How to tell parents about pregnancy without sex

[devilsheep]

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[Rutherford The Brave]

You'd tell them straight up. Don't dance around it seriously, its not fun its alot of work and they know for a fact that you wont be able to handle it. Thats why they get mad. Pregnancy isn't solely by bad luck, they only time that happens is when you break a condom, (Cough) other than that its your fault. No matter what happens trust will be lost, your too young for this and so was I.

[devilsheep]

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[rubidoux]

I don't think the scenario you're describing is possible, so I wouldn't stress about it. Unless I'm misunderstanding you, you're overestimating your sperm's capabilities. If you aren't actually having sex with her but you ejaculate, they can't hop over the bedspread into her vagina.

[devilsheep]

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[ylllek nivyer]

how would the pre cum get in there with these opinions and morals that your talking about?

[Mzor203]

You acknowledge that the possibility of your pre-cum entering her vagina is present. You should be smart enough to know that no matter what you do, there is always a teensy chance that your girlfriend will get pregnant.

Now that you have acknowledged that risk, you have a choice. You can either abstain completely, or carry on what you are doing. If you carry on, you know that risk is there and you have chosen to take it, therefore it is both of your fault if she does get pregnant. If you knowlingly take the risk, you can not shove the burden off on to 'fate'.

To the question though, telling your parents about a pregnancy without any sex (per se) isn't any different than one without sex. In both cases, your sperm fertilized her egg. In both cases, you guys chose to take the risk, and in both cases you guys will have to decide what to do with the baby.

So, simply sitting down with your parents and saying, 'I have something to tell you,' then explaining, is the best way to go about it. You can try to tell them that you guys played it as safe as possible, though that likely won't change much. ust explain it as much as possible.

[kyle95]

your stance is not more important than the consequences. unless it's by divine immaculate conception, you're going to have to man up mate. And what sort of fooling around would deposit precum in her if it wasn't sex?

drop your story and take responsibility - should this be true mate

[AllThatIsLeft]

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[byee]

Well, sperm cannot really live outside the body for very long, so the chances of some pre cum getting on her pants might have been good, the chances of the actual sperm in them surviving are slim.

Girls periods are not like clockwork (although some are, that's typically after they become regular, after puberty). So, being a couple of days late in the absence of no unprotected intercourse isn't necessarily a reflection of anything other than puberty and the irregularity of menses.

However, I'll take a much different opinion on the 'who's responsibility' a pregnancy here would be. It takes two, and if she gets preganant (regardless of the circumstance or intention) you're responsible. It was your sperm, and it was your responsibility to make every effort to keep it out of her vagina (putting on her jeans is a no go here), so therefore, if she became preganant you're responsible.

[Silverfist64]

[1]One time i put on her pants without any boxers on just for fun and it may have been in there and another time she went to fix her panties and her hand may have been wet with saliva/pre-cum.

well first off, scenerio numero uno very very close to impossible for sperm to get into her vagina let alone get her pregnant. There MAY HAVE BEEN pre-cum transfered from the head of your penis to her pants. Then there would been an even smaller chance that any major amount of what little pre-cum was already exsistant would transfer from the pants to her body. Not to mention the pre-cum would have to be in the exact area as her vagina. Then the pre-cum would have to go from OUTSIDE her vagina and alllll the way up to her egg cell. There would then have to be enough sperm present to break through the cell wall and impregnate her. See how highly unluckly that sounds. Possible, yes, but unlikely.

Second scenerio is alittle less complicated. She was giving you a bj and there was most likely pre-cum/saliva mixture. However, sperm dies in water and im pretty sure (not positive) that the corrosive behavior of our saliva would kill the sperm on contact. But, worst case scenerio, theres still some left alive. She then goes to fix her panties. Some pre-cum transfers from her hand to the outside or the very inside of her vagina. And then yadda yadda yadda read above for info from there on out. Once again...highly unlikely.

If you want to avoid these situations were you cant be 100% safe theres an easy resolution...abstinence. However, by continuing your "activities" with her you are acknowleding the possibility for her to get pregnant and therefore if she does you will have to take full responsibility and not blame it on some external conflict. As to tell your parents....the same as if she got pregnant while having sex. Different path but the same outcome.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Well my girlfriend says she will get an abortion and I have no intention of keeping it, and i hope she follows through if all of this does happen.

But no i'd have to disagree with you saying it would be my fault. In this situation it really wouldnt be my fault. I was practicing selibacy or abstinence or whatever and not having sex with her, so it really was all by chance.

There is no chance when preforming acts of the sexual nature you take in the chance of being pregnant. If you want to rub your girlfriend up be my guest but there really is no chance here it is like oh hey you know I was in her a little bit or I ejaculated. I know the chances are slim but take fault for your mistakes dont say its just luck, you know better.

[kyle95]

Well yes i understand that, but in my situation there has been 2 seperate accounts where pre-cum may infact have touched her vagina. One time i put on her pants without any boxers on just for fun and it may have been in there, and another time she was giving me a blowjob and went to fix her panties and her hand may have been wet with saliva/pre-cum.

I'll admit I do have alot of anxietys and I am generally a paranoid person, so my mental state isnt really helping this at all. But her period is 3 days late now

mate, why are you running away from responsibilities? she's done everything to please you and this is the way you react? be less selfish and think of her, if indeed she's pregnant, you're not the one facing either carrying or aborting, she is. so quit being selfish and stand by her.

[nick]

I suppose in theory if you were masturbating yourself and then fingering inside her with the same hand you could transfer some precum on your fingers. I've never heard of anyone getting pregnant that way, its seems completely unlikely.

[The Boy Genius]

i am not making this an abortion conversation but you seem a little flippant, i am pro abortion but you have to realize that's some ones life you are killing, ever heard the song brick that song is about abortion and it is sad.

[mrmcdonaldduck]

well
1. its pre cum not ejaculation so there is less sperm
2. very unlikely to happen in any scenario
3. tell your parents that you messedup an really need he;p