what does it mean when???

[Gumleaf]

i have been quite down and depressed since last wednesday, yes, i suffer from depression but i know it hasn't been all that this time. last wednesday my girlfriend said to me "i want you to know i love you, but i kind of have a crush on <insert name>". i don't even know why she told me and i have been worrying about it ever since and over analysing it all and stuff. its got me seriously worried and i haven't said anything to anyone about it til today. its driving me mad because i don't even want to think about losing her, she is my best friend ever and i couldn't stand losing her, it would kill me. i don't know what to do or what to think. its probably worth mentioning that everything has been pretty normal between us since this happened if that helps?

[Snow Angel]

Sorry to hear :(

first off, why would she say that? no offence or anything but thats just rude. On the plus side it is good you guys have a trusty relationship.

You have a few options,

1. you can go on like you are
2. Confront her, ask her what she thinks of the relationship, and ask yourself if it is really worth going on with it, if its causing you grief and stress.
3. Hang on to the relationship and try and sort it out with her. Try and make her have a crush on you again :) just be prepared for the possibility that shes moved on.

sorry i can't help any more, but good luck!

[BlackenedSilver]

She was probably just telling you so that there are no secrets between you two. Or maybe a couple of her friends know that she has this crush and might mention it or it might come up at some point, so not wanting you to hear it from anyone else she told you. But by the sounds of it, I don't think you will be losing her anytime soon. She loves you and obviously doesnt want anything to come between you, like a silly little thing like a crush.
Though if it still bothers you that much talk to her about it. :)

[IAMWILL]

Awww Stephen :( don't worry.

If your girlfriend and yourself have been together for such a long time, and you love each other, a simple crush isn't going to get in the way. I've been in this situation before, where you get over protective, over conscious, and way to concerned. What you need to do is sit her down, and just explain your feelings to her. Tell her your really worried about this crush thing, you don't want to lose her because you love her, and you just want to here it from her that you two will stay together. After that talk, not immediately, but soon enough after, take her on some random adventure where you two will have fun, or to a nice resturaunt for a romantic dinner of some sort. You need to remind her how well you two work together, and how much you love each other. Someone once said: "Apart we diminish, but together we thrive". And remember, a crush is temporary, love is permanent.

[Sapphire]

Stephen, you know that she loves you. Look at everything you two have been through together. If Jo didn't love you then she wouldn't still be with you.

If you are still getting yourself too wound up over this then talk with her quietly about it.

And Will is right, crush is never a permanent thing and hardly a great contender to a loving relationship.

[AllThatIsLeft]

The reason why she told you was because she doesn't want any secrets between you two. Something like that kept secret could (very likely) destroy your relationship, because all the lies said (or not said) would accumulate and then when you did find out it would be one BIG doubt.
I been there, i thought i could hide it until it went away, well it got out. and it was the finishing point of that relationship.

She told you she loved you, because she cares about your relationship, and of course because she DOES love you.
Appreciate that she told you the truth, instead of hiding it. and you don't HAVE to prove your worthy of her love. Just remind her how much you care for her.

If it's reallllllllllly bugging you, talk to her.
Tell her what's worrying you,
I'm sure she'll understand, and she will try to make things better.

[kyle95]

mate, a crush doesn't mean the other person is reciprocating. give it time. also, it may be a red flag to you that she's not head over heals over you. so starting changing a few things about urself. depression isn't going 2 make her want u more. so snap out of it and go on the offensive

[TODAYisTHEday]

Maybe the problem is you. Maybe you have been neglecting her. These are questions you probably been asking your self. I think the problem here is that she finds another guy quite attractive and she loves you enough to tell you the truth. If she hadn't of told you that would show that she doesn't give a damn.

So if she had the courage to tell you that then she obviously cares for you. Believe her when she says she loves you. Keep going on in the relationship. See what happens next. That is mostly the only way to deal with this problem.