My sexuality...?

[teendude_1991]

so, yeah, I am sexually attracted to guys. I don't know why...this is vulgar but the only way I can put it, I only get boners when thinking about guys naked and never when I think about girls, personality...could go either way, and physically I think girls are pretty, but guys are hot...so does this mean I'm bi or what? I just...I don't know...my family wouldn't accept it if I was gay, and I believe you're born gay, but my family doesn't agree...plus, I am a Christian, and my religion says "though shall not lay with a man as with a woman", but, I don't know, I don't want to go to hell, but I can't help who I'm attracted to, and I love God, and I always believe that he wouldn't blame someone for being gay or bi...any advice? I'm seventeen by the way...

[Mzor203]

At this age, you're still going through puberty. You may be attracted to guys, but that doesn't mean anything quite yet. The hormones are raging, so don't label yourself as anything yet.

You could, however, discover that you are gay or bi. In this case, you're going to have to find a way to deal with your family's issues with this. You're nearing the age where you can do whatever you want, so you could always just keep quiet for a while. Or you could come out to them, as really they cannot do much about it, just explain to them that it isn't your choice, and it's just how you are.

I'm not going to go too into the religious aspect, as I'm an Atheist myself, but if God created you, why would he create you in a way that was unsavory to him? It's not your choice, so even though he might not approve, he still loves you. Hate the sin, not the sinner.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well if your gay your not gonna lay with a man as a lay you lay with a woman, and do you really want to be unhappy with someone you love, just because a book tells you too? is it really worth wasting your life just because of some words written in an old book?

[nick]

It sounds to me as if you are gay or bi. My understanding of New Testament christianity is that God's love is for everyone. Best wishes mate.

[YourFriend]

Prolly bi, or curious gay.

[SimSailorNick]

I have the exact same feeling. All i do is think that i should stop labeling myself as gay or bi. I just wait and see what happens and try not to do anything wild or crazy.

[dilly623]

i feel same way,, i consider myself gay... more exciting to me

[southieRy94]

Yea dude I felt the same way. idk but sumwhere on this site has like a definition 4 every sexuality nd I decided bicurious which was just physically attracted 2 the same sex but emotionally 2 the opposite.
nd about ur fam nd religion, I thot about it alot and decided that if there is a god be Jesus then mankind prob screwed up or misinterpreted half the stuff he sed, cuz after all god created us in his image. But jus explain it 2 ur parents

[bowlheadhere]

I have a question (because I am curious)... but who "made" the bible? I never really understood that.

With my previous understanding (I dont know if this is correct or not) the bible was created by some people who wrote the messages of "god" (sorry, i am athiest so i am not trying to offend you in any way). I think that they might have just been scared of the idea/fact that people might love others of the same sex/gender. I mean, does anyone really know of any people from a really long time ago who were gay (excluding greek gods)? No one really said anything about being gay or anything, and I think that is because they were scared of what other people might think, when in reality there were probably the same/similar amount of gays.

Anyways, going back to what you asked (I dont really know where I was going with what I wrote above...), it is too hard for us/you to determine your sexuality. We can not honestly tell you what your sexuality is because we do not know you and there may be some unconcious things in your head that you are not able to write. Anyways, there are so many hormones rushing through our bodies that it is hard to determine who we are and what orrientation we are. Try not to categorize yourself, but to be open to the idea of finding love with anyone.

Although I said that it is hard for any of us on here to determine what you are, from the information you have provided, I am thinking that you may be bi or gay. I think you might be overwelmed with the ideas of your religion and family that they are making you think/hope that you are something that you may not be. I know a lot of people who are really religious and try to tell/trick themselves to think that they are straight just because of their religion and family. I thnk that you may be similar to them.

Those are just my thoughts/me going on and on about what I think, so yea... I hope it kinda helped some? idk?