Are you born this way?

[Blkbeltteen]

Ive heard countless debates from me and my friends, And we discuss. "Are you born gay or is it a decision later on in life"

I personally think its both.. As well as how you were raised...

Any Opinions?

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think born because i have always been different since kindergarden

[pkid]

I would think its both. But I mostly say its born. But then again, a straight guy may be persuaded to do "gay" things and he might like it and choose to live his life as bi or gay.

[byee]

Lots of opinions on this, but the research tends to rather convincingly indicate that sexuality is not a 'choice', it is not something that you consciously choose. So, if it's something you're born with, or is the result of life experiences is still unknown, but some very good researchers are all pretty sure it's not something that's 'chosen'.

Also, one doesn't choose one's sexuality based on sexual experience alone, if you do 'something gay' and enjoy it, it doesn't mean you 'choose' to become gay as a result. It's the other way around, people find they enjoy *whatever* based on the emotional piece of what it means to be them, how they identify themselves, even if they're not really aware of that at the time.

Also, all of this is true regardless of one's sexuality. One doesn't 'choose' to be straight, either. It just is.

There's confusion because at some point everyone just knows what they are, they're able to acknowledge their sexuality. So, people confuse this acknowledgement with 'choice'. But, the two are different. Acknowledging what has become fairly obvious doesn't mean either that you've arrived there by making a 'choice', nor does it mean you necessarily know how you made that choice in the first place, either. It just is.

[MoveAlong]

I think that people confuse "choosing to be gay" with "accepting that you're gay".

I seriously don't know, but I know that you don't CHOOSE to be gay.

[Neverender]

Ive heard countless debates from me and my friends, And we discuss. "Are you born gay or is it a decision later on in life"

I personally think its both.. As well as how you were raised...

Any Opinions?

Well I'm not sure how you were raised has much to do with it. I know of Gay couples who adopted children and they all identify themselves as straight.

I would think its both. But I mostly say its born. But then again, a straight guy may be persuaded to do "gay" things and he might like it and choose to live his life as bi or gay.

If a straight 12-year-old gets "into it" with another boy, will he choose to be gay? Probably not unless hes already gay.

Because theres one big problem with your theory, and that is: Who would choose to be gay if he had the choice to be straight?

or if you still dont get it:

Who would choose to be hated by many homophobic christian nutjobs, be picked on by almost everyone and be left as a possible social outcast?

[The Joker]

I don't understand choosing to do it. I am Christian, and while my mom is totally OK with it, I'm not sure about her boyfriend or the church itself.

[YourFriend]

i think it's both

[The Harlequin]

Whatever it is it 'ent choice, I know because I've ALWAYS liked both sexes to some extent, but just thought it was a phase... A phase that I now realise has spanned my entire lifetime (X^} so yeah,

Not choice...