Online Dating?

[Natoja12]

i like this guy and hes 15 turning 16, unfortunatly hes 2 years older than me as i have just turned 14. He lives about an hour away from me and were planning on hanging out. but my friends think its a bad idea. what do u guys think?

[Rutherford The Brave]

Well I really don't condone with a huge age gap, but I think that if you want to give it a try so be it.

[Θάνατος]

Well two years is not so bad but follow what your heart says.

To be honest long distance or online rarely work out. I know that some of them do but they are the exception.

[want_it]

i think its fine. good luck:)

[YourFriend]

That age difference is really fine. Love has no age limits. My advice is: embrace the chance.

[kyle95]

i'm not sure about the age difference, but definitely do bring an adult with you when you meet him if he's a total stranger. do let your friends and family know all the details as to where you're going, with whom, time to expect you back and take your cell with you.

[Aves]

I say that you should go, but like every online relationship, go w/ someone to meet them. It will be safe, and no big deal for the friend.

[Atonement]

If you met him online, I don't support this. Call me old fashioned, but if you met him recently, I would not do it. Though if you must, follow these rules:

A. Meet in a very public place. A cafe or a bistro or a heavily populated park maybe. Whatever, just lots of people.

B. Bring a friend if possible. If this person isn't who you think he is, they are less likely do try anything bad if you're not alone.

C. Let your parents know exactly where and when you will meet him and arrange to call them exactly after you meet him so they know you are okay and don't have a pedophile with you.

D. Don't hang with them privately.

E. If you get a bad feeling, ditch. Immediately.

[damn almonds]

^^^ agreed...

but i got a question.
what if u meet someone online, but if he's from your own family, like if u look up ur family crest... would it be dangerous to fly to his country to meet or have him fly to the USA to meet? i would like to meet my cousin desmond, but not any time soon. i was just wondering if u would advise this.

[Callwaiting]

I don't really see a problem with meeting up, provided you have someone with you at the time, you're carrying a phone and your parents/another friend knows where you are. Even if you got a friend to go with you it'd be a lot safer than going alone, just to make sure that you're with the right person- there are a lot of weirdos on the internet who use this kind of meetup situation as a lure

^^^ agreed...

but i got a question.
what if u meet someone online, but if he's from your own family, like if u look up ur family crest... would it be dangerous to fly to his country to meet or have him fly to the USA to meet? i would like to meet my cousin desmond, but not any time soon. i was just wondering if u would advise this.

Well if he's your cousin someone in your family is bound to know him right, or at least know OF his family.
I guess there's not much risk if this is the case, but the main issue in meeting someone overseas is. well. *getting* overseas. It costs a LOT of money to travel and you'd have to work out where to get that money from.

I don't mean to be a party pooper, but you'd have to ask yourself is it really worth me spending hundreds of dollars just to meet someone I don't know?
And whatever you do, don't ask your parents for that kind of money..

[RobbieDixon]

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO Do you even know the person in real life or has it only been online?

[Cromm]

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO Do you even know the person in real life or has it only been online?
The first voice of reason.

Firstly, regarding the age difference, even if you two were going to the same high school together, this would be awkward. If you're just turning 14, that means you're... what, starting HS next year? ...and he'll be a junior?

Even if the relationship 'worked out' you'd be dating a college guy (assumeing he made it to college) while in highschool. While that does happen... it would be (at the very least) a little wierd; even if you were in the same school.

Here's the real important part though:

His age is not the issue in this discussion (or shouldn't be, at least), but rather the fact that you're 14, and meeting someone you met ONLINE! ... yeash... where's the smarts in kids today?

One on one online meetups aren't safe for adults, they sure as heck aren't safe for teenagers!

Here's a question for you: do you parents know about this meeting? Do you think they'd say no if they knew? Do you think they'd say no just because "they're, like, totally trying to control me" or because they'd be scared witless of their teenage daughter meeting a stranger ALONE!


The Internet is a marvelous tool. It conects us to vast arays of information and material... and people. It's so easy to forget, after having spent so much time talking to someone, that they are, in fact, strangers. But that's just what this fellow is to you: a stranger. You've never met him; not really. Going out of your way to spend time with him (especially alone) is a remarkably foolish idea.

[Gumleaf]

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