you cant be anymore shy then me

[LiGHT]

i really like this girl and she liked me but when we hung out i was so shy and i barely talked because i liked her so much and she thought i didnt like her anymore so she backed off. what do i do?
i talked to her and she said that i should be myself but its just really hard to and its confusing.

also she still likes her ex what do i do?

[kyle95]

get out of ur shell mate! ur not a senior citizen, don't expect a young girl to sit there without conversation, jokes, fun, music, food, walking hand in hand .... r u getting my drift mate? do things with her she will like.

U have the advantage mate, there's a reason why he's her "ex" - he screwed up - don't u b doing the same. show her why so much better that he.

[kyle95]

get out of ur shell mate! ur not a senior citizen, don't expect a young girl to sit there without conversation, jokes, fun, music, food, walking hand in hand .... r u getting my drift mate? do things with her she will like.

U have the advantage mate, there's a reason why he's her "ex" - he screwed up - don't u b doing the same. show her why so much better that he.

[Blue63]

Okay, hopefully I can help you here. I to am really shy, and around girls I like, it's like I physically can't talk. So although I'm not the most outgoing person, I've found something that really helps me, maybe it will help you. Now, if you say something stupid it's not the end of the world, she's not going to hate you for one little mistake. Although when I'm around someone I have feelings for, I say everything I would say in my head first, just so I can "double check" it's nothing stupid, perverted, or silly. Now this doesn't mean don't be yourself. Although when I do this, I become more confident with myself, just a little bit, but that little bit helps. It makes me say more, and be a better conversationalist. Try this, it may help. Also, she's not going to analyze your every move, if you accidentally stutter or mispronounce a word, it's okay. Know that, and You should be okay. Good luck, I know how awful being shy is, best of luck.

[LiGHT]

get out of ur shell mate! ur not a senior citizen, don't expect a young girl to sit there without conversation, jokes, fun, music, food, walking hand in hand .... r u getting my drift mate? do things with her she will like.

U have the advantage mate, there's a reason why he's her "ex" - he screwed up - don't u b doing the same. show her why so much better that he.

dude thank you that made sense to me.

Okay, hopefully I can help you here. I to am really shy, and around girls I like, it's like I physically can't talk. So although I'm not the most outgoing person, I've found something that really helps me, maybe it will help you. Now, if you say something stupid it's not the end of the world, she's not going to hate you for one little mistake. Although when I'm around someone I have feelings for, I say everything I would say in my head first, just so I can "double check" it's nothing stupid, perverted, or silly. Now this doesn't mean don't be yourself. Although when I do this, I become more confident with myself, just a little bit, but that little bit helps. It makes me say more, and be a better conversationalist. Try this, it may help. Also, she's not going to analyze your every move, if you accidentally stutter or mispronounce a word, it's okay. Know that, and You should be okay. Good luck, I know how awful being shy is, best of luck.

ok i do say what I want to say before i say it but i just can't find anything right to say at the time. its like she says something i do then the conversation is done. i don't know how to continue conversations. ill try next time we hang out

[Blue63]

ok i do say what I want to say before i say it but i just can't find anything right to say at the time. its like she says something i do then the conversation is done. i don't know how to continue conversations. ill try next time we hang out

Okay good, let's see how I can help you here, besides learning to think on your feet there is always the "small talk" factor.

You: Hey
Her: Hey, what's up
You: Oh not much, you?
Her: Same, not much

Okay now what do you say here? It's up to you to continue the conversation, so use small talk until a good conversation opportunity pops up. Try something like this,

You: So, what did you do today?
or
You: How's your summer been going?

Little things like that to move the conversation along until you find common ground on something worth talking about. Try and avoid the awkward silences, also never bring up Politics or Religion, those are NO NO'S!

Also, if your have to much free time like me, you can always try and to think of some topics ahead of time, never hurts!

[LiGHT]

Thanks! Everything moves to fast for me sometimes and its hard for me to think but i think ill ask the summer question next time. And when we see movies how do I know if she wants me to kiss her or put my arm around her?

[Blue63]

Thanks! Everything moves to fast for me sometimes and its hard for me to think but i think ill ask the summer question next time. And when we see movies how do I know if she wants me to kiss her or put my arm around her?

Your very welcome, I know I have the exact same problem, so I know what you mean.

Well, that's not really my territory, as I have had only one experience with it and it did not go well, but with mistakes come knowledge, so I'll give it a go! :)

Well if your not sure if she likes you, she needs to make the first move, if your positive she likes you, that's when you act first.

If your not sure she likes you, she has to make the first move. If she leans her head on your shoulder, put your arm around her. If it's a scary movie and she covers her eyes with your chest, put your arm around her.

When to kiss her is a bit more complicated, I have heard a story of what to do, and what not to do. My friend had his arm around his new girlfriend during a movie, he decides to just go in for the kiss on the lips. It's dark, he goes in, misses, gets her upper lip and nose area, if you want to kiss her MAKE SURE SHE'S LOOKING AT YOU! I also have a friend who gave me a little formula for when you have your arm around her. If she snuggles closer, you snuggle closer. If she turns her head and looks at you, kiss her softly on the lips, gently pull away. If it went well and she is still looking at you with those passionate eyes, kiss her again, only longer, maybe open mouth. After that, I'm kinda lost, so best of luck!

[LiGHT]

O wow thank you. I didn't know what to do at all with the kissing. I just am terrified that it will happen to me what happened to your friend. I am positive she likes me but she is deciding between me and 1 other guy and it just makes me so mad because i think i love her. its crazy i don't know if i am in love because i have never been in love before but I think i am because i can't stop thinking about her even if i tried.

[Blue63]

O wow thank you. I didn't know what to do at all with the kissing. I just am terrified that it will happen to me what happened to your friend. I am positive she likes me but she is deciding between me and 1 other guy and it just makes me so mad because i think i love her. its crazy i don't know if i am in love because i have never been in love before but I think i am because i can't stop thinking about her even if i tried.

Well even if you do what happened to my friend, they still went out for 6 months, so it's not the end of the world.

Well if you like her, be bold, woo her, best of luck, let me know how it works out :yes:

[LiGHT]

We are supposed to meet at the beach tomorrow so I hope all goes well :)

[Blue63]

We are supposed to meet at the beach tomorrow so I hope all goes well :)

Good luck, you'll be fine, let us know how it goes! :D

[LiGHT]

=[ she didn't show up.
She said she wasn't feeling good. I was really looking forward to it, it sucks.

[Blue63]

=[ she didn't show up.
She said she wasn't feeling good. I was really looking forward to it, it sucks.

Aww LIGHT I'm sorry, that really sucks! Well if she said she wasnt feeling good at least you know it probably wasnt an excuse. But I know that stood up feeling must suck, I'm sorry, hope she feels better. I hope your next encounter will be something extravagant, best of luck! Keep me posted!

[LiGHT]

Noo you see she said she was going to go. I texted her and she said she wasn't to make it. I said it was ok, so later I texted her again to see whats up and she said "oh nm just going to the pool with 1 of my friends hbu?" =[ so i text her later and I asked what she did today and she said nothing..i asked how was the pool and she said she didn't go. I asked why and she said she wasn't feeling good. =[[[

[LiGHT]

I am really sorry for the double post i wanted it to be seen but we made plans tonight to go see fireworks but now she isn't going because of other plans. wow she did it again =[

[Reality]

Gotta be brute here, but she doesn't sound too interested in you. Especially if she's changing her plans to not be with you, and lying to you on top of that.

I'd say try a meet up one more time, and if she avoids it for one reason or another, then take the hint. If she does go, then good for you.

[Blue63]

Wow I'm really sorry LIGHT, this really sucks! I'm sorry, you have two choices the way I see it, both are risky.

You can be upfront with her, tell her that you can't make plans with someone just to blow them off. Say if you don't want to hang out with me tell me upfront, because I'm really getting mixed signals from you and I don't know what to do. Now you're both going to really vulnerable when you say this, but it's a direct answer and what I would say.

Now you can also try and give her a break, don't talk to her for like two weeks, play "Hard to get" Then call her and act very breezy, "Hey, long time no see, we should hang out soon." She might just need a break from you, and maybe then things will start working, it's more of a risk, but it's a choice.

Best of luck, keep us informed

[LiGHT]

Ok, I'm not going to talk to her as much because we almost always talk everyday.
So I'm just going to take a break and maybe she might too.. i reallllly like her and ill do whatever it takes and if she blows me off one more time im going to talk to her about it and say if you don't want to hangout you can just tell me.

[tyler27846]

im sorry light but it sounds like she not interested in you like that this happened to me earlier this year she probably just wants to be friends

[LiGHT]

I am going to try not talking to her for a while which will be hard but then ill just start talking to her again and then ill ask if she wants to hang out sometime. I hope this works because I really do love her.