Hmm...

[Underground_Network]

I think I'm in love with a girl two years younger than me (I'm 16, she's 14). I talk to her everyday at the camp I work at (where I met her), and damn, she's just so amazing. (If you don't feel like reading everything below this, skip to the part with three *'s next to it)

She's kind of shy (and until recently I was probably A LOT more shy than her or pretty much anyone else out there tbh), but still, she really seems to like me. She said she's really picky when it comes to friends and doesn't befriend a lot of people, but she said I'm one of the few people she's met that she'd like to be friends with...

She's always smiley around me, and we both seem to do whatever we can during camp to ditch our groups (I'm a second grade boys junior counselor, she's a kindergarten girls counselor-in-training) to talk to each other. She seems to really like me, but I don't know, I kind of do most of the talking and yeah, sometimes I wonder if I bore her lol.

She always claims that I'm an interesting person and that she "likes" me, though I don't know what she exactly means by that. Sometimes I start to say something that would maybe imply "going out" and she seems to have this look in her eye like she's waiting for me to say something, but I just can't say it lol.

***I've never asked a girl out before, and well, I just want to ask this girl out. And I just don't know what to say.

That and I'm deathly afraid of rejection.

Even though I've only "known" her for about a week, we're really close and I'd hate to lose her friendship if I ask her out and she says no... :/ Meh... 0.o

I feel like a loser posting here lol. I haven't posted in this forum in forever... But for once this is serious. In the past there was no way in hell I was ever going to ask out the girls I mentioned... This girl, there's definitely a real big chance that I will ask her out... :/

[kyle95]

take it easy mate and just be her friend. don't lay a heavy on her. if something develops down the road, great. first build a strong foundation, 1 week isn't enough mate.

[Underground_Network]

Eh, I know, but still, it's like we're meant to be.

But then again, that wouldn't be the first time I've thought that about a girl. :/

I don't know.

I really like this girl.

I don't have it in me to ask her out, but I want to ask her out before someone else does.

I'd be devastated if someone else asked her out first.

I know it's not that likely, but meh...

[AllThatIsLeft]

hmm my advise is drop hints, and see how she reacts.
When a girl is interested she will try to let the guy know in subtle ways.
so keep your eyes open.
but really, you're not going to get anywhere if you dont try.

If you are shy, make it hypothetical.
like "would you go out with me, if i asked you for real?"
or something like that.
That would tell her that you are interested but don't want to come out too strong on her.
Leaves the choice up to her, and if she's a nice girl, which i'm sure or else you wouldn't like her. :P
She'll respect that, and still be your friend.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

ok dont worry just ask her thats the best way to do it, or go to a beach and watch the sunset and then ask her :D i think that the 2nd one is more romantic is up to you

[XxemorawrxX]

I think you should spend as much time together as possible and if you find one really special moment when you're just kinda looking into each other's eyes or you both just kinda shared something really intimate, then maybe those would be the best scenarios to ask her out, cause if you hang out a lot and realize that it doesn't really go anywhere more than friendship then you know not to ask her

[Ripplemagne]

Not so sure on this one, mate. Off the bat, you're claiming to be in love with this girl after knowing her for a week? I'm sorry, but I think you're confused with your own feelings right now. That's perfectly normal, so no fault there. I believe what you're experiencing is a strong crush of sorts, which may feel like love as it's something you're not entirely familiar with yet.

Throughout life, you're going to feel like a lot of people are "the one" when you first meet them, but first impressions can obscure our perceptions of people. This can be good or bad, but I think in this case, you should take a step back.

I mean, she's fourteen and you're sixteen. You're quite young and she's very young for any kind of dating. At that age, you guys are still changing, experimenting and growing. There's a very small chance that it will work out if you gun for it. Not meaning to bring you down; just stating the truth. Chances are, from now until next year, you're going to change so much that you two will run into s lot of emotional and psychological conflicts

It would seem to me that you're more concerned about her availability being taken away from you without realizing it. If you're familiar with the Ladder Theory (http://www.laddertheory.com), I'd say that you've placed this girl at the top of your ladder. Because of that, the thought of her being taken worries you, which is where your anxiety comes from. This is perfectly natural and it's a situation that I, myself, have been in.

My thoughts on the matter are that if you like this girl, you'll allow her to grow and when you're ready for each other, you can engage. But if you rush into a relationship just because you don't want to lose the option, you may wind up in a relationship that hits a lot of rocky slopes and eventually ends. If you two are meant to be, you'll outlast time.

But if you're not going to listen to me, then I'll advise you on the situation through another scope. It's clear that she likes you because, rarely, do girls tell about their emotions and give anecdotes about you; saying things like "I like you" is a subtle indicator. Being that she's fourteen, it's not unusual that she doesn't say much because, at that age, it's very hard to uphold a conversation. So, she just listens and absorbs like a sponge. Which is smart of her.

I wrote a guide on Asking Her Out. (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=47185) You can give that a read; it should help you out with the actual ask out process.

Never feel like a loser for asking for help. It shows more strength to acknowledge that you need help than to fear ridicule for not being perfect.

[Aves]

I say, take it slow.

My 4 steps to getting a better chance of not being rejected:
1) Build the foundation
2) Be 100% positive she's single (I almost made this mistake)
3) Be subtle, ask a hypothetical question first (ex. "If I were asking you for real, would you go out with me?)
4) Go for it.

*These steps cannot be reversed*