What should I do?

[surfersmurf]

Hi I was wondering what I should do about a certain situation i find myself in. last week I took a trip to Texas to visit friends with my mom and grandparents. (i'm 14). there i met this girl who was unlike any other i had ever met. shes smart, pretty, and really really nice. we could just talk for hours. we went to her house for a tour, then over to her grandmothers to swim and eat dinner. i stayed there until like 11:30 the night before i was supposed to leave for cali ( which is where i live). But now, I cant stop thinking about her. Being with her made me feel like all i wanted to do was move to texas and hang out with her. it wasnt like I HAD to have a relationship with her, its just that shes the most mature, friendly girl i had ever met and just being in the same room as her felt like it was enough.

anyways, the point is that i dont know why this has affected me like this, I don't really like it because it annoys me that something so stupid screws with my head so much. what should i do? the most i would probably ever see her is twice, maybe three times a year. but now it feels like i would never know anyone as cool as her.

that sounds stupid but its true. i cant stop thinking about her, and how the people i know arent nearly as deep as her. lol at first i was like " wow im in love" but i think im still too young to understand fully what that means.

how do i deal with this?

[Gumleaf]

wow, you are taking all this in a very mature way. right now i would say that what you are feeling is an attraction to a girl you connect very well with. the fact you say its not about the relationship makes it like a close friendship and thats very special and its not suprising that you are thinking about her a lot because thats only natural when you find you have a good connection with someone like that. is there any way you can talk to her such as phone or internet? otherwise there isn't much you can do until you see her again so you can possibly pick up where you left off and figure out ways how you can communicate together.

[Aves]

Gumleaf basically hit the nail on the head.

If you can talk to her somehow, then do it. Talking to her will help.

[surfersmurf]

Hmm idk I'll see.

anyways thanks for the replies/help

much appreciated

[kyle95]

ur in love mate. she's young and so r u. there's the distance issue and the reality that u live far apart. the encouraging thing is that u do c each other 2-3 times a yr. what's ur rush? she sounds like the perfect girl, b patient, wait, b her penpal, chat with her on yahoo live and make the effort to keep in contact with her. don't lay a heavy on her. b her friend and count down the days when ull c each other next. she sounds like she's worth waiting for. by the by mate, it's not something stupid, love is the best thing in the world.

[surfersmurf]

yeah i thought about that but i'm not sure if texting or whatever for months and months is a good way to like interact. i think i made a mistake because the day after i came home, i texted her saying thanks to her family and her for making the trip so great. but then i told her that i was really glad to meet her and that she was different from everyone i knew. I think i scared her off haha

now, i dont really know if i should say anything because what if she A) doesnt feel the same way about me, or B) wouldnt bother talking to someone who lives a thousand miles away because we hardly ever see eachother.

she has plenty of friends and probably guys that like her so who knows who shell be dating when i see her next?

I'd either like to forget about her, or talk to her alot. This not-knowing thing is eating me up

[kyle95]

4 starters, she is diff than anyone u've met mate, she lives a 1000 miles away - use that 2 break the ice and she may realise she misunderstood u.

why must she feel the same about u? u haven't worked hard enuf on ur relationship. ppl look forward 2 chatting with friends around the world every day, she's no exception.

if u can forget about her, then ur feeling 4 her is fickle and shallow. what's eating u up is ur ego, she's not falling for the bait. quit trying 2 bait her and be urself. give it time and b patient