How to make this work...

[zackF.]

So there is this girl I have been crushing on for a little bit and I have her phone number. I invited her, her little sister and two other people to go to a movie and maybe get something to eat on thursday (its monday now). Im not sure what else I can do. Should I text her or anything? Im not sure if she likes me or not, and she sends mixed signals about it too. She thinks im funny and I have caught her looking at me a few times when i do see her but sometimes doesnt really seem interested. We dont see each other a lot because we have different friends and she is 15 and cant drive, but I am 17 so I can pick her up or drive her so that will be fine if anything ever does happen. But I think I really like her and I am not sure what to do... its like I am stuck. I dont know if I should call her or text her or whatever. I live in a small town with not much to do so we have to go out of town to do anything which would make it more of a date and not just casual. But if I should text her, what should I say? I dont want her to think im weird or a creeper or anything, but I dont want to miss this opportunity, anyway if you think I should text or call what should I say? and should I ask her out next time only her instead of the others too? thanks just need help, im not very good at this obviously

[ylllek nivyer]

aw :D that's so sweet. sound like she wants you too. that's just how some girls are. you should txt her. just be like "hey." one thing you should remember when txting her though: never just say "ok." omg. that pisses me off when guys do that. just be friendly. be yourself. and i think you should go for the gold and ask her out. :D

[Θάνατος]

Hey good luck and go slow. Hopefully this will work out for you.

[ErykaInspire.]

You should definitely text her.
Ask her questions, how her day was, what her dreams are, what she's afraid of.
But never let the conversation just end. If you run out of things to say, just be like "Hey, I gtg do some stuff, I'll hopefully ttyl?(:"
Be cute, but not obsessive. Don't text her every hour ask her what she's doing, and don't just ask "what's up?"
And something interesting like "Heyy, what're you up to? I just ---"
Give her something to work with in the conversation. Let her know you're open and easygoing.

Don't lead her on though. I didn't fail to notice that you said "I really think I like her", be completely positive.

[AutumnDae]

Definitely text her, like Eryka said.

Once you guys get together more, you could say something like "Oh wow, I just saw *insert something* and it made me think of you!" Yeah, "Whats up?" is really boring. Don't ask that.

Text her maybe tomorrow and be like "I'm looking forward to Thursday! :)" and just take it slow. Don't rush things!

[ErykaInspire.]

Yeah :D
And don't worry about having to go out of town, just ask her to walk around the block to get out of the house. Take a camera and do some funny stuff together, even if it's just making funny faces or hanging out at the park.
These are just ideas, of coarse. But girls like the simple stuff(: you don't have to go all out for us.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Yes you should txt her.
and like mentioned before give her something to work with.
one word txts are extremely annoying =\

[kyle95]

go slow mate and don't spook her. sometimes spending time together is more important than going out of town and looking for entertainment elsewhere. just be with her, no heavies mate. she'll know you like her without having to say it or making her feel uncomfortable. just ask her if she would like to go for a walk, an ice cream, etc. Just don't do what most blokes do and wait for the first chance to have their hands all over a girl - don't even think about it. be happy she likes you, she sounds like a nice girl, you're quite lucky :)

[Aves]

Just be really cool with her, act like you aren't looking to get in her pants (not saying you are). Just be cool, and respect her.

[zackF.]

Thanks for the advice... I talked to her some about the movie and about when I was gonna pick them up, she seems pretty excited about it I guess, I said something and was like ill see ya thursday and she was okay, you too! so i guess all is well right now, any other tips please post thanks...

[kyle95]

great mate! :) just be a gentleman and expect nothing from her. show her you're different than the other blokes. whatever you do, don't put her in an uncomfortable situation like a private setting. if you do by accident, break the ice, take the lead and usher her to a place where she feels safe. good luck mate!

[zackF.]

Well we all went to the movie and I sat next to her(not sure if she went out of her way to sit next to me but whatever) and I think we all had a great time. We went out to eat afterward and all had great conversation. We went back to my house when we got back for a little bit and then I took them all home. Now is where Im not sure what I need to do. Should I call her in the next few days and ask her out again, but this time just us two? or should I just text her some or whatever. Anyway, now would be a great time for some advice, thanks

[Atonement]

If you want to keep it casual and loose and no realy hardcore commitment like thing, don't call her perhaps, just text her and pretty much use this format, I use it all the time.

"Hey, what's up?"
"insert their response."
"Cool, want to hang out tonight?"
"insert rejection or acceptance"
If rejected, "That sucks, maybe some other time (assuming it was an excuse why not to." and if approved, work out the details. Watching a movie at your house is fun because you're alone and not in public. Just throwing that out there.

But, I wouldn't do it today, I would wait till friday or saturday or so. The best would be to text friday to make plans for satuday like, change my text line up there to "what are you doing tomorrow night?"

[kyle95]

ya, stay casual. let her know you're cool and not salivating and hot on her tracks. give it a week or two. also, keep the pattern and allow her to bring her friend, obviously she's her security blanket, respect that. also, when you bring them back to your home, be sure there's always an adult there too. do not take her to your room and don't offer either unless she asks to see your room. by agreeing to come back to to your home, she's seeing what your world is like, it'll add another dimension to you. so you're right, now's the time to really make sure you don't mess up - take it slow, no heavies, no sulking, just be her friend AND NOTHING ELSE. keep us posted mate, we like success stories. i wish you all the best :)

[Aves]

ya, stay casual. let her know you're cool and not salivating and hot on her tracks. give it a week or two. also, keep the pattern and allow her to bring her friend, obviously she's her security blanket, respect that. also, when you bring them back to your home, be sure there's always an adult there too. do not take her to your room and don't offer either unless she asks to see your room. by agreeing to come back to to your home, she's seeing what your world is like, it'll add another dimension to you. so you're right, now's the time to really make sure you don't mess up - take it slow, no heavies, no sulking, just be her friend AND NOTHING ELSE. keep us posted mate, we like success stories. i wish you all the best :)

Best advice, and everyone does like success stories.

[zackF.]

Well I have talked to her a little bit on the phone like texting n stuff... I think I might ask her to come and watch a movie at my house some time this week hopefully. School starts on thursday and her house is on the way, do you think I should offer to take her to school? I mean she cant drive just yet, and I thought it would be pretty polite if I did, and it might help me out with her parents too, any advice would be cool about what I should say to her with the movie thing or the car pool thing, holla

[Aves]

Yes, ask her if you can pick her up, as long as you're a good driver.

[zackF.]

Yes, ask her if you can pick her up, as long as you're a good driver.

Ha, i havent gotten in a wreck, or a ticket, i got pulled over once but didnt get a ticket just a verbal warning, and i have been driving for like 1.5 years

[Aves]

Well, I'm sure she'd like the idea of you picking her up, so go for it

[zackF.]

Well its not a one on one thing yet, but she, her sister and these two other kids are going with me (im going to pick everyone up) to this thing on friday our town is having so that should be fun. I was wondering if i should take them out to eat. I figured that would be a good idea, go eat first then go out to the festival thing. I have been talking to her for a little bit and it seems like it is going ok right now, so I suppose the next time we do anything Ill ask her if just she wants to go with me, so hopefully this will all work out, and thanks for the advice everyone, it has really been helping, keep it coming.

[kyle95]

well mate, i'm glad there has been positive progress. agree to take a friend along. be careful you don't get used and play local taxi for everyone either, once is ok, twice - you're setting yourself up. if you ask her to go out with you alone, she'll be expecting it and in her mind, "typical bloke, can't wait to get me by myself". hold off mate and don't rush this. it'll get to a point where she'll show her true colours - she'll ditch everyone around her just to be alone with you.

[zackF.]

be careful you don't get used and play local taxi for everyone either, once is ok, twice - you're setting yourself up..

Ha don't worry, im not, i am just going to pick them up since they can't drive yet and it will help out with getting on the girl's parent's good side because then they wont have to get out and drive them

[kyle95]

good thinking mate :)

still, don't insist on a one-on-one date

[zackF.]

Well today we all went out and it was cool. We went to eat at a mexican restaurant, but it started to rain so we rented a movie and watched it at my house. After the movie one of the kids left so I was able to get to know the girl I like better. We all talked and had fun. Her dad picked her, her sister and this other girl up. He was acting pretty cool. So I hope I can keep talking to her and I am not sure what to do next. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.