jjmcray
June 26th, 2009, 07:57 PM
This question is directed mostly towards girls.
Anyway, I found out that my ex, before she broke up with me (apparently she does this with all her bfs), found someone else to like before she broke up with me.
Maybe that didn't make sense. I'll try to explain again.
My ex has had several boyfriends before, but before she breaks up with any of them, she tries to find another guy to "have feelings for," and essentially to fall back on.
So basically, while I was dating my ex, spending my time and money on her, she was going around looking for a guy she could start dating after me, since she didn't like me anymore. But she didn't want to break up with me until she found another guy. And no, she didn't just point at a guy and say "that's the one!" The guy she "fell back on" had previously dated her before. They actually started hanging out together and talking, like talk talking, about how they wanted to get back together and still had feelings for each other and stuff. All behind my back.
The reason I ask is because my feelings are mixed on this. I didn't know if I should be mad that she was cheating on me, because I didn't know if that was really cheating or not, or if I should have just ignored it and moved on with my life. And yes, I am over her and have no romantic feelings for her whatsoever. I have even started going on dates with other girls since we broke up. Anyway, I found out about all this the night before prom, which really put me out of the mood. And everyone was asking what was wrong with me. I wanted to tell them about what I found out, but I didn't know what to call it. Was she cheating?
I think I can consider it cheating.
She should have broken up with me when she decided she didn't like me anymore. NOT get involved with another guy and make sure "he was the one" and THEN break up with me.
Recently she has hinted that she wanted me to unblock her online, add her back on MySpace, and just start talking again, etc etc etc.
I found out about this whole "cheating" thing after she hinted at this.
So of course, I told some of my friends about how I thought she was basically cheating on me. Some of them are her friends too, and she probably found out that I think she cheated on me and am telling all my friends.
I would have no problem with unblocking her and etc., but now I don't know if she will be mad at me or not for telling all my friends things that may or may not have been true.
-What do you think?
-Was she cheating?
-Should I be ashamed for telling all my friends about something that may or may not have been true? (It's not like I was spreading a rumor throughout my entire school... I was just telling a few of my friends about what she did, some of which happen to be her friends too.)
-Should I start talking to her again, or just keep ignoring her?
And, just for kicks, she broke up with me saying "we should take a break" (even though we all know what that means...) so technically she's been cheating on me with every guy she's dated since we broke up! :P
--Sorry for the novel.
Anyway, I found out that my ex, before she broke up with me (apparently she does this with all her bfs), found someone else to like before she broke up with me.
Maybe that didn't make sense. I'll try to explain again.
My ex has had several boyfriends before, but before she breaks up with any of them, she tries to find another guy to "have feelings for," and essentially to fall back on.
So basically, while I was dating my ex, spending my time and money on her, she was going around looking for a guy she could start dating after me, since she didn't like me anymore. But she didn't want to break up with me until she found another guy. And no, she didn't just point at a guy and say "that's the one!" The guy she "fell back on" had previously dated her before. They actually started hanging out together and talking, like talk talking, about how they wanted to get back together and still had feelings for each other and stuff. All behind my back.
The reason I ask is because my feelings are mixed on this. I didn't know if I should be mad that she was cheating on me, because I didn't know if that was really cheating or not, or if I should have just ignored it and moved on with my life. And yes, I am over her and have no romantic feelings for her whatsoever. I have even started going on dates with other girls since we broke up. Anyway, I found out about all this the night before prom, which really put me out of the mood. And everyone was asking what was wrong with me. I wanted to tell them about what I found out, but I didn't know what to call it. Was she cheating?
I think I can consider it cheating.
She should have broken up with me when she decided she didn't like me anymore. NOT get involved with another guy and make sure "he was the one" and THEN break up with me.
Recently she has hinted that she wanted me to unblock her online, add her back on MySpace, and just start talking again, etc etc etc.
I found out about this whole "cheating" thing after she hinted at this.
So of course, I told some of my friends about how I thought she was basically cheating on me. Some of them are her friends too, and she probably found out that I think she cheated on me and am telling all my friends.
I would have no problem with unblocking her and etc., but now I don't know if she will be mad at me or not for telling all my friends things that may or may not have been true.
-What do you think?
-Was she cheating?
-Should I be ashamed for telling all my friends about something that may or may not have been true? (It's not like I was spreading a rumor throughout my entire school... I was just telling a few of my friends about what she did, some of which happen to be her friends too.)
-Should I start talking to her again, or just keep ignoring her?
And, just for kicks, she broke up with me saying "we should take a break" (even though we all know what that means...) so technically she's been cheating on me with every guy she's dated since we broke up! :P
--Sorry for the novel.