i need help

[nycbestkid]

i dont know if its self esteem or what

well a few months ago or just a month ago i was attracted by girls with their beauty and sexiness. now things have like been going on in my head because my friends says i am gay but i dont act like it and i know having fantasies about men are usually common in teenage boys but its like i think of having sex with them. but i heard that we boys go through fazes like say if i dont look at porn for like months or weeks then i would look it up and i would look at girls masturbating but if i keep on i pay attention to the man and woman in straight porn. but i just want to know is this all about self esteem or should i look at gay porn and test my self if i would act, i am also attracted to woman and also if i see a guy with his shirt off or with abs i wont get excited at all its only sexual stuff

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Don't worry about what your friends say--they're not you, how would they really know if you're gay or not? And forget about "testing" yourself, because there's no real test that can say for sure if you're gay or bi or straight or whatever. Even straight guys watch gay porn sometimes.

You're right, teens go through phases. Looking at gay porn, or not focusing solely on the woman in straight porn, doesn't have to mean that you're gay at all. I think that very few people are actually "100%" straight, meaning that almost everyone has moments where they think about the other sex or are a little curious about it. Some people decide that they like the opposite sex, and some people don't. Almost everyone thinks about it at some point, however, regardless of who they find that they are in the end.

You seem to be saying that you're not attracted to guys. Based on that, you're probably not gay. This sounds like pretty typical curiosity to me. Like I said, your friends don't really know what they're talking about when it comes to your sexuality, not as well as you do, so don't worry about what they say. If you're gay, you'll figure it out. If not, that'll become apparent as well.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

your friends cant tell you who you are because they are not you and they cant understand who you really are, so i mean just try it and see what its like, you might like it

[Leprachaun]

I think your fine, honestly, I think your looking into this too much. Your perfectly normal

[YourFriend]

Probebly just a case of curiousity:)

[kyle95]

mate, first get over the labels. u cant fight whatever attracts u and u certainly cant listen 2 old fashioned ideas about relationships bcse 2 them, anything other than a male-female relationship is not considered "normal". so "normal" is relative. the main thing quit feeling guilty about whatever attracts u and dont fall victim 2 labelling.