Never finding peace

[derkderpderp]

Hey guys.im feeling really weird,i feel like i NEED to be left alone,whenever i come into contact with people i shy away and shrink away.i almost feel scared when i respond to people when they begin talking to me,i get scared that they are going to do something,even with the most nicest helpful people,i get super scared.
I seek solitude, but i cant find it. I seek solitude to escape-to escape being scared,of being judged etc.

This sucks.i dont know what to do.im scared of people in material form.im scared of life,and im afraid that i will never find peace!
What shall i do?please help!

[Corey G.]

Oh i get scared of human contact all the time, I can understand your fright, and I can tell you that if you fight against it eventually the fear will disipate.(or in other words disappear) Now it won't go away for ever, but you can make it go away temporarily.

[Myzarri]

You might have a social anxiety disorder. I'm not doctor, so you should probably see a professional about that.

[Corey G.]

He might be right, though I would not suggest professionals they would just shove drugs you dont need down your throwt, I suggest just finding people who deal with the same thing.

[Myzarri]

Im a she, and not all psychiatrists and therapists prescribe drugs to shut you up. And even if you meet one who does, you don't have to take the medication. Maybe talk to a counselor. They can't prescribe drugs, and they might be able to help you solve any underlying issues that contribute towards your anxiety.

[Corey G.]

Really? well of course not all of them do, but a majority of them do, and most the time you dont even need it, not to mention they have most likely never gone through what he has gone through, which would end up being a huge waiste of time because they wouldnt be able to relate to you which is really important. The best way is to not see a 'so called professional' but people who have gone through what your going through, or maybe is going through what your going through, like a group.(And if you want get a 'professional' to lead the group, as a neutral) or find a group with a 'professional'. =o but its so much more important that you find a group who have gone through it.

[Bougainvillea]

Well, I suggest finding a counselor who can help you find the source of this. And, it may be a phobia. My father had this he hated being around other people. But counseling is probably the way to go. :)

[PuppetPrince]

I recommend a therapist for you. Medications wont help at all, i agree they just shut u up and WONT help. xD View the world differently, view it from their shoes.

[derkderpderp]

Thanks guys.
But erm,could bad experience with a certain person (my father) be the cause of this?i had a post in the abuse section if u want to read it and maybe gain understanding of what ive been through.
I dont know but the problem itself is fear of people-therefore finding counsellors/therapists etc would be a problem.oww.please help!

[Corey G.]

Oh, that changes a lot. Just try to make it better with your father(if your father is gone then you can't) then forgive him and forget and try to move on.(that second one can work for both)

[derkderpderp]

You need to read my post about him to understand.ow.it sucks

[Triceratops]

These sound like anxieties related to social, fear or stress related situations. Has anything in particular in the past happened to you that may have had an effect on you (such as this fear of human contact) ?

Don't panic, I advise you see a therapist to help you overcome your fear of communication with other people and improve your social well-being. You will find peace eventually.

EDIT: Oh sorry, I just realised you said something had happened between you and your father. Maybe that encounter has triggered off these fears and worries within other people around you, making you afraid that others are just as intimidating and frightful as your father.

[derkderpderp]

I think it may be to do with him (my father),but how do i overcome a fear so terrifying?

[Triceratops]

I think it may be to do with him (my father),but how do i overcome a fear so terrifying?

Read what I just wrote in my last post:
Don't panic, I advise you see a therapist to help you overcome your fear of communication with other people and improve your social well-being. You will find peace eventually.