i need advice.

[yayallison]

i cheated on my boyfriend a few days ago with my ex,
but i really wanna stay with my boyfriend, it's just
sometimes he kinda bugs me, idk what to tell him.
and my ex just broke up with his girlfriend for me.
i love both of them a lot, but i dont know what to do.

[IAMWILL]

Obviously you don't want to stay with your just broken up with boyfriend. You cheated on him, and if anything he has the right to get mad, so expect fire. Getting together with your ex right now is pretty much an incredibly untrustworthy move. To me breaking up for someone is pointless, you have to resist temptation for an amount of time. You shouldn't have just broken up with him just because he was "a little annoying sometimes", someone in a healthy relationship would talk that over and settle it rather than cheat. To me, it seems as though the relationship you were in wasn't a relationship you both wanted. One or both of you was desperate and all they wanted was the physical part of a relationship.

Okay, main point. If you go out with your ex now, you'll most likely be called a slut behind your back (not saying that's what I will do, just based on this situation which ive seen before), your ex's will get very angry with you two, and you'll probably have a troubled relationship. So to me, if you really want your ex back, wait or suffer the consequences.

[yayallison]

welllll uhh i was talking about my current boyfriend as annoying.
but thats nothing i would break up with him for.
me and him aren't even doing physical stuff.
i wasn't planning on getting back with my ex if
me and my boyfriend were to break up.
i wasn't planning on being with anyone.
i wasn't gonna break up with my current boyfriend FOR me ex either.
and what happened when i cheated was a spur of the moment thing.
i really wanna be with my boyfriend though.

[IAMWILL]

Then you ask him (the guy you just broke up with) if he will forgive you and go back out with you.

[yayallison]

we're still together :p so it works out, haha.

[AllThatIsLeft]

i dont think he knows yet Will.


First of all, you have to be upfront.
You cheated and that foul, no matter what the circumstances.
YOu HAVE to tell him, lies and secrets will only ruin your relationship, and even if this does ruin it also, well that is the consequence you have to face for your actions.

If he forgives you, you are a lucky girl. If he doesn't, i'm sorry honey but you brought this onto yourself.

[MyNameIsJack]

I agree with paula
You have to face the consequence

[kyle95]

u need 2 step back a little and take a look at the bigger picture. u seem 2 b into the lingo of 'my bf' and 'my ex'. there's no 'my'. u have nothing. ur in limbo. quit acting on impulse and do some damage control. if ur bf was being a jerk, perhaps the relationship isn't as solid as u want it 2 b, so u turn the guilt upon urself and blame urself 4 going to ur 'ex', a familiar territory. i blame ur bf and not u. he hasn't given u cause 2 trust him 100%. so shed the guilt trip and really consider if ur 'bf' is truly the one. don't delude ur self bcse he's convenient - that's the calm b4 the storm

[IAMWILL]

Oh... Wow... I missed that one. thanks Paula :P

The outcome will only get worse with time. Tell him now.

[byee]

I think you need to decide which one you want to be with, regardless of the 'cheating' incident. What you do with that and how you address it with either of them is a secondary issue.

If you decide to stay with your current boyfriend, you have to tell him. Not only is it honest, but frankly, it's really just a matter of time until he finds out, anyway, info like this tends to get out. And, if he hears it from another source it will only compound you troubles. The only thing worse than betrayal is betrayal x 2.

You mitgh want to consider how you decided to 'cheat' on your boyfriend, how you allowed yourself to get that close with another person while you were in a committed relationship. Then, you might also want to consider that #2 allowed himself to do the same with you, knowing you were involved. And then take into consideration that unless this issue is addressed it is likely to occur again, except without you being the beneficiary.