help:/

[DecemberRain]

I promised my boyfriend I would try my best to not burn or cut anymore. Its been a couple weeks since I made that promise and every day I have the urge to do it again. Right now I feel so bad because I want to but I don't want to let him down. I just don't know how to get through this because the urge is so strong. Any advice?

[dstnyisurs]

Try putting it off. Like, tell yourself you'll wait a half an hour and won't cut, and once that's up, go for more and more time until the urge is over. Try talking to your boyfriend, maybe he can help you through this. Also, some mindless online games can be a great distraction. (: Feel free to talk to me if you need it. You can do it, lovie.

[Project Delta]

A game called alchemy is very addictive, i played for 5 hours and didnt realise. SO yeah online games can help. You could try drawing what your feeling, and then tearing the paper to bits. As well as other similar things

[DecemberRain]

Thank you for your advice. I tried the putting it off and eventually fell asleep:) ill try the rest if I need to again.

[kt2369]

when i want to do that sometimes i will talk to the person i promised to that i wouldnt cut. or i will just keep myself busy. sometimes being with certain friends help. i know i wouldnt cut around friends

[rubidoux]

I think your problem is that you're not stopping your behavior because you want to, you're doing it to please someone else. Even if you succeed in stopping it while you're together, chances are you'll start up again if and when you break up. If you're going to stop cutting/burning, do it for you. Seek out the support you need, whether that be a doctor, therapist, support group, whatever. If you plan your recovery the right way, then you can do it with or without him on the chance he doesn't stick around.

[Beautiful Obsession]

i agree with rubidoux. you need to stop for yourself not for your boyfriend because wen u split up you will just start again.

wen u want to cut
do something you enjoy like readin a magazine / book, watch tv, watch a film (comedy) listen to music, go online, go out wiv m8s, go for a walk etc etc

:)

[DecemberRain]

I get what you guys meen. I know I really don't want to stop for me. But knowing that it hurts him when I do it makes me want to stop but I still get the urges. I do go to a therapist but hate it. I just don't know. :/