No orgasm during sex?

[VoodooChild]

About a month or a little more ago, my girlfriend and I started having sex. I've always heard that when they first start, guys usually have their orgasms really quickly. Well we've done it probably around fifteen times now, and I haven't had one once. I can go easily if she's using her hand, but I haven't during sex. Is something wrong with me?

[Musi]

I'm sure nothings wrong, you're probably not used to the feeling of sex. Since you orgasm when she uses her hand, I assume that you masturbate, and no differentiation has been made between masturbation and intercourse. Just give it some time, bro. It's all good.

But if you're really worried, it can't hurt to go see a doctor.

[VoodooChild]

Thanks for the advice. I was thinking - could it also be because of the condoms? I've heard they cut down on the pleasure a lot.

[DJthekid]

no it just depends on what stage of puberty you're in how old are you?

[VoodooChild]

no it just depends on what stage of puberty you're in how old are you?

18 :\

[Cromm]

Nope. Nothing "wrong" with you, in the physical sence. It could be any number of things really; most of them psycological. Maybe you just can't get into it cause something's occupying too much of your mind... like maybe you're too focused on the goal of orgasm to acheive it... or maybe you're worried about getting her pregnant (a very real fear), or maybe you find it's just too much work physically. Maybe you've chosen a bad position. Can't say without more info, really. (That's not a request for more info mind, I'm just saying it's a general question is all.)

But is their anything 'wrong' with you? No.

[VoodooChild]

Nope. Nothing "wrong" with you, in the physical sence. It could be any number of things really; most of them psycological. Maybe you just can't get into it cause something's occupying too much of your mind... like maybe you're too focused on the goal of orgasm to acheive it... or maybe you're worried about getting her pregnant (a very real fear), or maybe you find it's just too much work physically. Maybe you've chosen a bad position. Can't say without more info, really. (That's not a request for more info mind, I'm just saying it's a general question is all.)

But is their anything 'wrong' with you? No.

Thanks a lot, that was helpful. I think a big part of the problem probably is because I'm too focused on trying to have one. I just have to figure out how to stop myself from doing that now.

[Musi]

If you think it's the inhibition of a condom, try masturbating with one. "Train" yourself to find pleasure in that, too.

[nick]

Maybe you just can't get into it cause something's occupying too much of your mind... like maybe you're too focused on the goal of orgasm to acheive it.
First couple of times I had sex I found it really difficult to cum (although I got there in the end), I don't think its that unusual. I think there are all kinds of mental pressures that can add up, you don't want to cum too quickly, you want to achieve the impossible goal of cumming together with your girlfriend, you're worried whether she will think you're "a good lover". All sorts of things. Somehow you need to switch off and relax.

The condoms do reduce feeling, and also the amount of grip and friction from a hand, which you're used to, is very different to what you get from vaginal sex.

So sorry, I dont thing I have any very useful suggestions, but just to let you know it happens to other guys too.

[kyle95]

look at the positive side mate, you can keep going. i think it's the new sensations, vaginal and condoms. give it time and be patient. don't focus on it or even obsess. obviously she knows how to deal with that problem of yours. I can't relate to vaginal intercourse nor condoms yet. I hear there's a numbing effect. I'm sure you'll get used to it mate