tight situation

[hhhhssssuuuuhhhh]

a few nights ago my friend had a birthday party and 4 guys slept over. we played xbox all night and screwed around. it started getting hot so we all took off our shirts, then two of my friends started wrestling and they got me involved because i wrestled in school this year, we had two air mattresses to sleep on for two of us each, one of my good friends with rolled and pinned me on the floor, he just laid there for 10 minutes and made conversation, in nothing but our shorts. we then slept in the same bed and i passed out before anyone els. i woke up with him right behind me and his arm around me,

i think we both have feelings for eachother but we al constantly joke around about the most serious things [sometimes very far] and im the only one my friends Openly supportive of homo/bi-sexuality and closet bi.

should i ask my friend how he feels? im already interested in another guy friend secretly and don't want to weird out my friends by being both bi and interested in them.

[Mzor203]

The action yuo take depends completely on what you think feels right, and what you are comfortable doing. With you being a little unsire at this point, I think going about it subtly, such as asking their opinion on gay rights and making that into conversation, is the best way about this. Don't push it too hard, whatever you do. If you see a reaction, though, take it from there and do what feels right.

[tbboltz92]

Um well.... A I think a good way to approach this is to ask ur friend what the hell was he doing with his arm around you. this might be a good way to get information without seeming like you really liked it.

Um..... Ur friends should except you for who you are...... If u plan on telling them you like them don't just blurt it out. kinda fiddlle with it see how it goes.

When I told my friends i'd text them this "what would you say if was gay?"
and depending on what they said back I'll tell them.

something that is very important is to explain to ur friend that u never meant to creep him out if he does get offended by u saying you like him

[punkjake]

like TBboltz92 to said iw ould ask what the hell where you doing on me
ask him if he has any feelings about you if he dones then you cna come out i guess,and also like everyone else said if he is your real friend he wouldn't care

[TurboDieselBandit]

Coming form my experience things can work out if you keep wrestling and see how far it goes. Another thing you could do is pretend they are a pup-it or doll, tell them to go completely limp and use there arm to make them do funny things then slowly start using it to touch near there stuff and see how they react. If anything goes wrong it will be less weird if its there hand instead of yours.

[twotall]

you should just ask him and if he says somthing postive keep talking if it nagtive then just end it and keep on going but telling them i would have no idea what u would say

[YourFriend]

I think his arm got around you on accident while sleeping, he wouldn't do it on purpose i think. I think you should ask him how he feels about gays/bis first and then go further.

[kyle95]

what people say and what they feel may not be the same. a lot of people know canned answers and how to say the politically correct phrases - whether they believe any of it is a different matter. think of another way to find out mate

[MichaelAdams1993]

Whatever you decide to do don't just go up to him and say "what the hell was your arm around me for". This sounds like your pissed and already freaked out by him and if he has feelings for you this could make him think you aren't interested and then he will probably just say it was an accident. Just bring it up in conversation and I would avoid any swearing.

[Θάνατος]

Well you could joke around about it and say that when you woke up that morning he had his arm around you.

Just take it from there and see how he reacts. Testing the waters is a good thing to do that way you don't have to jump out and get embarrassed if it was really innocent.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

um maybe its just the way he sleeps like i know i do that and i dont realize i do that until i wake up, and it doesnt mean any thing for me, so dont get any hopes yet and just ask him if is just the way he sleeps or if he meant much more