i love her, i dont know what to do

[thebeast]

okay so im 15, been in 6 relationships, and my first girl i felt for i met in 1st grade, i didnt actually have a relationship with her until i was in 4th grade, she was the third girl i had a relationship with and the first girl i had that " weird butterfly stomach" feeling for, ive kissed her, she was in 5th grade at the time, and she denied really having feelings for me, when she went of to middle school i felt suicidal, then i saw her at camp, and i asked her out, got denied, and it was akward between us til three years later, till now, during those three years i was in three relationships trying to forget her, the last i almost got to the point of loving her, and then guess who comes in my life again? the one i love, and it destroyed me there so many resons to dump my current relationship, and i did, now i was talking to the girl i really love, altho she was clueless, and wanting to be friends, one day i snapped and was like, no i have feelings for you, spilled my heart out, and she was like, im so sorry, but my life is messed up, im bi and all my friends and i are having a love crisis, even tho she said she wasnt gonna tell her parents cause it wasnt gunna go anywhere and she doesnt get intimate with any of them, so it seems kinda different and seperate from what i want, and as of now im going insane because i didnt explain that i actually love her, and now i have this long letter on my ipod explaining my love for her, and i planned to just tell her, but theres so much i dont kno how to tell her or what to do, i mean i dont want to tell her over tech because that is so loveless, but there so much to tell her that it would be hard to tell her face to face and i have it all organized on one letter on my ipod, its almost perfect, so what do i do? how do i do it? i really love her, and i dont wanna just give up, i think she is "the one" oh p.s. sry for the rambling message, im just really messed up right now

[Sapphire]

If you want it to stand out and be more romantic than email or IM then either print the letter off in a really nice flowing font or write it by hand.

[thebeast]

writing by hand... not a bad idea thank you

[LiGHT]

write it by hand and make it really romantic and mysterious.
Good luck and tell us what happens :)

[Blue63]

Okay Wait, I have a situation that you can probably relate to. I have a friend, his ex of 6 months, who he didn't get over and still liked began to kind of like him again, even though she had a boy friend (messy situation). He wrote this long letter explaining how he still loved her, he showed it to one of his friends, closest to the girl, just so he could read it. He didn't plan to send it to her. Now the friend he showed it to, he's now a real jerk when it comes to girls and we realize it, tells his ex about the letter and how he still likes her. My friend is pissed, but lets the girl read the letter because she asked to. Any chance of them getting back together is ruined, he's stuck in the friend zone.

Now although you can write a letter (I to would suggest hand written, if you have good penmanship) I would tell her in person, try and be casual about it. So you can stop if you need and so you don't get totally slammed if she says no. I know it can be good for you to wear your heart on your sleeve, but it's a rocky road, so if you want to do it you have to be ready for it. I would do it in person, be open, but be casual, not to dramatic.

[PuppetPrince]

leave your ipod out randomly and leave it on the notes page , hopefully she might get curious ... plan B write it out and leave it in a noticeable place where she can find it. xP same thing as first but just written xD

[IAMWILL]

Well..... Hmm....

I think you need to either A) send it to her in a meaningful letter or B) confront her face to face. To be honest, it doesn't matter if the message isn't "perfect", as long as you get the message you want to get to her across, that is the difference. I'm sure it will be hard to accept this second piece of advice, but:

Sometim es when people are stressed out and having a hard time, they just want less. And a lot of times, relationships just add drama, and drama is stressful. I don't think it is that she doesnt like you, I think that it is that she is worried that it will be to stressful. And when that comes up, all you can really do is be a close friend. If you can prove to her though that you won't cause any drama, and you'll be there to comfort he when she needs it, she might change her mind and get together with you.

[LiGHT]

leave your ipod out randomly and leave it on the notes page , hopefully she might get curious ... plan B write it out and leave it in a noticeable place where she can find it. xP same thing as first but just written xD
XD That is a really good idea. Do that for sure :)

[Guitarist4Life]

Well..... Hmm....

I think you need to either A) send it to her in a meaningful letter or B) confront her face to face. To be honest, it doesn't matter if the message isn't "perfect", as long as you get the message you want to get to her across, that is the difference. I'm sure it will be hard to accept this second piece of advice, but:

Sometim es when people are stressed out and having a hard time, they just want less. And a lot of times, relationships just add drama, and drama is stressful. I don't think it is that she doesnt like you, I think that it is that she is worried that it will be to stressful. And when that comes up, all you can really do is be a close friend. If you can prove to her though that you won't cause any drama, and you'll be there to comfort he when she needs it, she might change her mind and get together with you.

that was the best answer thus far, thats what ive been doing for a few years and me and her are now close friends and i realized were better off as friends

[thebeast]

thank you all, and i am sorry my message was way to long, to much back story, not enough calrification on the problem, well anyways, thanks for the advise and ill just take a second to respond to everyone, first off i want to do it in person, but its a really long letter, and ive tried to cut it down without leaving things out, its still a long letter and idk if i could remember all that i want her to kno, i express myself easier with writing, so does she :), secondly the whole be a close friend thing is what ive been trying to do, but part of the letter is that being friends isnt working, atleast not for me, because shes like a drug, i want to see her, bcuz im depressed w/o her, when we hang it feels unnatual, like on the surface nothing is wrong but deep down..., then when she leaves im worse than before... and the whole reson for the feeling is becuz ive had these supressed feelings for like... 9 years... thanks again, you are all wonderful people, i honestly expected to be shot down here, any other words of wisdom after reading this post and id be greatful to hear them

[Blue63]

thank you all, and i am sorry my message was way to long, to much back story, not enough calrification on the problem, well anyways, thanks for the advise and ill just take a second to respond to everyone, first off i want to do it in person, but its a really long letter, and ive tried to cut it down without leaving things out, its still a long letter and idk if i could remember all that i want her to kno, i express myself easier with writing, so does she :), secondly the whole be a close friend thing is what ive been trying to do, but part of the letter is that being friends isnt working, atleast not for me, because shes like a drug, i want to see her, bcuz im depressed w/o her, when we hang it feels unnatual, like on the surface nothing is wrong but deep down..., then when she leaves im worse than before... and the whole reson for the feeling is becuz ive had these supressed feelings for like... 9 years... thanks again, you are all wonderful people, i honestly expected to be shot down here, any other words of wisdom after reading this post and id be greatful to hear them

Sometimes you just have to wear your heart on your sleeve and take the dive, lay your heart on the line and tell her how you feel. Good luck, I think you should tell her in person, practice memorizing and saying the letter, or you could always bring it with you and just read it to her. Good luck!

[kyle95]

mate, take a deep breath and relax. first, get rid of the letter. second distill all the things u want to say into 3 simple sentences. don't rehearse, girls can spot an act a mile away. be genuine but calm. girls don't get easily attracted to bumbling blokes. call her and agree to meet over a coffee or ice cream. look at her carefully and ask yourself this: do i really want to jump into the deep end right now and risk everything or can I actually enjoy the moment with her and look forward to others with her and as a friend? before you quickly answer that, keep in mind that love often develops after friendship. in short, don't spook her mate

[YourFriend]

write it by hand and make it really romantic and mysterious.
Good luck and tell us what happens :)

Yes and do it with black ink on a yellow paper if you can.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

sorry, didnt she say she's in a messed up place right now?
I think you should wait,
my ex before we dated kept telling me how he felt about me, even though he knew i was too messed up for a relationship.
Give her space, then when she gets herself together, then tell her.
and you have to remember, your only 15 you'll survive without her.