help!!!!

[bush227]

Well, i live with my step mom and my dad. i have a step sis and a half sis and my step moms pregnate again. she smacks us somtimes when we do somthing wrong wich i under stand but when i had 2 of my friends over for a week the kitchen sink got cloged and she took a big metal fork and beat me. so anyways i told my biological mom and she said if it happens one more time shes calling the cops so is this abuse or not i dont know hellllllllllllllllllllllllllllllp me!!!!:confused::confused:

[Θάνατος]

Dude, your should tell your dad about the abuse here.

If you have told him what does he have to say about it?

You have the right to feel and be safe in your home as your grow up.

If you don't fell safe can you go live with your biological mom since you mentioned the abuse to her?

If you ever need some one to talk to PM me and we can find a way to talk.

[Triceratops]

You need to tell someone else about this, it's clear you are unhappy there and the way she is treating you is not acceptable. Your home is supposed to give you a sense of comfort and security, not a place where you feel at danger.

[Sapphire]

Yes, it is a form of abuse.
It's really good that you felt able to tell your biological mum and it's also really good that she said she'd tell the police if it ever happened again. You have her support in this which is important. Your dad is living under the same roof as the two of you though so he needs to know too.

[derkderpderp]

Dude this is definitely abuse,and abuse sucks,you shouldnt have to go through it,i suggest you get your biological mother to talk to your stepmother and attempt to sort it out peacefully,however i do not know the scope of exactly how badly you are being abused-if she beats you real bad then i suggest getting your biological mother to contact the authorities and get it sorted.

Also,speak to your father about this!

Hope this helps!

[Specter]

Honestly that is abuse. Parents can not beat their children. However mild cases of abuse do get pushed to the side in the court of law sad to say. If that type of abuse happens again I strongly suggest calling the police. That will show her that you aren’t afraid of bullies, because that’s all she really is.

[Eagle1]

Depending on where you live this might be abuse in the US Corporal punishment is still legal and acceptable to a point then it gets into abuse if you did not do anything to be punished for then yes it IS abuse if not your state might still consider it abuse it depends on your local laws hope this helps. oh and this is not legal advice (Duh) and your local laws might be different and yes smacking is considered corporal punishment.


Taken from wikipedia

The United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child regularly orders the democratically elected governments of UN member countries to prohibit by law all corporal punishment of children, even by their own parents. The Committee is a body of experts appointed by UN member states.[2] Although the UN describes these members as "elected", they are not accountable to anybody: the only democratic input to their appointment is by a secret ballot at a meeting of unelected representatives of UN member states.[3]
The Committee was set up to monitor implementation of the Convention on the Rights of the Child,[4] whose text does not refer to corporal punishment or to spanking, caning, strapping, smacking or paddling, only to "inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment".[5]
Although half its members are not lawyers, and only three of the present members appear to have any experience as jurists,[6] the Committee of its own volition decided some time after the Convention had already come into force in 1990, and without any public consultation or democratic input, to interpret the text as meaning that parental spanking should be made a criminal offence. It is not stated on the UN website whether or not this interpretation has anywhere been tested in an actual court of law, either at an international level or in any country governed by the rule of law. The Committee has on several occasions highlighted what it claims is the "obligation" of all States parties "to move quickly to prohibit and eliminate all corporal punishment and all other cruel or degrading forms of punishment of children and to outline the legislative and other awareness-raising and educational measures that States must take."[7]
In the United States, which is not signatory to the Convention, corporal punishment of children by their parents is lawful in all 50 states.
The effectiveness of corporal punishment is disputed. Those opposed to spanking argue that other methods of child discipline are both more humane and more effective than physical punishment such as spanking. Some studies have suggested that spanking may lead to more misbehaviour in the long run, and some researchers have linked what they describe as "authoritarian" child-rearing with children who withdraw, lack spontaneity, and have lesser evidence of conscience.[8][9][10][11]
However, a 2006 study in New Zealand[12] found that those who were physically punished mildly, including light open hand spanking on a clothed bottom or leg during their childhood, came out the same or slightly better than those who were never punished physically. This study specifically criticised several previous studies which did not distinguish different degree of physical punishment and argued that such studies are biased from the outset to favour non-physical method of child discipline.
"Non-punitive discipline" (also sometimes called empathic discipline) is an approach to child-rearing that does not use any form of punishment at all. It differs from "non-violent discipline" in that even "non-violent" punitive measures such as "time-out" and artificial "consequences" are excluded in this approach. Most non-punitive discipline theories also exclude systems of "manipulative" praise and reward. Instead, it is alleged by supporters of this view, a child's behaviour is shaped by "democratic interaction" and by deepening parent-child communication. Authors in this field include Aletha Solter (PhD), Alfie Kohn, Pam Leo, Dr Haim G Ginott Haim Ginott, Thomas Gordon (psychologist) and Lawrence J. Cohen

[Rogue27]

You are being abused if you are not doing anything. Tell your mom if it happens again because your Mom has the power to do something about this. She can help. I'm always available to talk, pm me anytime.

[YourFriend]

Of course it's abuse, talk to the authorities now!