, no problem with that.

Atonement

July 26th, 2009, 12:34 PM

okay fair enough.

Do I seem like the kind of person that would mindlessly label someone?

I went to a party last night and there was a drag queen there who my mom and my cousins are friends with, and I was scared everytime he came around me I was very uncomfortable(and it was from more than the fact that he had on these shorts that showed half his ass and he was extremely hideous). I also get uncomfortable around other out gay people including my cousin's boyfriend, but my uncle is bi and I spent the night hanging with him. For me it's not that the person might approach me(because depending on the guy I'll love it) it's that I'm not use to being around gay people so sorta puts me in defense mode.

So you think its not really a fear of people coming onto the straight people, but more of a unfamiliar territory for people?

The Batman

July 26th, 2009, 12:44 PM

Yea because naturally we're going to stick with people that we are familiar with and that we have been around all our lives. You can say the same for races, if you go to school and look around your cafeteria during lunch you'll see that the african americans are generally together, the Caucasians are grouped, the orientals, the latinos, and just we're mainly around people we've been with our life. It's just instinct it's in us to put up a barrier to new things temporarily.

ShatteredWings

July 26th, 2009, 06:46 PM

Do I seem like the kind of person that would mindlessly label someone?

No but you never really know sometimes.

Yea because naturally we're going to stick with people that we are familiar with and that we have been around all our lives. You can say the same for races, if you go to school and look around your cafeteria during lunch you'll see that the african americans are generally together, the Caucasians are grouped, the orientals, the latinos, and just we're mainly around people we've been with our life. It's just instinct it's in us to put up a barrier to new things temporarily.
you do have a point there... no one's innocent of prefering to be around people who are more like them.

drpepper21

July 26th, 2009, 08:19 PM

i kinda understand, i check out guys who are straight, and im sexually agressive.

Maverick

July 26th, 2009, 08:24 PM

Even though I am gay it sometimes me uncomfortable to be around some other LGBT people. Its usually the ones that act very feminine and talk in the camp voice. I really can't put into words why but it is very annoying and bothersome to be around people like that for me.

scuba steve

July 26th, 2009, 08:26 PM

i have to admit that there's a certain awkward feeling i get when im near homosexuals, i don't understand it really since im not homophobic but what's weird is i get it accross lesbians as well. i think it might be because to me it's strange and new to me to see it face to face as i don't encounter it that often

Maverick that creeps me out too

The Joker

July 26th, 2009, 10:16 PM

tripolar

July 26th, 2009, 10:24 PM

Yeah, I get uncomfortable around the camp gay people. Otherwise, it doesn't matter to me at all.

Yeah, same here they are sort of uncomfortable, especially when high pitched and loud. But around normal gay people its fine.

theOperaGhost

July 26th, 2009, 10:35 PM

I don't consider myself homophobic, but I am uncomfortable around homosexuals. Why? It's something I'm not used to. Unfamiliar atmospheres generally make people uncomfortable.

Antares

July 26th, 2009, 10:56 PM

I don't consider myself homophobic, but I am uncomfortable around homosexuals. Why? It's something I'm not used to. Unfamiliar atmospheres generally make people uncomfortable.

As far as you know....

People in rural areas, are very homophobic I think because they rarely see it.
I think the figure is 1/10 people are gay. So there are many gay people out there, its just they aren't out. They marry, and have kids but all the while really are into men.

I am not necessarily uncomfortable around gay people. They are people just like me. I do hate it when homosexual people...flaunt it. That ticks me off, but I do understand that they want to live their life happily. If that means being "camp" or dressing somewhat "girly" or whatever, then have fun. I won't do it. I hope you don't try to get other people to do it. I hope you aren't annoying with it. But you have the right to do it and when I talk to you, I won't feel completely uncomfortable.

And thats not because I am "used" to it. Its just because I am looking past the fact that they act a certain way and going to the basic level of, you are a person, just like me, and I should treat you as such.

I wish people understood that.

Sceneboy612

July 26th, 2009, 10:58 PM

Not at all. Gay and bisexual people are still human no matter what their sexuality is, and if you are low enough to avoid someone just because of their sexuality... there is more of a problem of ignorance with you than there is a problem with their sexuality.

And sorry for my little rant... bad day

Bougainvillea

July 26th, 2009, 11:00 PM

I'm with John on this one.

And I wish people would get over it.
It's the society that we live in.

tripolar

July 26th, 2009, 11:06 PM

Should have been a yes/no thread. Im not except the really effeminate gay guys make me a little uncomfortable, but other than that no.

AllThatIsLeft

July 27th, 2009, 12:27 AM

I merged the two thread as they were similar.

tyler27846

July 27th, 2009, 01:19 AM

sexuatlity shouldn influence onw ho you want to be friends with its the person they are on the inside not their sexuality

drpepper21

July 27th, 2009, 01:33 AM

i dont get the pole.

'are uncomfortable around bi/gay?
o boy
o girl

JackOfClubs

July 27th, 2009, 04:48 AM

I'm not really uncomfortable around bi/gay people. They're still people. Sometimes (rarely) I can feel a bit awkward around gay guys, I don't know why though.

YourFriend

July 28th, 2009, 11:15 AM

Lizey the Supergirl

August 20th, 2009, 06:35 AM

I don't feel awkward around homosexuals or bisexuals. I actually really like it when people can just be open with me about who they are, so the opposite, really.
And for the record 'phobos' meaning 'fear' is in the word homophobia. To be xenophobic is to have a fear or feeling of alienation from a specific thing. Technically to feel like that with homosexuals is homophobia. It's time for people to just relax because homo/trans and bisexuals are everywhere. Let's just move on and be open about who we are, please

Grey fox

August 20th, 2009, 07:41 AM

I get a bit uncomfortable hugging girls I know are lesbian or bi, because I worry they might get the wrong idea or get like, attached to me. And I wouldn't want to upset them. Gay guys i'm fine with, and transsexuals as well, the chef where I work is one and she's really nice, so long as you remember to call her Jenny!

Strength

August 20th, 2009, 08:48 AM

Atonement

August 21st, 2009, 12:19 AM

More than just a stereotype mate...I get checked out by homosexuals all the time...makes me feel very uncomfortable.

Or, like many people I know, you might think you are sexy and something tobe checked out, and you subconsciously think t hat you're being checked out. Furthermore, it is nothing more than a stereotype. All stereotypes have some truth, but rarely are they purely true.

KenFisher

August 21st, 2009, 01:05 PM

Well, it depends on what they're like. if they're really feminine nad camp sounding, no, they make me cringe. and i'm bi myself. and i don't think i sound really camp.

Yea because naturally we're going to stick with people that we are familiar with and that we have been around all our lives. You can say the same for races, if you go to school and look around your cafeteria during lunch you'll see that the african americans are generally together, the Caucasians are grouped, the orientals, the latinos, and just we're mainly around people we've been with our life. It's just instinct it's in us to put up a barrier to new things temporarily.

wait, does that make me special then?:D because at my school, i tend to sit with my friends (who are mostly, if not all white) when i can, and i'm chinese. I don't tend to sit with the chinese people unless i have to. sometimes i even feel uncomfortable sitting with the same race.

sorry to go off topic, i just had to defy it. sorry~:P

ItsMyTime2009

December 13th, 2009, 09:48 AM

my mate is gay. The problem that i have is knowing how to react around them. It's maybe because im straight. To me it seems weird even tho i know it isn't. Yeah im uncomfortable around gay boys. But im ok around lesbian girls.

jazz

December 13th, 2009, 09:56 AM

i'm just as comfortable with homosexual/bisexual people as i am with straight people. i only feel awkward if they are attracted to me and i don't feel the same.

there was one girl who started saying she was in love with me and stuff. that in itself i didn't mind, it's just the fact that she was insistant that i felt the same way for her when i really didn't. i am slightly curious, but i certainly wasn't when it came to her. This situation made me feel incredibly uneasy to the point where i had to change my phone number. But generally, i'm fine.

lengthy_brochure

December 15th, 2009, 09:25 PM

Well, I'm gay and just came out to my school. At first everyone stayed away from me. Now, everyone has realized that there's no reason to. It's not like I'm just gonna come up and start f***ing them or something. I even have this friend who is super very mega religious. He refused to be by me at first, but now he's realized that the bible doesn't quite fit with todays' reality.