um.. im not sure what to say

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok
well i just recently broke up with my boyfriend and i am very confused
whnever i go out i tend to find my self starring at girl(not very often guys the odd guy yes)
now i know that im already destined or call myself bisexual
but now im not really sure because whenever i see a girl i tend to think sexual things and i get sexually interested towards them. i stare down their shirts and check out there body etc.
umm well i'm not sure how to percive this
i still sexually fantasize about my ex gf and i seem to enjoy it and whenever i see her i do the same thing i do when i see other girls(look up and down)
could i have possibly mislabeled myself as bisexual
because i think i enjoy being with girls more
am i possibly lesbian?

[Raize]

This seems to dip down into your other thread. They were made at the same time, yet...in that one, you said you told your parents you're a lesbian?

I think you need to slow things down. Don't rush to go tell everyone everything. Think about it first. Get used to the idea. You're going to get into trouble if you rush into things. Get your head back on, then carefully think about it. You only should've told your parents later on, when you are confident about yourself.

[YourFriend]

As long as you have sexual attraction(no matter how small) to guys, you can define yourself as bisexual, but give it some time, no need to rush with deciding, as Raize said.

[Antares]

I think you should give it some time before officially labeling yourself.
I say experiment a little bit. Date new people, and continue trying new stuff until you find your niche.
Now this may be a bit hard but try it :)

[byee]

As long as you have sexual attraction(no matter how small) to guys, you can define yourself as bisexual, but give it some time, no need to rush with deciding, as Raize said.


Attraction alone is not indicative of anything other than working eyeballs and gonads.

Your sexuality is determined by many complicated things, but they're mostly emotional. How you see and experience yourself, how you experience and feel about other people (of both genders), who you trust and feel most intimate with, who you look to as a primary nurturer. The arousal/attraction piece comes later. Many things seem powerfully sexual during adolescence, it's all those hormones and sexual awakening. So, it's easy to confuse the biology of puberty with the emotinal process of sexual identification. But they are very different.

Try not to draw any conclusions for a while, try to tolerate the ambiguity of it without rushing to judgement. In time, it will all become clearer to you.