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[AllyKat675]

Okay so i have a friend who is thinking about dating a soon to be college guy..hes 18. Only thing is shes 14. I dont have a problem with this im just worried about other peoples reaction. He likes her and she likes him. but is it 'okay' for them to date? Like i believe love has no age limit but maybe thats just me. And if they do date,..how would she tell her parents her dad would like...blow. and if they do date what are the sexual limitations? can they have sex? And in YOUR opinion is it rly worth dating a college guy? Please answer :)

[Mzor203]

In my opinion, I don't think age makes that much of a difference. In this case, though, it is a small bit extreme.

At this age, 4 years is a pretty huge difference. Especially emotionally. One of the two is just entering their teenage years and puberty, one is practically done with it, and is thus starting to mature more.

And then there's the other thing: It might not necessarily be true that the guy is mature. Some people are incredibly stupid at that age, and may do things that could end up endangering your friend.

It's easy for the guy here to feel far superior to your friend. It can be easy for him to feel like he can do whatever he wants with her. And that's not a good situation.

Honestly, there are too many things that could go wrong here with this age gap. Not even getting into sexual stuff, which I personally think your friend is quite young for anyway. I think it's best to let these two grow up more. There is possibly nothing you can do to change your friend's opinions, but you kind of have to look out for her safety.

In the end, it's all up to opinion, but that's my opinion.

[sebbie]

I think it is wrong for an 18 year old to be having any kind of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with a 14 year old.

The age gap will be the cause of issues like a difference in maturity, right to consent etc, also what kind of an 18 year old is after 14 year old girls, something not right there in my opinion.

Anyway looking at the legal side of things regarding sexual contact, the 18 year old will be considered an adult and the age of consent is 16 in most places as the minimum making such contact unlawful.

[Underground_Network]

I don't know.

I don't really see anything wrong with it, and I know a girl who's now 15 and dating a 19 year old, who started dating him when she was 14 and he was 18, and their relationship seems to be working out fine. In fact, she's a lot happier than she used to be. The relationship seems to be pretty big for her. But yeah, it really depends. So long as he's not using her and they truly like (or even 'love') each other, then I see nothing wrong with it tbh.

Though there is the problem of sex being 'illegal' between them... And there's also the difference in maturity and there's the possibility that an 18 year old guy could easily manipulate a 14 year old girl...

[kyle95]

i suppose dating with limits may b possible. it's not appropriate for a sexual relationship, she's a minor. on the other hand, he can be her friend and if he truly loved her, he'll wait for her to be 'legal'

[peaceloverugby]

oh, I'm gonna have to say no to this one. An 18 year old guy, unless he's more mature than I think possible, is going to want a sexual relationship eventually. And I don't think he's willing to wait 4 more years. I could be wrong, but that's just my opinion.

[Aves]

I think it's ok, but about the dad thing and what not... I don't know what to say.

Also they can't have sex, because it would be a child molest act, since he's a legal adult, and she's a minor.

[Sunrider]

I've seen this question time and time again and it is a good one indeed.

My true answer for this is look at the age difference 14 and 18, so 4 years.

Would you(or your friend in this case) date someone 4 years younger, a 10 year old?

Have you changed in the last 4 years since you were 10? Imagine those changes that will occur from 14 to 18.

I personally suggest looking for someone closer to your friend's age. I think that the maturity gap is too much. Even if your friend thinks she's mature enough she still hasn't been faced with the same responsibilities and experiences as an 18 year old.

[YourFriend]

Umm, i think it isn't appropriate for them to have a relationship, first of all, every1 would make fun of them, 2nd, he can get charged for sexual harassment.