My mom mite adobt! AHH!!!!!!!!!

[punkjake]

I love my mom and my God but sometimes i wish i was atheist,my mom is trying to do a good work and help out theses poor kids ,my retarded cousin's kids.He won't get off his lazy ass and get a job*sorry but i'm mad*well she mite and hopefully not adopt the two kids,and we have a 3 bed room house!5+2=7 in a 3 bed room house!?! We have a bunk bed for when my 7 year old bro gets out of my parents room so he will be with my bigger little bro.I was whining ould do it he said he would think it out and talk to us fisrt.Also he mite losses his job because of those but heads at version bought out his job ,they mite sell it or keep it:mad:but yeah we are in a bad finacial time and we can't afford them also think of the mental effect on my little bro because they like 1 and 4!Maybe if it was one of them but she wants to get both!I know i should chill and stuff but i can't take it!I said why don't you just adobt my other cousins(some of my cousins are screwd up and have kids at a young age when they can't afford them,(21),right now as type i here talking about me to her sister about that.But she is drunk from a party of hopefully its the tequilla and wine :(,i need advice or something to get her to talk about it and maybe some advice to help me chill please help:( or am i just a big ass?

No body?PLZ Help!

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[nachtspiegel]

Picture yourself in their position.
I'm pretty sure that you'd want out.
Honestly, you're being selfish.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

um i dont now i mean i think she should think about it again

[byee]

Yeah, this would be a big change and a huge imposition on you and your life, Jake. I understand why the possibility would freak you out.

But, right now, it sounds like your mom recognizes that the kids are the victims here, and she sees a need to help out, really to rescue them. They are in a bad way. However, what I'm NOT hearing is that she's convinced that she's going to do this. She's just talking, right? She hasn't actually said she's going to definitely, right? So don't panic just yet.

Right now, you might want to ask her what she's thinking, and why. Hear her out, try to find out what her plan is (if anything), and maybe more importantly, what her time frame is. The young 'uns might only need to be with you for a short while, so eventhough it migth be a squeeze, at least it would be so temporarily.

FWIW, people who consider the needs of others, as your mom does with these cousins, also consider the needs of their own kids. So, she's probably aware of the impact of her (possible) decision. You just need to get some details, and maybe calmly share with her your concerns, too.

[Sapphire]

Ok, honestly, I think you aren't thinking about this clearly or properly.

Religion doesn't seem to be the reason behind your mums motives or your reaction so being an atheist wouldn't change anything here.

Your 7 year old brother would be able to cope with having cousins move in with you. Kids are resilient and can cope with much worse than this. And your parents would be there if he was upset or anything.

I appreciate that you are just concerned for your immediate family's welfare. But the finances are down to your parents. They'll know if they can afford to feed two extra mouths or not and they don't sound stupid. From the sounds of it they wouldn't adopt and feed two extra kids if it wouldn't do any good.

Try talking this over properly with your mum and dad. Ask them questions and listen to the answers they give. Try to get an insight into the bigger picture and how it would work in practice. You should feel free to express your own opinion as well, but don't expect it to sway them one way or another.

[Lady_Chaos]

Only 2 kids? My friends mother adopted 6 kids! So they now have 12 children! they all have to double up in the rooms. Only their dad works, so they have to shop at the value store and wear hand-me-downs and, trust me, they don't all get along. They have 2 kids in each room except in one where they have the twins and katelyn... their ages range from 21 to 8... i dont think 2 more kids will be *that* much of a difference, but I'm not you so I dont know... I think i'd be pretty po'ed if my rents decided to adopt a kid, but they think me and my sis are bad enough... =/

[punkjake]

I know I'm being kinda mean:(:( and i think those kids deserve a chance its just she really didn't ask me,also i she does it won't be permeate or anything just till he gets of his lazy butt and gets a job.I want those kids to have a good life but i also want my mom and to still be my parents because we are talking about babys like a year or younger and a 2 year old.And if my mom does do that i don't thing it will be the temporary i'm thinking(10 years),my dad wants to help but he wants to hear us,i love my mom,i hope to be as good as her but i just want her to at least ask my oppion i won't mind it but she needs to ask me about it

[Antares]

Don't be selfish. If those kids need help, and your mom can offer it, let them.
Id rather the kids grow up in a stable home sharing a room that in a horrible home.
If you have to share a room, so be it. Have some sympathy for the kids who didn't ask to be in the predicament they were born into.

[gone]

complicated, that sucks.. hope everything works out for you :)

[ThatDude93]

Your mother is doing a good thing an your being kind of selfish. But it definitely sounds like you need a bigger house.