what have i done!!!

[sienna.]

My boyfriend Coop hit me the other day..
and then as soon as it happened, he took off.
and he hasn't been home since, he wont talk to me.
answer my class, texts anything!!!!

and the other night i got really upset.
so i called my best friend Ryan up, and he came over.
I love Ryan, he is 19. and he is just a big teddy bear!!
he looks scary. Tattoos, peircings, very muscly.
but he is so beautiful. keep in mind he has got a girlfriend.

any way, we were in my room and i was crying and he was talking,
then i don't know why, but i kissed him, and he kissed me back.
but this wasn't just one kiss.
this was like a ten minute kiss.

then the next thing i knew, he was ontop of me, the clothes were coming off...
and his hand when up my leg and up my shorts.... and ohhh...

then after that i pulled away and realized what the fuck am i doing?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

we didn't have sex, but i feel like we did, i feel so horrible.

i asked ryan to stay the night,(i pretty much cried myself to sleep.)
because at the end of the day i needed my best friend.


I MAKE MYSELF SICK!

why did i do this!!
i keep screwing up!!!
will Cooop ever forgive me. THAT IS IF HE EVER COMES HOME!
because i don't think i will ever forgive myself.

why am i making such horrible decisions.!!!
i am a horrible orrible person!!!

[Sapphire]

Another episode of abuse from another boyfriend...
Another episode of you cheating on your boyfriend...

This all sounds like a bad dream. It just gets worse and worse.

[ILOVEYOU]

oh, i'm sorry, but if i was you, i would wait a little, guys always think about the things that happens between them and their girlfriends, so, just wait, and dont sleep with another guy meanwhile you're looking for a way to get your boyfriend back, ok ok it happened, but no more, just try to wait, like another week, then if he didn't come, so you can contact him again, if he rejected you, then ask Ryan to talk to him, to calm him down, i think Ryan isnt mad at you. . , umm, and dont be mad at yourself, because you are the only one who can help yourself at first. so just try to concentrate and think about your bf coming back to you, it works, trust me.
i hope it helped, Good Luck

[HelloWorld123456]

Get a new boyfriend if he hits you he doesnt love you ... Dont submit yourself to domestic abuse ... Tell him that you and him are over ... IN my opinion you should find a guy that loves you with all his body and soul and doesnt hit you ... Thats just plain sick to hit your girlfriend ... And about the cheating stuff I think it was quite excused ... (In a way) I am not saying that cheating is ever justified or good but you were under a shock after being hit ... If I were you I would write the sentence THE END in this story ...Today was only 1 hit tommorrow maybe 10 and who knows maybe he will hit you will stuff or anything ... Thats how I see it in my opinion ... I saw my friend being slowly killed by her boyfriend by him hitting her ... she had bruises everywhere like big Blue bruises on her stomach and in the end she had to be recover to the ITU (Intense Treatment Unit) for her to open her eyes ...

[Aves]

Wow, ummmm.... I don't know what you can do, if a guy ignores you, he might not forgive you for a while, or ever. My advice, live life and move on

[Bougainvillea]

Well, you were trying to rid your mind of trauma by being sexual. Coop HIT you. That's terrible. You are not a bad person. And think about Coop. Did he really look like he liked hitting you. He's probably ashamed of himself. I would be too if I hit a pretty one like yourself. :) I hope you feel better

[Ripplemagne]

That's, actually, a very typical reaction. By nature, a man is a woman's protector and provider. He is the hunter/gatherer, who brings home the goods. He is the one to draw sword against anyone who attempts to do the domicile wrong.

It may sound sexist, but there's no escaping the fact that gender roles are a fact of life. In a relationship, the woman sees the man as her comfort; the person she feels safe with. Whose arms she can go into and feel like the world can never hurt her again.

Now, when the man becomes her aggressor and is no longer the protector, but her foil, it complicates things because she is getting mixed signals. When your protector shows that they are no better than your oppressor, you lose hope and you seek comfort elsewhere. It's not always the same way, but this is usually where cheating stems from with women.

When your friend, Ryan, came to be your savior and held you close, putting his shield over you to protect you, you felt safe. And in that comfort, you felt close to him and further opened up to him.

However, don't use that as justification for it. That is, merely, an explanation. Cheating, under all circumstances, is no good.

Now, any man who strikes a woman is off the table because of the aforementioned reason. As such, implore you to not allow him the chance to do it again. I am certain that he departed because he was shocked by his actions and had to think about it, but such things are never an isolated incident and you can't let him think it's okay. When you take someone back after they do that, you show them that it's okay for them to do it again.

Good luck, bella.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Sienna!! Come on girl get your head straight!

You can't seek comfort on another guy every time one of your boyfriend's ignores you.
I know that Coop leaving made you feel alone, but you have to suck it up and not be with another guy. Good thing you stopped, but don't let things get even worse.
It's in your hands to make it stop.
I'm not going to blame Ryan, or Coop for your wrong behavior.

Wait for Coop, talk it out. Don't do what you did with Ryan again.
It's never okay to hit a girl, and i'm sure Coop realized that, but you can't say "it's okay" either.

You are both at fault, and you need communication, stop trying to push each other out of your heads.

Or else your relationship will fail.

[sam i am]

I say screw him the bf got a problem and can't respect u. A man aint a man if he hits his girl,wife,etc. And as for ur friend he should of realize first on what he's doing. Ur emotionally weak and vulnerable. he should of stop because now u got more problems. When ur bf is probably the biggest thing u wanna deal with.So talk to ur friend and tell him that what happen was mistake. And say "i hope i didn't cause u any problems" iight well good luck babe i hope no not hope i Want it too work out for ya ;)

[kyle95]

that's not a bf. bfs dont hit girls and u shouldnt accept that, not now not ever. so get over him and move on. as for ur frnd, he should have known better.

so, quit blaming urself 4 the jerks in this world and learn to like urself more :)

[TODAYisTHEday]

:/ You are just depressed because he hit you and are ?maybe? making your self thinking its making him jealous but Idk 2) maybe you think he doesn't love you any more. 3) Don't think you're a bad person.. You did the right thing by stopping before anything happened. So don't think you're screwed up. You're a good person.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Ugh i hate how most of this comments are not relevant.

does any one of you know the full story?
from what i see very little is helpful at all.

[Truth]

Sienna, after he hit you, he obviously felt horrible and left. Maybe he felt that you were no longer worth it, because you honestly keep making horrible choices. So, i suggest, wait for him, and say sorry. He'll say sorry to; if he loves you. But you need to stop cheating aswell, cause if my gf cheated on me, i dont know if any guy who really likes the girl and isnt stupid could forgive her. I doubt i could. But just wait for coop cause if he can put up with a ED he'll be back. Cause any guy can forgive a girl if they say sorry and mean it, but if they don't mean it... that's another story, and too many girls don't mean it. So, make sure you mean it if you telll him sorry.

And @ everyone saying it's horrible to hit a woman, i know you'll have done it by the time you're dead, don't kid yourself. I doubt he was in his right mind if he did it.

[Ripplemagne]

And @ everyone saying it's horrible to hit a woman, i know you'll have done it by the time you're dead, don't kid yourself. I doubt he was in his right mind if he did it.

Just because you did it doesn't mean that everyone else does. I've been in positions where girls have started throwing full fledged punches at me and I didn't hit them. Rationalizing a mistake you've made by instilling in your head that everyone does it at some point is completely inane.

[Bougainvillea]

That's happened to me too. I just held her. Like, wrapped my arms around hers. I can't hit a woman. Maybe if she tried to kill me. Like, stab me lol

[Ripplemagne]

That's different. Restraint is not hitting them.

[Sapphire]

The thing about this thread is that we have only got half the picture.

He hit her during an argument over her ED. He wants her to get better while she's there shouting at him "i should just die, i don't care."
Anyone in his position is going to feel gut-wrenchingly frustrated and helpless.

Him hitting her was sort of like a "wake up" call.
While still not being ok for him to do it is perfectly understandable and I doubt he would do the same again.

[tyler27846]

You should find some one new who will treat you good your bf is an idiot for hurting a pretty girl like you

[Truth]

Just because you did it doesn't mean that everyone else does. I've been in positions where girls have started throwing full fledged punches at me and I didn't hit them. Rationalizing a mistake you've made by instilling in your head that everyone does it at some point is completely inane. You're 18, you're not even married yet i assume. Why is it you think you'll never be angered or out of your right mind and not hit a girl?

[Rutherford The Brave]

You're 18, you're not even married yet i assume. Why is it you think you'll never be angered or out of your right mind and not hit a girl?

Because not only is it morally wrong its abuse. If its self defense then its self defense, but if your angry. You walk out of the room you Never put your hands on someone in a way you wouldnt do to yourself. If you hit a girl you will pay the consequences. It is as simple as that, saying your angry or out of your mind will never justify hitting a lady.

[Truth]

Because not only is it morally wrong its abuse. If its self defense then its self defense, but if your angry. You walk out of the room you Never put your hands on someone in a way you wouldnt do to yourself. If you hit a girl you will pay the consequences. It is as simple as that, saying your angry or out of your mind will never justify hitting a lady. Sigh, why is it people don't listen. I never said it was justified. Just stop posting about it unless you're over 60 and have never hit a woman/your wife. But, let's stop going offtopic.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Sigh, why is it people don't listen. I never said it was justified. Just stop posting about it unless you're over 60 and have never hit a woman/your wife. But, let's stop going offtopic.

What are you talking about, there are tons of people that are over 60 and have never struck a woman. Why don't you stop posting your saying that all people are abusive. When they are not, some people have a little something called self control ever heard of it?

[sebbie]

In my opinion there is only 2 reasons you should ever hit someone.

1) Self defence.
2) In a controlled contest, like a boxing match etc.

Regardless of the back story and the hit being a wakeup call, I don't think it makes it right, how many psychologists/councillors do you see hitting their patients ? Hitting people is not right.

In my opinion you should not be in a relationship with someone who hits you under any circumstances. As with what happened with the other guy, I am going to guess that emotions were running high and you probably sought comfort in him and it went out of hand. I would just try to forget that.

[Ripplemagne]

You're 18, you're not even married yet i assume. Why is it you think you'll never be angered or out of your right mind and not hit a girl?

Sigh, why is it people don't listen. I never said it was justified. Just stop posting about it unless you're over 60 and have never hit a woman/your wife. But, let's stop going offtopic.

It doesn't matter if I'm not married. Read again: I've been in positions where women were throwing haymakers at my face and I did not strike them. I've been in positions where I've wanted to knock some broad's block off, but I didn't do it. In fact, even with men, I don't throw the first hit.

It's clear that your mind has been poisoned by someone in your family who is trying to justify their actions. Probably your father or grandfather. Next time they tell you that junk, tell them that they're wrong. My grandfather never hit my grandmother and my biological and step father both knew/know better than to hit my mother.

You're thirteen? Don't force yourself down such a path or you're going to wind up in jail or under alimony.

[Diadora]

Just throwing it out there to some comments, if I recall correctly from an earlier reading
she has an eating disorder, but coop loves her so much all he wants if for her to stop, and he got so fed up he slapped her, but was mortified at what he did and ran away. Not saying he was right but it sounds like he was trying to give a reality check and then realized how bad what he had just done was and had no idea what to do. Just wasn't sure if some knew the situation, and if I got it wrong all apologies.

[antimonic]

I've been in positions where women were throwing haymakers at my face and I did not strike them.

Lol pansy!

[Ripplemagne]

Lol pansy!

If I were a pansy, I'd have hit them. Only a coward needs to assert physical dominance over a woman. Run along, mudkip. You're way out of your league.

[lamboman43]

If I were a pansy, I'd have hit them. Only a coward needs to assert physical dominance over a woman. Run along, mudkip. You're way out of your league.

That was a way unnessesary insult!

[AllThatIsLeft]

That was a way unnessesary insult!

not.

[lamboman43]

not.

Calling him a mudkip isn't an insult? I think it is. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mudkips

[Ripplemagne]

That was a way unnessesary insult!

Do you remember what happened last time you got on your high horse with me? I'm giving you a pass. I suggest you take it.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Calling him a mudkip is nice? Far from.

calling him a pansy because he wouldn't hit a woman is nice ?
Far from.

[lamboman43]

calling him a pansy because he wouldn't hit a woman is nice ?
Far from.

Thats why I reported both.
Do you remember what happened last time you got on your high horse with me? I'm giving you a pass. I suggest you take it.

And you dont scare me. I suggest you not threaten me.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Thats why I reported both.


And you dont scare me. I suggest you not threaten me.

that's ridiculous.

[Ripplemagne]

Ahaha. Alright, I'm not going to spam Sienna's thread because she doesn't need a fourteen year old kid's nonsense clogging her thread. But you've got a bullseye on you, now, kid.

[lamboman43]

Ahaha. Alright, I'm not going to spam Sienna's thread because she doesn't need a fourteen year old kid's nonsense clogging her thread. But you've got a bullseye on you, now, kid.

Bring it!

[antimonic]

If I were a pansy, I'd have hit them. Only a coward needs to assert physical dominance over a woman. Run along, mudkip. You're way out of your league.

Lol nooooo, instead your the kinda pussy who stands there and lets himself get his arse handed to him by a girl :D wow arent you a manly man!! Very courageous, standing there, letting them punch you lol if only others would follow by this example! I mean, wars would be over alot quicker if one side just threw down their weapons and decided to be "courageous and not strike back" :P

what a self righteous retard lol

Run along, mudkip.
A tip, if you want to insult someone, calling them a pokemon doesnt exactly send of the right messages now does it, kid? lol

[Ripplemagne]

Lol nooooo, instead your the kinda pussy who stands there and lets himself get his arse handed to him by a girl wow arent you a manly man!! Very courageous, standing there, letting them punch you lol if only others would follow by this example! I mean, wars would be over alot quicker if one side just threw down their weapons and decided to be "courageous and not strike back"

what a self righteous retard lol

You enjoy looking like an imbecile, don't you? When did I ever say I just stood there and let them hit me. Reading comprehension is your friend. Lets review, shall we?

I've been in positions where women were throwing haymakers at my face and I did not strike them.

No where does it say that I don't restrain them.

[lamboman43]

Lol nooooo, instead your the kinda pussy who stands there and lets himself get his arse handed to him by a girl :D wow arent you a manly man!! Very courageous, standing there, letting them punch you lol if only others would follow by this example! I mean, wars would be over alot quicker if one side just threw down their weapons and decided to be "courageous and not strike back" :P

what a self righteous retard lol


A tip, if you want to insult someone, calling them a pokemon doesnt exactly send of the right messages now does it, kid? lol

Just let it be. He obviously doesn't want to hurt a women (which IS smart). PS. I've made it into ripplemagne's siggy. w00t

[antimonic]

You enjoy looking like an imbecile, don't you?

I enjoy it as much as you enjoy looking like a pansy retard :D

No where does it say that I don't restrain them.

Ohhhh so instead you like holding their hands or hugging them to stop them punching you! now isnt that sweet of you :wub:

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Mmkay, people, that's enough. This thread is just turning into insults and has been off-topic for about an entire page now. Sorry to ruin your fun.

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