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ErykaInspire.
July 25th, 2009, 09:52 AM
Kso, lately i've been going insane with trying to figure it out on my own, but it's just not working.

Whenever I go to a store, like walmart or a mall, I'm terrified to be by myself. My mom makes fun of me by telling me to go ask someone for help finding something i've been lookinb for, and I won't leave her side. My parents think it's hilarious but it's really eating me up :/ and they arn't helping.

My mom makes me go off and get groceries from another side of the store and the whole time I have my fists clentched so tight my knuckles turn white. I get dizzy/lightheaded and my knees start to wobble.

I havn't mentioned it to my counselor because I don't want any more sessions; but i'm starting to think I should. I know I need help with this, it's really annoying me.

I don't want to go out with some friends and tick them off because I won't go into the bathrooms by myself :/

Idk if this is just a phase, or if i'm seriously developing autophobia (Fear of being alone). Idk what it is.. but i'd really apprechiate some help on this one.. any advice?

Requin
July 25th, 2009, 09:59 AM
Do you only get this feeling when your in public places? Like supermarkets etc.
Or do you get it in all places? Home etc.

Whatever the answer, I think maybe you should mention it to your counsellor. They will be able to do much better things than we can on here. You could be developing that fear, but if you only get it while in certain places, then maybe its to do with something else.

Either that, and/or tell your parents about it, like properly. Tell them that your serious and its a real problem, tell them that you really need there help with it rather than just assuming its a stage (which is the feeling I get of what they think).
I mean it could be a stage, but what your getting seems to be rather extreme just to be a phase.

Good luck with either choice you make, hope that made sense.

ErykaInspire.
July 25th, 2009, 10:03 AM
I only get it in public places, whether it be stores, parks, or just on sidewalks.
I prefer to be alone when at home, my parents and I arn't exactly close.
I've told them straightup how it is and they don't really care, they just think it's funny.

Personally, I hate attention, which is why I try to solve everything by myself first, so honestly, why would I stage this?
It started a few months ago. and since then it's gotten worse.

Atonement
July 25th, 2009, 10:19 AM
Its not autophobia (in my opinion) because to be autophobia, itw ould have to be alone. Period. In home or public. I highly suggest that you mention it to your counselor so that they can assess the problem. Also, politely ask your parents to stop poking fun at your problems for it is insensitive and rude.

Requin
July 25th, 2009, 10:57 AM
Hmmm. There's been no changes in your life? No tragic events or circumstances that have effected you in any way?

Even so, I think as your parents seem to ignore you (i'm really sorry about that btw, that's terrible too) it would be best to mention it to your counselor.
They may even refer you. But I would strongly recomend you doing that. :)

Joshm5816
July 25th, 2009, 11:37 AM
I would also suggest,, (like everyone else) going to talk to someone.

ErykaInspire.
July 25th, 2009, 11:53 AM
The only tragic thing that's recently happened was getting my heart horribly broken, but idt that'd cause something like this.. would it? o.O
And me coming clean about my rape...
but, idk, this is just insane):

Beautiful Obsession
July 25th, 2009, 04:24 PM
have you heard about something like someone getting killed on the news or something.. that can causee you to fear being alone in local placess??

ErykaInspire.
July 25th, 2009, 05:05 PM
Yes, but that stuff doesn't really effect me.

drpepper21
July 25th, 2009, 08:22 PM
you might have agoraphobia.

SoFlaDude
August 17th, 2009, 09:44 AM
you might have agoraphobia.

That's what I was about to say. I know some people that suffer from agoraphobia, and they get freaked out if they have to leave thier house or "comfort zone". If they do for whatever reason go out, they usually start getting panic attacks.

I would suggest talking about it with your counselor. Its nothing bad, really, just a fear you'll have to confront sooner or later.

Ryhanna
August 21st, 2009, 07:36 AM
Well I just came up with a theory. I think the subconcious mind had a lot more to do with us than we think. Ive learned this from personal experiences I dont wish to share on the internet. But anyway, to my theory:

Perhaps, subconciously, you've been so scared by stories of people getting hurt or attacked in public that you feel more comfortable with people you know and trust to be around. sort of like a toddler wandering off in a shop for example. I would suggest you talk to your counsellor about it.

overcome.
August 23rd, 2009, 02:31 PM
you might have agoraphobia.

I was going to say this, scrolling down I wondered if anyone would beat me to it lol. I suffer from generalised anxiety and agoraphobia. It can be hell, cases vary depending on individual circumstances, mine isn't so bad that I can't leave the house. I do have a strong mindset though, I won't allow myself to be beaten by something, you have to carry on.

I feel uneasy going to large public places where I can't really 'escape', like I don't like being in shops for too long or queing for something more than 1-2 minutes otherwise I end up starting to panic a little bit. Today I went out to an outdoor sale, chilled out and walked round, tonnes of people - I was fine. The difference is how it was a huge open space and I could leave anytime I wanted to, you may argue you could do the same in a shop, but I don't know (it obviously varies for everybody with agoraphobia, but it comes back to the same thing).

Agoraphobia affects a lot of people, I didn't realise how common it was, it affects more women than men also apparently. It's a fear of having a panic attack in a public place and not being able to escape. By panic attack, this can be a full scale panic attack where you believe you will experience something like a heart attack, a nauseas feeling or being sick, sweating because you're very uncomfortable or problems focusing/dizziness. It varies completely from case to case.

Where do you have problems with this on a day to day basis? Is it a day to day basis, or just when you do certain activities/go to certain places? What symptoms do you typically get besides what you've listed, such as nausea or sweating?

If you'd like to talk about anything about this, or anything in general, then please PM me. I'd like to be able to help, offer advice, just be a person to speak to or any reassurance.