My dad, the extremist

[Bluearmy]

Let me start out by saying that I love my dad very much, and I don't hate him or anything.

I just hate his ways.

My dad is a very, very extremist christian; and the majority of my dad's family is the same way. He takes things to the maximum, and it has gotten to the point where we start fighting with each other, and can't find agreement on anything. For as long as I remember, he had always acted that way, but ever since my mom and him split, it increased dramatically.

His consent rants used to be on how my mom is going to burn in hell for leaving him. How my mom and her freind do sexual things together. Honestly it really pissed me off.

Now he just calls her "That damn woman", every time he brings her up. And then a few fucking hours later after being quiet and angry looking, he starts looking all sad and is like "I'm sorry, I love her, I just....", and I really don't listen to the rest. On top of already doing this. He does the same thing every fucking time we meet!

I swear he is a broken record! Whenever a topic is brought up, he replies with the same answers, and everything we talk about, no matter what I am trying to say to him. He always finds a way to boil down to God...
He totally eats up any kind of Christan propaganda!

I try to make discussion with him on his views of things like situations and governments and whatnot. Look, I am not that smart, but I like to discuss and dabble about issues and what not. Here are some of my dad's repeated views on some of the things we have talked about just to give you an idea..

Homosexuality
So I was just trying to pin up a debate about his thoughts towards gays.
He replies with "Gay, HA!, there not gay, there sodomizers!" And then he talked about how they proceed to do things..but I won't go into detail on that..
I then explained to him the counter to the idea that homosexuality is a choice by saying the "If it is a choice, then why would someone choose to be gay if it is one of the smallest, most hated group of society?"

He replied in quote "Because, they were all sexually molested as children. I read this Christan magazine, and all the people who were homosexuals, who are now living normal lives, you know? They all admitted to be sexually molested as children."

My reply: "................wow......."

Barak Obama
No matter how hard I try, I can't convince him that Obama is NOT A MUSLIM!!!

The "money"
He is convinced that the Lopez family had a lot of land, but it was stolen by the "white man". And now the majority of my family (dad's side) have paid numerous amounts of money to lawyers so they are "working hard to get them the money". Supposedly, the land that was stolen from my forefathers had a lot of oil on it, and there is a lot of money that they will receive if they win some sort of case.. I am not exactly sure how this works but one of the main things why they believe it is because apparently some my family members had a 'vision' that God was going to give us lots of money and riches....

I personally think it's a big ass scam to get my families money... Because they have paid many people very much, and nothing has happened..



It's gotten to the point of major ridiculousness of where any little thing that happens to him was because of God... He missed traffic "Praise his name!"

He went to the bank and got money. "God granted me to go to the bank today."

A dvd wont work "I guess God did not want us to see it.."

And this is about everything that happens!

I am having a great difficulty connecting with my father because he is just so closed minded. I feel like I have made some sort of impact, but I don't know really.

I really need some advice on what I am suppose to do about him. How do I find a way to change him, or at least calm him down. I love my dad, and I don't want to have to start isolating myself from him because of this stuff.

[IAMWILL]

Wow. Ouch. BIG OUCH. Anyway...

Sadly, your dad is you dad, and his beliefs are his beliefs. There's nothing you can change about that. If you really don't like his views, just don't listen to them. You have your own views, just keep them to yourself, and avoid controversal topics. That's really all I can offer you.

[byee]

My lil brother and all around genius got this one!

Your dad sounds like he's not gotten over the divorce. Nor does he have the emotional resources to address all those intense feelings he's left with.

I think you might do well to gently point out to your dad when he's bashing your mom, and that it is not helpful for you, and you'd like him to stop. Don't be argumentative, just observational. Maybe even leave the room.

Following the same logic, it might be best to not invite or otherwise discuss 'controversial' topics with your dad, given his viewpoints. It's unfortunate that he is unable to either recognize the rigidity of them, or the alienating effect it has on you, but you do, so protect yourself by using that awareness to avoid them.

[Donkey]

Just tell him you disagree, and it ends there. You will not be changing your mind and would not like to discuss further as it is harming your relationship. Talk about things that he won't react like that to. Build up a stronger relationship, help him out a bit over the holidays. As any dad would, he'll appreciate it greatly and it will help you both get along more.

Explain to him you dislike his extreme attitude towards these subjects as they, as Sam said, alienate you and you don't wish to talk about them with you as you would like a healthy relationship. That's fair, right?

I can imagine what it's like. When I approach my dad about a couple of things, he basically wants me to fuck off and ignores me til I stop talking about it. Not as bad as your dad, but yeah.

[Agent]

I always knew that extreme christians have something wrong in their head...

I´m not trying to offense anyone, but this is just how I think.

[Joshm5816]

My father is kind of like that. I try to show him that gay people aren't bad. Infact, they're normal people but he doesn't want to hear that. A lot of times it's hard to show people diffrent views when they've been brought up a certain way. If you really think it's too out of hand then try living with your mother. And if that doesn't work there's always child services. Wait, isn't that just for abuse? Scratch out child services.

[Moneyjr]

Let me start out by saying that I love my dad very much, and I don't hate him or anything.

I just hate his ways.

My dad is a very, very extremist christian; and the majority of my dad's family is the same way. He takes things to the maximum, and it has gotten to the point where we start fighting with each other, and can't find agreement on anything. For as long as I remember, he had always acted that way, but ever since my mom and him split, it increased dramatically.

His consent rants used to be on how my mom is going to burn in hell for leaving him. How my mom and her freind do sexual things together. Honestly it really pissed me off.

Now he just calls her "That damn woman", every time he brings her up. And then a few fucking hours later after being quiet and angry looking, he starts looking all sad and is like "I'm sorry, I love her, I just....", and I really don't listen to the rest. On top of already doing this. He does the same thing every fucking time we meet!

I swear he is a broken record! Whenever a topic is brought up, he replies with the same answers, and everything we talk about, no matter what I am trying to say to him. He always finds a way to boil down to God...
He totally eats up any kind of Christan propaganda!

I try to make discussion with him on his views of things like situations and governments and whatnot. Look, I am not that smart, but I like to discuss and dabble about issues and what not. Here are some of my dad's repeated views on some of the things we have talked about just to give you an idea..

Homosexuality
So I was just trying to pin up a debate about his thoughts towards gays.
He replies with "Gay, HA!, there not gay, there sodomizers!" And then he talked about how they proceed to do things..but I won't go into detail on that..
I then explained to him the counter to the idea that homosexuality is a choice by saying the "If it is a choice, then why would someone choose to be gay if it is one of the smallest, most hated group of society?"

He replied in quote "Because, they were all sexually molested as children. I read this Christan magazine, and all the people who were homosexuals, who are now living normal lives, you know? They all admitted to be sexually molested as children."

My reply: "................wow......."

Barak Obama
No matter how hard I try, I can't convince him that Obama is NOT A MUSLIM!!!

The "money"
He is convinced that the Lopez family had a lot of land, but it was stolen by the "white man". And now the majority of my family (dad's side) have paid numerous amounts of money to lawyers so they are "working hard to get them the money". Supposedly, the land that was stolen from my forefathers had a lot of oil on it, and there is a lot of money that they will receive if they win some sort of case.. I am not exactly sure how this works but one of the main things why they believe it is because apparently some my family members had a 'vision' that God was going to give us lots of money and riches....

I personally think it's a big ass scam to get my families money... Because they have paid many people very much, and nothing has happened..



It's gotten to the point of major ridiculousness of where any little thing that happens to him was because of God... He missed traffic "Praise his name!"

He went to the bank and got money. "God granted me to go to the bank today."

A dvd wont work "I guess God did not want us to see it.."

And this is about everything that happens!

I am having a great difficulty connecting with my father because he is just so closed minded. I feel like I have made some sort of impact, but I don't know really.

I really need some advice on what I am suppose to do about him. How do I find a way to change him, or at least calm him down. I love my dad, and I don't want to have to start isolating myself from him because of this stuff.

you poor poor poor thing.... your dad allows people to think for him..

after reading this ... im very PISSED OFF AT YOUR FATHER- i feel like slapping him.
anyways please please email me [email protected]
i would like to send articles and opinions to your to send to your father..

an article about homosexuality thats convincing.. thank..