first off im bi....and stupid.

[cjdude]

okay so i hope this is where its supposed to be.

anyway i have a girlfriend...and i like guys. and girls...kinda.
so obviously im struggling with finding myself.
having a girlfriend is really bad for me right now.
im crushing on the closest thing i have to a guy friend.
my ONLY male friend...
and so is my BESTFRIEND.
she likes him too.
hes curious. but deff straight.
so im kinda screwed. duh.
but yeah i cant break up with my gf cuz it will break her heart.
the other day i was telling my friend about this and then she texted me and said" i think im actually IN love with you"
i just said "i love you too."
i feeel bad.
and it has to end soon. but i dont want to hurt her, she cries enough as it is.
and the guy friend is up for experimenting.
but...eh.
the gf is in the way.
and i dont know what to do.
im sorry, i got "Enter"-happy. :yawn:

[LiGHT]

Well the best thing to do is to be honest with her. You can experiment and if you are 100% sure your friend you are crushing on is completely straight I don't know what to tell you, but tell her how you feel and maybe after you are done experimenting you can get back together.

[orangecounty]

Its not worth being with someone simply because you don't want to break up with them...don't waste either of your time postponing the inevitable.

[LiGHT]

Trust me you will much better after you get everything off your chest. Tell your Gf how you feel and your friend how you feel. Everything will be alright.

[Kinetic]

ya kno i have the exact same problem like EXACTLY like i read this thing and i was fucking amazed, anyways what i did was tell my gf that i think its time to "take a break" and then we can get back together later, i need time to my self and meh friends and yeah and she was cool with it try that?

[Antares]

You know, I don't think necessarily breaking up with your gf will be the answer. Granted, you need to be true to her and true to yourself. If you don't like a person, then you shouldn't be dating her. But it seems like you wouldn't be dating her if you didn't have something for her. So I understand that you are curious/bi but you are also a hormonal teenager at the same time.
You already know that you can't date your best friend. Keep him as your best friend. You will need him. Dating him won't happen as you already know.
So yea, break up with her before you get in too deep. Then evaluate your sexuality and the fact that you may end up perfectly straight. The just wait. Wait for yourself to know yourself a bit better and things should fall into place.

Sorry this advice is so sucky. Its 3am :P

[cjdude]

thanks...
i think ill eventually just be honest with her.
or maybe just go on a break.
i dunno.
but thanks for reading/replying.

[Kinetic]

also remember to keep love and not to give into lust...

[cjdude]

yeahh, definitely.
:D

[Blue63]

thanks...
i think ill eventually just be honest with her.
or maybe just go on a break.
i dunno.
but thanks for reading/replying.

WE WERE ON A BREAK! =0

A joke from the TV show Friends, no one will get my humor -_-'

Anyway, to the serious stuff. You have to ask yourself what's more important, I mean if the feelings for your girlfriend are strong enough to overpower your desire for experimentation with the guy you're crushing on, then stay with her. I mean you can't just stay with her because you don't want to break up with her.

Now this may sound totally awful, but your friend is straight, and not going to go out with you. You might just be able to experiment with him as a friend without it getting entangled with your romantic life. I mean just two friends experimenting isn't uncommon, and that's all it will be. She won't even know about it.

Now yeah, that sounds totally awful. I mean if you really care for your girlfriend and you know if she finds out about this she won't be happy, then just don't do it. It sounds like you need to figure out your priorities, it's not an easy thing to do. So good look.

[YourFriend]

talk with her and explain everything in details

[kyle95]

mate, give urself a chance at a true relationship. ur turning down a girl that loves u, over an urge to experiment? u said he's straight, so what next? a few thrills then what? a destroyed friendship and no love.

go to her mate,she loves u. part of growing up and being mature is to control ur urges and being responsible to those that love you. dont take her love for granted and quit making that little angel cry, it's not fair. find the compassion in ur heart, be strong, and overcome desires that lead to disasters

[byee]

Hey Chris, nice to hear from you!

Your situation sounds like Reality v. Fantasy.

I think this might be easier if you take the 'sexuality' part out of it for a minute. It might be better to look at this from the interpersonal perspective, the POV of them being 2 people in your life, rather than your sexual feelings about them or 'attraction'.

Consider what it is you like about them, as people, and see if you cannot integrate those things into your life. What you seem to be saying is that you find *something* of real value with the girl, eventhough it doesn't sound sexual, maybe it's emotional, and that has meaning. But it's based on actual experience (reality) with her.

With your guy, it sounds more lusty. But that lust is in your mind, it;sbased on yuor own fantasy. You might want think abiut what it is that's so arousing for you, it doesn't sound 'emotional', and it doesn't sound like a sure thing. The two are different.

Although it's hard to carry all these intense, conflicting feelings (and attractions), it really might be best to try, anyway, at least until you sort out what the best course of action here is. And that migth be determined by your goals. Are you looking to have the more emotional relationship you have with the girl, based on your experience with her, or the more intense, but perhaps less emotional one with the guy that seems based more on fantasy and hope? At the very least, before doing anything to jeopardize one, I'd check it out with the other, and see if the hope and expectation can meet your fantasy.

[jmfr911]

wow hard predicament you got yourself in there, my guess would be to talk to the guy friend and ask him if he would go out, but to keep a secret, then gently let the girlfriend know that you don't want to go out any more, this way you are gettin your bf without taking the risk of dumping your gf just to get rejected by your bf. If the guy friend rejects you in the first place then i just dont know

[obknobe]

I think you could quietly work out an evening or afternoon or sleepover with your pal to see what it is like and just keep it between yourselves. In my opinion (worth EXACTLY what it costs!) there is no need to get your peace of mind at the expense of someone else.

How honest are you when someone asks you what u think of a really ugly baby or a girl or your mom or someone says "does this make me look fat. . .does this make my butt look big . . . whatever"??

You don't need to share everything and all of your feelings about everything inside of you with your girlfriend (or anyone else, really).

[The Batman]

please don't bump old threads :locked: