I Love Her. . . But. . PLEASE HELP ME ! ! (Girls And Boys)

[ILOVEYOU]

Hi There, i've been Loving This Girl, for about 4 years, but but it is a little complicated, because i hadnt even talked with her, yes... it is weird but i Loved her and i still do. last sunday i saw her after a while, i was ok, completely ok, i walked up to her, and told her "Excuse me, Can i have a minute of your Time?", she didn't respond, then i asked her "Can't I?" .Then She Said "No, you cant" . . and then i asked her "Why?", she said "Go. .i'm so angry now". . then i said ""ok alright". and went away, i dont know why she did that, because me and her were making a lot of Eye contacts, she always glanced at me and looked for a long time at my eyes, and i always did the same, which were all Too Lovely and we were in a really good progress with Eye Contacts which were made, and Even in Last Sunday she made a really cool Eye Contact which took the breath out of me... and made me move. . i finally broke that silence, and talked to her, but heard these words that i told you already. I REALLY dont know what to do, and i'm so depressed.
i thought a lot, about why she did that, and i kinda found out some reasons for her, that she had:
1- it was 4 years we were only making eye contacts, and she was all the time waiting for me to make the first move, but i was too shy, anyway i'm not shy now, its ok now. so i thought she may be Angry about why i'm making the first move this late.
2- i read somewhere that some girls doesnt show interest in the first time when they're having a conversation with the guy, i mean like she likes you, but she acts like she doesnt, to see your confidence,
3- She's Too shy, just like me, but i've fixed myself, she hasnt yet, and, she has a friend, who is always with her, i dont really like her friend, because i think she's the reason for all the stuffs she do.

anyway, i REALLY NEED YOUR HELP ! ! !, i want some advice to what to do next time i see her, i TRULLY want her, and i know she's the one for me,
Thank you So much !

[kyle95]

mate, "a minute of your time?" It sounds like you're selling her something. "Hi" would have been better. Actually, ignore what took place, wait till the following Sunday, i'm assuming this is all taking place at a church, simply say "hi" AND KEEP WALKING. Don't get all depressed because she threw you a curve ball. Act indifferent and she'll start figuring out ways to get your attention and quit the eye contact game, but don't look so dejected either. If there's another girl, beeline it to her and just talk to her about anything. Let your angry girl see you're quite normal and get her work at getting your attention for once.

[ILOVEYOU]

dude, i really believed in what you said, haha, but. . what did you mean about a curve ball? . . ., she's never alone, she's always with her friends, and do you think it works to talk with her even tho she's with her friend?. anyway i think your advice really works, because she's shy, and she always needs someone to start something, omg... She's Just like me. . ...

[Ripplemagne]

...That's not creepy at all. Nope. Perfectly normal.

[byee]

4 years is a long time to love someone secretly!

Who knows why she said or did what she did, I think you might be overanalyzing the situation here. remember, you've been preoccupied with her for all that time, she's just been living her life. So, chances are, whatever it was that she's reacting to has nithing to do with you.

I think you need to stop thinking and start doing. Just go up to her and start talking, and see where it goes. Take the plunge, put those Nike's on and 'Just do it'. Either she'll respond well, which will allow you to finally have what you've wanted, or not, in which case you can at least move on.

Just set your expectations low here, just a 'Hi! What's up!'. It's first contact, you want to break the ice and mive it into the interpersonal realm. There's more time later on to build on that.

[ILOVEYOU]

Thank You Guys, i'll try them and i'm totally sure they will work, so, just give me some time, tomorrow. . yea. . i'll try all, Thanks again. :)

[Kale]

...That's not creepy at all. Nope. Perfectly normal.

This is the only way I can describe this.

You're 16, she's probably not the one for you, but be my guest and keep trying.

PS: Us girls don't like "olden speak" and stalkers, lol.

[Truth]

Hm, i've had a girl like me and be a total asshole to me just so i wouldn't think she 'liked' me. Yeah, horrible idea girls, made me dislike her more then anything. Maybe shes like that. And kale, seriously stop being rude.

[ILOVEYOU]

uhum. . i'm kinda forgetting about this girl, i mean Kinda. . because there's this new girl i saw yesterday, and i gave her my ph number, so, she was so cool with me, i think i might be spending some time with this new girl, then lets see if i see that girl again, because as i said i barely see her, so if i saw her again today, i will talk with her and ask her my final question, no shyness stuffs, because i found out that being shy is like pissing in a toilet when all lights are off, cuz you're pissing and dont know where its going, like me i was spending my time with this girl's dreams, but she's so jumped up and think she's someone, but.. i know her better than anybody, she's a really normal girl, who Cant find a good Boy friend like me ANYWHERE ! ! , anyway, lets see if i see her today, i'll do what all you guys said, :). Thanks again. and ow, i'll publish how it was went today here !

[ILOVEYOU]

well, i saw her today, and i talked with her. . i think she's not really into me. . btw i reallllllly dont know WHY SHE LOOK AT ME THAT MUCH IF SHE"S NOT OK WITH ME. . , anyway she told me "no" again, and it kinda broke my heart, i cant say I Love her now, i just may like her, not again. . i wont Love her. . she doesnt worth it, my time. . my mind. . she's like all the other bitches, anyway. . i dont know. . i still like her, i was so angry today, and i didn't talk good with her, my kind of talking was a little aggressive. . i was so angry. . i'm so sorry now. . :((

[Silverfist64]

Dude, not to be mean here, but sometimes girls just....look. People look at people all the time and for different reasons. Just because a girl keeps looking at you doesnt mean she likes you. People dont go walking around with their eyes closed and then open them only for the person they like. My guess is that when she said 'no' she meant it. No trick, no test, no curveball. Stop looking for some hidden message or code that doesnt exist and look for the most simple answer...the one she told you. Its time to forget her and I know from experience that it is easier said than done, but not impossible. Theirs more fish in the pond that are right for you. You arent gonna have only one chance with one girl your whole life dude so forget about her.

[kyle95]

mate, you're angry right now and it's understandable. don't make decisions when you're angry. 2 no's mean nothing. sometimes girls want more evidence that they have you. she doesn't sound like the casual friendship type of girl. Don't do the expected and get angry. you seem to have as much right to be there as she and she's going to have reconsider her reaction because the dynamics of the place will always thrust you together. in my opinion, if a girl always looks, she's interested. However, she doesn't have to act on it, it's her right. it's a good thing you weren't living a 100 years ago, it's how all courtship was conducted, often with chaps strung out and hopeless until the lassie finally bestowed permission. I suspect she's old-fashioned mate, that's a plus not a negative. just don't read too much into it otherwise you'll be filing for divorce before you even talk to her :)

[ebony15]

i'd go for the number 2.

Anyways... do you know each other well>?

[Kim.]

If you really like this first girl.. i think the best thing to do is to become more of a friend to her first.. that way you will be more comfortable talking to her.. be casual though.. dont get too heavy too quick..
By the sounds of it you arent really in love.. if you dont really speak to her, you might just think you love her based on the way she looks..Maybe getting to know her as a person first is the best thing to do... your only 16.. your life is just beginning, so dont worry.. Either way i hope it works out for you.. coz i agree its a horrible problem...

Keep us posted!

[ILOVEYOU]

@ Kyle, thanks man, i really do agree with you, i think i was too angry. . but, now. . when i think about yesterday, and the stuffs that happened, i get it again that it was my fault again. . i asked her a question that doesnt really have any answer except "No", i was sooooo angry, for some stupid reasons, i walked up to her, and i told her "look, finally Yes Or No?". . such a stupid question. . ahh. if i was asked that question, i would say no like her, but. . i talked aggressive with her, do you think she still thinks about me?. .

@ Ebony : no .. we dont know eachother, but i know a lot of things about her, by her neighbors . .

@ Kim, : Thank you, but i Really Loved her before, i mean i REALLY Loved her, i couldnt go to bed without dreaming about her beautiful eyes, about. . .oh. but now. . doubts are coming into my mind, that she doesnt worth it, or she's not the one for me, or even its not love. ., but i'm the one who knows how much she means to me, yesterday, when talked with her like that, when i got home after that, i was like Burning, for why i talked like that with her. ., anyway, i think you're right, i have to know her first, but, when she blocks all the ways ! !
and ok Sure, i will post here anything happened, i think i will see her this thursday Hopefully ! !
:D

[Kim.]

I know how you feel, iv been through something similar...
Its really hard to think straight when your feelings are that strong... Maybe she is worth it, maybe she isnt.. Only you can decide that..
Do you like this second girl?

[ILOVEYOU]

oh you know... it is hard to decide. . she's too lovely, even tho she doesnt pay attention like before. . ,
anyway, yes, i like this second girl, at least she shows how she feels, i mean she's not sara (sara is the first girl), when i gave her my number to her, she told me thank you, and smiled, but. . actually i have never seen sara smiling. . but she has two eyes, which you WONT find anywhere !, :)

[Kim.]

Maybe you should concentrate on this second girl.. she seems alot more interested...
um.. what do you mean she has two eyes?

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

I agree with Kim. The second girl seems like the better girl, as she seems interested in you whereas the the frist doesn't really. The second girl also seems a lot nicer and more fun than the first, so I personally think she is the better choice for you.

[ILOVEYOU]

Yea, i think this second girl is a lot better, and i also like her, she's really cool, and kind, :) thats actually what i really want. :D


um.. what do you mean she has two eyes?

Lol, nothing really, i meant she has beautiful eyes, haha sorry

[Kim.]

you sound much happier now.. Well done... XD

[Death]

I'd say it's for the best. The second girl seems a lot more interested in you than the first.

[ILOVEYOU]

@ Death: yes dude, i think i can get her easier, anyway she hasnt call me yet :(


you sound much happier now.. Well done... XD
:) Thank you, its all about your helps, i owe you one