Nothings ever good enough

[Lady_Chaos]

Okay, so my rents never seem to be okay with anything... They hate all my friends and nothing is good enough for them... If I try to have a good time then my dad always does something to ruin it... Like, one time I was having a BLAST with my friend and my boyfriend, we were just having an awesome time... and then my dad yelled at me... My mom always SAYS she likes my boyfriend... but whenever he does ANYTHING even just laugh, she gives me this look that says "You can do WAYYY better than that" Sure, he's a little weird and maybe just a tad bit eccentric but he's charming and cute... There's nothing wrong with that is there? Maybe it's because he's a year younger than me... or quite possibly it's because we've been together for so long and she doesn't think that we should still be together... or maybe shes even jealous... idk... But NOTHING is ever good enough... My dad expects me to practice my instruments 2 hours a day EACH. I'm sorry, but I don't want to put THAT much into them... If I get any lower than an A- my parents are disappointed in me... I know you are probably going to say "That means that they believe that you are an exceptionally bright girl" but IDC any more! I TRY hard... It's just never enough... not for them anyways... My mom tells petty white lies that she expects to make me feel better but they don't because I KNOW shes lying to me... What do I do? How do I make them see that I don't like their unreasonably high expectations? I need help... :(

[sebbie]

Your parents sound like they have your best interest at heart, and that is why they push you to practice instruments, get the best grades. What they probably do not realise is how it makes you resent them, I think you should sit down and speak with them, saying how you don't want to dedicated that much time towards music, how you try hard to get grades etc.

[James18]

Believe me, I've been there (just graduated from high school). Your parents really do have your best interests at heart, and the more you follow their advice now, the more you'll benefit down the road. With that said, some of this does seem a bit excessive. Perhaps you could drop an instrument? Don't be afraid to talk with them BUT DON'T get snippy, I've got a younger sister, and believe me, giving the parents attitude won't work.