Friends.

[Yesterdays Hero]

Hello everybody. I've only recently joined, and I haven't made many posts, so I thought I would introduce myself, and ask a question in this same post. So, hello everybody, I'm Max Chase.

Now, enough of that, let's get to my problem. I have a friend who would like to masturbate with me. I masturbate with another friend of mine, but when me and him decided to do it, we were too young to realise that it could cause problems, or even ruin our friendship, and luckily, it didn't ruin our friendship, but now I can see the problems masturbating with a friend can do to a good friendship. So, what I want to know is, how do you think I should handle this other friend of mine who would like to masturbate with me... should I say yes, or no?

[nick]

Hi Max, welcome to VT.

To answer your question if its something you both want to try then go for it, but just agree with each other in advance that if it doesnt feel right that either person can say so with no bad feelings.

[Θάνατος]

Well we can't tell you to masturbate with him.

To me it sounds like you have your answer already made up here. You are using good reasoning to justify why you don't want to masturbate with him.

Since you masturbate with your other friend I don't see it being a problem to doing it with this new friend since he has asked you.

I would talk to him either way. Let him know how you feel about this and he might agree with you too. And it could work out for you and you masturbate together and it makes your better friends. Just remember to don't do anything you feel is wrong or you are uncomfortable with.

[byee]

Hi Maxy! Porsche rules, btw...way cool avatar.

Yeah, it sounds like you've already made a decision, maybe the question is how to tell him without hurting his feelings or ruining the relationship?

Whenever someone asks for soemthing from us, anything, really, they're exposing themselves by sharing their needs/wants with us. that leaves them feeling vulnerable, which isn't comfortable for most people, so they're more prone to over react if you deny them.

If you've decided to not do this with your friend, you might explain to him your reasons as clearly as you have here, so it's less likely he's going to take it personally.

[Skeln]

I totally agree 100% with Sam.

[Yesterdays Hero]

Thankyou, thankyou all. But, I would like to give the biggest thankyou to Sam.

[polarbear]

sword fight! lol

[Yesterdays Hero]

That's what me and my other friend do. hehe

[TurboDieselBandit]

Its been my experience that if you both have a honest and open friendship, are both open to different ideas, and both know how to disagree with out making the other feel bad, there is a good chance things will work out. When you do things like this with friends its not a 50-50 chance as to weather it will ruin a friendship or not. You can better your chances just by choosing carefully who you do it with. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't do it I'm just telling you what I know.

[adamsmada93]

I think the key thing would be talking really seriously with your second friend (the one who wants to start masturbating together) to be sure that your friendship is solid to start with and that you'll both be cool with it if either you don't do it at all or you try it and either of you decides you don't want to keep on masturbating together.

In my case I'm really close and totally open with the friend who I masturbate with, as in we can talk about virtually anything with each other. It's cool because there's never any pressure or anything, we both know we're cool with whatever is going on. If I ever end up doing it with another friend, it would have to be someone else who I was just as close and open with so that everything would stay cool, either if we did or didn't decide to keep doing it more after we got started.

Good luck dude. It sounds like you've got a really good friendship with your first friend so as long as you keep the friendship good with the second one too, things should be good whether you decide to masturbate with him or to not do it.

[YourFriend]

You should say yes, in my opinion, i think it can't ruin the friendship in this situation.