ex first love

[thedudeman]

hung out with my first love yesterday, had been a year and a half since we broke up, and i made out with her a shitload, it was incredible shes an amazing kisser and i love our chemistry, yet i hate her with a passion for cheating on me so much when we were together, she doesnt wanna date and neither do i
but i feel like i may have undone a year and a half of getting over her with one make out session, and i cant stop wanting to be near her, her kisses were almost addictive and im seeing her tomorro, and its hard to describe but im not crushing on her, its more like shes a comfort blanket to me sexually and emotionally, is this smart to spend time with her and keep being close and fooling around?

[Triceratops]

:arrow: Moved to Relationships And Dating.

[IAMWILL]

Okay, I'm going to be relentless here.

Your both in a ridiculously stupid relationship because all you want is the physical part. Time to break up and forget. I really only feel that you like her or think you have "good chemistry" because you felt good making out with her.

[thedudeman]

ive been in love with her before and am not that childish
she aint crushin on me, and weve been friends for 3 years

[electric_feel01]

Okay, I'm going to be relentless here.

Your both in a ridiculously stupid relationship because all you want is the physical part. Time to break up and forget. I really only feel that you like her or think you have "good chemistry" because you felt good making out with her.


I agree! Real, HEALTHY relationships need to have some substance and not be all about the physical aspects.

[Bougainvillea]

Okay, I'm going to be relentless here.

Your both in a ridiculously stupid relationship because all you want is the physical part. Time to break up and forget. I really only feel that you like her or think you have "good chemistry" because you felt good making out with her.

It may be the hard truth...
But Will is absolutely right.

[thedudeman]

i see your point, ill stop spendin time with her
if you could be with this girl sexually tho, you would understand how hard it is, shes incredible at everything, almost orgasmickly good

[The Batman]

What I think is that you shouldn't have kissed her. It's obvious to me that you really did care about her, otherwise it wouldn't have bothered you at all that she did cheat on you. It's always hard breaking up, but when we do it's never over because then we have to get over them. That really is the hardest part about it, it can take months or years to do but we have to try and by kissing her you could have set yourself back to when you guys were together. My advice is to just try and not be around her for a bit, let her know that you don't want a relationship and you want to get over her, that way she knows to back off.

I also want to add that since this is your first love it's going to be even harder to get over her and some people never get over theirs.

[AllThatIsLeft]

It may be the hard truth...
But Will is absolutely right.

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[kyle95]

doing things from habit mate is digging yourself in deeper. you have to move on if you want personal growth. it's also not right to lead her on or to make use of her "talent". you don't love her, so don't contribute to a pattern that may ruin her one day. it's your responsibility to see to it that her interest is not abused by not participating in such activities.

[thedudeman]

^
she isnt interested in me emotionally at all, i know this for a fact, the only thing she wants from me is a bitch she can talk to whenever shes feeling down, make me feel like shit, and then do nothing in return for me but flake on me and ignore me whenever i try to talk to her, we live in completely different worlds, she has her own life and parties a lot and im a bmx biker whos still in high school and has no job, so the reason i liked it so much was because i felt like kissing her was getting something in return, emotional support, unfortunately now when im not around her i feel like shit

[RobbieDixon]

Umm... She's probably Cheating on someone with you... lol Durrr

[jack straw]

Its hard, but you are definatley gonna have to just walk away; or else you will be like ME who at this very minuet is doing the same thing that you are doing.... I know exactly what you are going through, because I am in a simmalar situation- have been for almost 3 years now. If you dont get out now you are never going to.

[YourFriend]

Okay, I'm going to be relentless here.

Your both in a ridiculously stupid relationship because all you want is the physical part. Time to break up and forget. I really only feel that you like her or think you have "good chemistry" because you felt good making out with her.

Agree.

[thedudeman]

she hasn't talked to me in a few days anyway, im figuring ill respond when she talks to me but wont talk to her first i will slowly wean myself off of her until we just aren't talking to each other anymore, she says she doesnt need me anyways she has a new bitch to use as her emotional punching bag

[jack straw]

she hasn't talked to me in a few days anyway, im figuring ill respond when she talks to me but wont talk to her first i will slowly wean myself off of her until we just aren't talking to each other anymore, she says she doesnt need me anyways she has a new bitch to use as her emotional punching bag

"im figuring ill respond when she talks to me but wont talk to her first i will slowly wean myself off of her until we just aren't talking to each other anymore" Bad idea, because your gonna fall for her again. Get out now before you become too attached, because you are really going to have to redo that "year and a half of getting over her". Its not fun, I'm the idot that keeps making that same mistake; DONT BE LIKE ME it sucks!!!