Chance to lose virginity?

[tak011]

Well, I'm a 16 year old virgin. I recently met this girl, about 2 years older than me. We've been chatting for a while and she asked if I wanted to have sex with her, a sort of friends with benefits relationship thing. Well, Should I?
I always imagined I'd lose it to someone I love, but I'm not too sure now. Most of my friends are not virgins, and I really, really want sex. Is this the right decision?

[too_cute_for_you]

Well, If i were you. I would wait to have sex with someone you love. Your first time should be special. And plus, you wouldnt want to risk getting her pregnant, condoms dont work %100 of the time

[Donkey]

It depends. You might regret it in the future, just going for it just like that with nothing special. I wouldn't if I were you, give it a while until you find someone who really makes you happy and doesn't just make your penis happy.

[Antares]

Wait to have sex with someone you actually and truly love.
Not some random girl that wants you just for sex.

General Puberty :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[IAMWILL]

Not to mention that I would think a couple of your friends have lied about having sex to make themselves look better, all guys are naturally competitive like that.

Save it for someone special, don't lose it just because your friends have said they have.

[nick]

I dont entirely agree with the others, really I don't think this is a decision you can let anyone else make for you. To be honest the fact that you're even asking suggests that you don't feel ready for it just yet.

If you want to do it, do it, if you don't then dont, its as simple as that really. And condoms are very effective if used properly. Just decide for yourself whether you're comfortable about doing it under these circumstances.

[theOperaGhost]

In my opinion, NO, do not have sex with her just for the sake of having sex and because you want it. Wait to have sex with someone you love and who loves you. You are not the only 16 year old virgin, and I'm kind of guessing there are more 16 year olds who have not had sex than who have. Don't worry about being a virgin...save it for someone you truly love.

[Aves]

Save it, otherwise you might as well be a man whore!

[sebbie]

Do it if you want to, juts be aware that actions have consequences.

In my opinion you should not do things like this due to peer pressure, it never works out well and a lot of people will lie about how much they have done sexually anyway.

Also the fact that you are questioning if it is the right decision shows you still have doubts about it, I would recommend that you wait for a bit, things like this always work out in the end.

[Zazu]

Wait to have sex with someone you actually and truly love.
Not some random girl that wants you just for sex.


I second this.

Imo, sex should be something that happens between two people who are in a good relationship, not just something that comes as 'a friends benefit' as the original poster put it.

[byee]

Yeah, we can't really advise on this. And yeah, the fact that you're asking says a lot. And yeah, wanting something really badly and not getting it is hard. And yeah, thinking you'd do it one way but having it offered in another makes you think twice.

But, one of the things you might want to remember is that all sex isn't created equal. By determining that you want sex with connection/attachment, you're saying something about your emotional needs here. What your friend with benefits is proposing is recreational sex. You'll probably still have an orgasm, but I'll go on a limb here and say that you already know what that's like.

Recreational sex will allow you to experience orgasm inside another person. However, the emotional component will be very much different. And, you might want to decide in advance how important that emotional connection is to you, why you originally decided to wait (regardless of age or desire or availability) until you were in a relationship that provided that connection. And use your understanding of yourself and your needs to decide what's best here, rather than mere availability.

[YourFriend]

i think it's better to do it with someone with whom you are in love with

[LiGHT]

IMO just save it for someone you really care about more then anything. She isn't worth it because when you do love someone she is just gonna be the next girl.

[electric_feel01]

IMO just save it for someone you really care about more then anything. She isn't worth it because when you do love someone she is just gonna be the next girl.


I totally agree. Losing your virginity is suppose to be a special moment. It only happens once. You should wait until you meet someone who you really care for & share that moment with them.

[nachtspiegel]

If you have to ask us, you aren't ready in the first place.

[kyle95]

i wouldn't b so judgemental of the girl or the situation. obviously she's comfortable enough with u. there are intense relationships, but there are equally good relationships based on exactly those casual encounters which last a long time. it's just a different lifestyle. don't judge. if im 16 and i really wanted to have sex, and an 18 year old girl whom i can trust invites me, i'll be flattered mate and take up her invitation.

[Drakon]

I agree with Kyle cause how often does that come around
Plus it mite bring you closer together

[davidscott]

well i will say go for it...........
don't miss your chance..

[arabmoney11221]

i would go 4 it....

[tak011]

Ok guys, cheers for the advice. We've discussed it, and we're going to leave it at oral sex etc. I've told her I want to save my virginity, and she was cool with that. So if this goes ok, we might carry it on, and eventually who knows? But yeah, I'm going to save it.
Cheers again

[kyle95]

good for you mate, oral is better than nothing. i suspect you may still change your mind.

[CestDan]

Well, I don't think it would be a good idea. Your "first time" ( as you said) has to be with someone you love. Now, remember that sex is not just an act, It involves many feelings and values like love, affection, responsibility, respect and many others. My point here is that you wouldn't like to do this with some one who you don't really love. Man, don't do whatever you can be disappointed or repentant.