Christianity

[agoodteen105]

I am Christian and my family tells me to date virgins, but I only really feel comfortable around chicks who are hot but experienced.....With virgins, they make you feel like even touching is inappropriate......I like cool personalities and I don't care if a chick has been with 15 guys if she's cool........

Are my parents right or should I just stick to the way I feel?

[kyle95]

there's appropriate behaviour to consider. 'virgins' proclaim themselves? why should u care whether a girl is 1 or not? a nice girl is a nice girl mate. and if u like her, truly like her, then u ought 2 b patient esp if she's a virgin and b supportive of her wish n not some conniving jerk that only after 1 thing.

[TODAYisTHEday]

You should do what you feel as right.. Your parent can't control who you love, but don't go dating some whore that is like doing it for money. She probably wouldn't love you there. Anyways.. If you want to talk PM me.

[agoodteen105]

Someone said that by only dating "experienced" non-virgins, I will be shutting out some nice girls.........Anyone else agree?

[pkid]

Well its your choice. But if you think your parents are right about things then you should follow them, if you think that your parents are just being overprotective then go for it.

[The Joker]

How do they, or you, even know they are virgins?

[agoodteen105]

How do they know? Because most chicks don't lie like guys do about their virginity/lack of virginity.....

[byee]

Someone said that by only dating "experienced" non-virgins, I will be shutting out some nice girls.........Anyone else agree?

Some thoughts here. First, someone's 'goodness' isn't determined by their virginity (or lack thereof). So, by excluding anyone based on just one criteria (like sexual experience) means you risk excluding a whole lot of other, potentially desirable qualities that have nothing whatsoever to do with virginity. But, that goes with any type of broadly based discrimination. By excluding anyone based on anything that's so broad, you risk eliminating many other fine attributes.

With regard to your original question, I think the issue is really one of family values and how you and they negotiate your differences about them. I think it's Ok to disagree with your parents values, but I think it's also important to remember that if you value the relationship you have with them, you have to go thru a process with them to resolve these differences. Just dismissing them b/c you disagree with them is a recipe for real conflict, and you have to ask yourself if it's really worth it. Esp. since there are alternatives, like talking about it.

Maybe you and them should sit down and talk about this, calmly. Find out why they feel as they do, where this value comes from, and how important it is for them. Liikewise, you can share with them your perspective, and see if you ll canlt work it out based on an understanding of all this and how important it is. People can have different values or opinions about things, yet still disagree and have it work out Ok. You're not quite ready for marriage just yet, and they know this.

[Currahee]

Hey, you're not alone....

My parents are Catholic, I'm Christian...so you can imagine the fights we get into....

They talk about girls, mass, spirituality, baptizism, etc...
And when they get to girls, they say only to date (And I quote) "Clean" girls....

What I like to think is that if who you date and what you do with your date does not cause any friction with your Christian life, then its OK....

If it does, however, I would advise you to stop. And if the girl is a Christian, then thats even better...but you're certainly not restricted to Christian girls...
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Hope this helps!