How To Ask - Long Distance

[unidanman]

I Have Never had a girlfriend so i dont know how to ask her out... also my other problem is she lives 2hrs away.... what do you say...
Hi do you wana go out Ermm next time we meet...
She barely comes down here and her and my family are friends and its a big social thing when she does come down.... when i manage to get away from our parents my 14 yr old bro (Cheri and I are 16) is always around cos theres noone else to hang around...


Advice PLZ

[IAMWILL]

Okay... Hmmm...

I think that long distance relationships can only work if the two of you are very very strongly connected, and you must have a lot of trust for each other. A lot. If that happens to be the case though, you have to start slow. Just when she comes to visit next time, ask her if she wants to go on a walk or somewhere relaxing and away from your parents, but definitely in a friend way. You can really build up from there, and after a few weeks or so, or a few visits, you could just say whilst on whatever enterprise you two have embarked on, "hey, so, I hope your okay with this, but, I really like you, and I was wondering if you wanted to go out". I know, a lot easier said than done, but confidence comes with experience and time, so the more time you spend with her, the more comfortable and confident you will get around her. As long as you don't over do it, which might kinda creep her out, and she's single, this can work. A bit more info would be nice though, we could help you out more.

[Mzor203]

So, I think I might be able to help with the brother bit a little.

How close are you and your brother, first of all? Because you can be surprised at how accepting of your love interests brothers are. If you're close enough, maybe you can give him a little debrief before she comes, and maybe he'll allow you a little bit of time to make your move.

Don't attempt f you aren't on good terms with him. Otherwise, just feed him a ton of soda, wait for him to go to the bathroom, and then do it.

Another thing, in something like this, it is imperative that you have contact with this girl regularly. Otherwise it's going to deteriorate even if something does happen. One of you will eventually find someone else they see more and are interested in.

But nonetheless, good luck! :)

[Blue63]

First of all, I completely agree with Will here, it needs to be taken extra slow.

Now although you physically can not be close to her, there are many other ways to get to know her better. Simply, talk to her more. Make her want to make the effort to be with you long distance. Next time you see her, if you don't already have this information, try and get her phone number, just as a "friend". Text her, or even call her on the phone to talk if you want. There is always instant messaging, and not to mention social networking sites. Just try and make the connection.

[drpepper21]

make sure not to stay TOO connected, you dont want to come off as clingy.
talk to her as much as normal friends, just keep it friendly.

[kyle95]

try asking how she feels about you. don't make distance such a big deal. she's used to it, so focus on something else, like ur younger bro by telling her jokingly that he's such a bother. she'll pick up what ur getting at and may even offer offer solutions. by the by, girls prefer to have a bf that's not a player, but as drpepper21 says, don't be 'clingy' either

[Antares]

I think in this case that it is okay to ask her out over phone (if you know her well). Be really sincere and serious. Don't text her :P Or Facebook or Myspace, or Twitter her lmao
Call her with your voice and ask her.

Long Distance relationships can work. You might get some BS coming from all sides but 1 to 2 hours away isn't as bad as other people relationships.

Once you are dating, then you can arrange times for dates and such.

[unidanman]

Yeah I've known her all my life... my whole family are friends with their whole family... we are constantly in touch whenever i have money on fone... Bebo, and MSN

i guess you could call us close but far friends...(im txtn her now...)

And although me and my brother have fun every now and again... but i wouldn't exactly call us close...

whenever i get confidant about asking her when i get close to asking i wimp out...

Whats a good topic to get to before i ask her out... and how do i get 2 the topic

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