im so confused!

[dstern1724]

I'm a 16 year old girl, and i've never had a boyfriend. ive never really felt anything for any boys before. ive experienced a feeling of admiration for numerous college aged girls. I think about them all of the time, and i try to see them whenever possible. i'm at a summer program now, and one of the RAs is the most adorable person that I have ever seen. I always talk about her, search the internet to see pictures of her or read about her, and try to go and see her whenever possible. when i'm thinking about her, i get a really weird feeling in my chest, and I cant relax. it makes me very uncomfortable and it makes me sad thinking about how I might never see her again. I don't think that I am really sexually attracted to her, but i don't even know how I would tell that. I'm so confused because this happens to me all of the time. what can you make of this? I really need help

[The Harlequin]

Sexuality isn't just about sex ~ it isn't only the physical disire you may have for a person, it also has to be an emotional thing, otherwise really you're just curious... If you actually want a relationship with said girl then I guess that makes you bi or a lesbian, depending on whether or not you're attracted to any guys of course...

To me it sounds as if you're fairly smitten with this girl, but I dunno ~ if you're a younger teen then it could just be hormones driving you cazy, or if you're older (nearer the top bracket) then yeah, your hormones should be starting to settle...

16 is awkward because it's right in the middle, so either of these eventualities could apply, really it depends on how you feel most comfortable, and if, as you say, you only get this feeling for girls, you're probably a lesbian, and there's nothing wrong with that, as you probably know already (:^,

hope this helps!