Some Help would be nice.

[Rockin Rolla]

ok, im 17, i consider myself strait.. i have had girlfriends scence i was 13, and ive had the same girlfriend for the past 3 years and we recently broke up...

me and my friend *a guy* have been masterbating with each other for about 3 years now.. after me and my gf broke up this turned into oral sex.. and other nite we had anal sex.. this was ok with me, as it was nothing but pleasure.. but then 2 nites after that he came back over.. and things got weird. when he sucks me off i close my eyes. he stoped sucking me and came up to kiss me.. IM NOT LIKE THAT. TO ME KISSING REPRESENTS MORE THEN MUTAL MASTERBATION. i pushed him off of me and went to sleep..

What can i do to not ruin our friendship but not be fucking gay with him?

[Donkey]

Umm... you can talk to him? It's not the best of things anyway, to have anal sex with a friend. And you're lucky your friendship wasn't ruined a while ago because of that.

Just approach him and explain that you only want to do it for pleasure, and don't want any kind of serious relationship with him that involves the emotional side. It's likely that he feels more for you than you do for him, or that he thinks differently of the situation than you do.

[gone]

tell him you just want fun and not a relationship..

[Θάνατος]

Well you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.

You may not be gay but since you have been doing this a long time now I would say that you are definitely bi.

[LiGHT]

Its normal what you are doing but its obvious he wants more then to be friends. Just talk to him and I bet you don't want your friendship over because of this. It will be better when you both get on the same page.

[Gumleaf]

moving - boys puberty >>> friends & family

[YourFriend]

talk with him, and explain, that you aren't gay and you don't want to be, all you seek is pleasure, tell him that

[byee]

Well, let's look at it from his perspective for a moment. You guys have been masturbating for years now, recently that's advanced to oral sex, and lately, anal sex. There's a progression here, it's becoming more intense and more intimate. And, it's not unusual when that happens for the feelings to get more intense and intimate, too. So, wanting to kiss you doesn't sound that unusual in that context.

You're looking at this differently than he is. For you, it's casual and recreational. For him, it seems a bit more emotional. You and he need to have a frank convo here and discuss your mutual expectations and feelings, and come to some agreement.

[James18]

IAMSAM along with others in this thread pretty much nailed it. You need to have an honest discussion with him, and if its getting too complicated, you might think about putting a stop to all of you guys' sexual stuff. The one thing I'd like to add is be mindful of the language you use when talking to him. It seems very likely to me that he is gay, and he would take offense to homophobic and derogatory expressions of that nature.

It seems like this is a lot more serious to him than it is you. So be gentle if you want to save your friendship.

[AllThatIsLeft]

You have to make sure both of you are in the same page.
as you have read above me, you need to explain the situation and the different ways you guys are viewing this "relationship"

My advise goes toward how to not lose him as a friend.

The way you deliver this could be very offensive to him, because maybe he thinks that you too have feelings for him, and maybe are just playing games.

So sit him down, and say that thing's should be cleared before things get further on and one of you gets hurt.
Tell him that you appreciate your friendship very much and that you dont wish to lose his friendship, but that you think that you both are doing it for different reasons.
So ASK him how he feels, i know it sounds weird to do, but assuming is the worst thing you can do. and then proceed to tell him how you feel.