Sex

[brandon1992]

Ok so..... I am 16 a month out from being 17 and i get the urge to ask a friend to have sex. Like it crosses my mind everyday. Not quite sure what to do. How do you know when you are ready to have sex???? hELP WOULD BE APPRICIATED THANKS

[Mzor203]

First off, the fact that you're questioning yourself and asking for help shows that you are not ready for sex yet. If you're not sure, it's almost a definite no as to the question 'am I ready?'

That's just scratching the surface, though. A deeper look at this follows:

The way you say 'a friend' indicates that you are not in some kind of relationship with them, which is another bad reason to ask them for sex. It will most likely offend them and give them a bad view of you. You should NEVER do that unless you know the person, have a good, strong relationship with them, and are ready to go further.

There is nothing you can do to combat the urge really, except use willpower. It's part of being a teenager, but at least this shows you've thought before you acted, that's something you should continue doing.

Lastly, you know you're ready for sex when you're comfortable with it, you know you can handle any repurcussions that may arise from the act, and you have a good, strong relationship with the person. You cannot be questioning yourself, and your partner must also be ready as well. A good deal of trust is good, too.

So just wait. It may be hard, but it'll be worth it when you're finally with that special someone.

[James18]

Enbelism gets it pretty much right. If you don't have an actual relationship with the person, it's probably not a good idea. Casual sex is a risky thing to engage in, and its certainly advisable to have some sort of relationship first.

Second, you need to be sure that both people are ready. It doesn't seem like you are, and I obviously can't comment on your friend, but I'd be very careful in making a potentially life changing decision like this.

[kyle95]

you have sex because you love the person, not because you have the urge - so, do you love this person?

[mosaic.]

You're ready for sex when you're ready for the responsibilities that may come afterwards.

[YourFriend]

Every1 gets the urge, you know when you're ready to have sex when you are in a long-lasting relationship with someone and not just an one night sex. So just don't ask that friend of yours to have sex.

[Zazu]

First off, the fact that you're questioning yourself and asking for help shows that you are not ready for sex yet. If you're not sure, it's almost a definite no as to the question 'am I ready?'

That's just scratching the surface, though. A deeper look at this follows:

The way you say 'a friend' indicates that you are not in some kind of relationship with them, which is another bad reason to ask them for sex. It will most likely offend them and give them a bad view of you. You should NEVER do that unless you know the person, have a good, strong relationship with them, and are ready to go further.

There is nothing you can do to combat the urge really, except use willpower. It's part of being a teenager, but at least this shows you've thought before you acted, that's something you should continue doing.

Lastly, you know you're ready for sex when you're comfortable with it, you know you can handle any repurcussions that may arise from the act, and you have a good, strong relationship with the person. You cannot be questioning yourself, and your partner must also be ready as well. A good deal of trust is good, too.

So just wait. It may be hard, but it'll be worth it when you're finally with that special someone.

Completely agree with Rex here.

Just wait, become more mature and have sex with a special someone, not just with someone because you feel the urge to.

[ViciousScheme]

The whole reason you should hold off to have sex until your married is because then your A. Mature enough and B. It wouldn't matter if you got her pregnant and it wouldn't matter what people though of you because your married. And therefore you chose to have a kid. Sex isn't because it feels good, it's because you want a Super-Serious relationship with them.

[Rutherford The Brave]

The whole reason you should hold off to have sex until your married is because then your A. Mature enough and B. It wouldn't matter if you got her pregnant and it wouldn't matter what people though of you because your married. And therefore you chose to have a kid. Sex isn't because it feels good, it's because you want a Super-Serious relationship with them.

Sex is something every one should expierence. Waiting out till your married isnt the only time two people are mature. Some kids are extremely mature and sex is a serious matter others, well they dive into it but you dont have to wait until your married.

[orangecounty]

I get the feeling that you are doing this more out of the fact that you feel like you are too old to still be a virgin. I strongly think that is why you told us that you were almost 17. If this is the case, you are not too old to still be a virgin (I am 17 and still am and am fine with it).

[Aves]

There's a huge difference between an urge and what you should do. In my opinion, just wanting to have sex w/ a friend, cause you have the urge to, is like a monkey flinging poo,it's STUPID! If you want to have sex w/ a person because you love them for who they are on the inside, then go for it. Personally, I'm waiting till marriage.

[mustang]

i personaly think people should weight until they are in a serious relationship with someone that they love and want to spend the rest of there life with

[DJthekid]

you should do it but only if u are ready 2

[Giles]

have it when you feel your ready... i can however tell you your not ready yet because you questioned whether you wee ready... work that out if you can.

[bowlheadhere]

This is simply my opinion, but sex is a symbol or token of love between two people. You should not be asking yourself when you should have sex, but if your love with another person is so strong that sex is an outcome.

[DylanY]

When you feel your ready is when your ready!

[CestDan]

Most of the teenagers have this question, according with my point of view I think you're ready to have sex when you are prepared to have the responsibilities and the consciousness of having a family with a baby.

I also think that we (I refer teenagers) aren't prepared for having sex yet.

[Noah_101]

if your not sure-your not ready