Fuck her.

[Anonim]

Here's the thing: my mom got herself a new boyfriend and she's always hanging out with him instead of taking care of her children. We're three. Her boyfriend is 7 years younger than her and she thinks he's fantastic. She even wants to marry him! I've tried to make her understand that he's not ready to be a father, but she's stupid. What i hate the most is when she leaves me in charge of her two sons, my brothers. The smaller one has diabetis and i have to take a really good care of him because she's always too busy with her boyfriend in a bar, and she comes back from parties at 5 a.m.
What i need is to get ridd of him, or to get away from him, but she doesn't let me. Fuck. I hate her now, she has change so much: she smokes now, dresses like a whore, she acts like one, she doesn't let me hang out with my friends and i've tried to talk to her but she's like a fucking wall with the same phrase written in the middle "I'm the mother here, you must do everything i want to". Fuck her. She says she will stay with him forever and that my opinion won't change shit, so, should i let my guard down and accept the man thought i don't like him or should i go away to nowhere?

[AllThatIsLeft]

What you need to do, is talk to your mother.

It is not fair for you to take responsibility, but you can't rebel against your mother either. Think of your brothers, could you leave them like that?

You got to talk to yoir mother seriously, like an adult would. Pointless whining,
moaning and complaining will get you no where. You need to make your mother understand that she is wrong, and that you won't alwyas be around.

[Anonim]

i've tried to talk to her, but she won't listen.

[byee]

Love can make you crazy.


Your mom has obviously fallen for this guy, and as a result, she's lost her mind. Well, maybe not exactly, but her feelings have overpowered her judgement here. She doesn't see the effect her choices are having on her young 'uns. You have to be peristent here in calmly shining a light on that.

Be clear, be direct, and do not be angry, do not be judgemental, and do not be preachy. She cannot see what's going on, and the only chance of that happening is if you deliver the info without any emotion of your own.

Be peristent, stay with it, and maybe involve your brothers, and any other relatives who might be able to shine some light here, too.

[Anonim]

thanks a lot! both of you! :D

[punkjake]

Here's the thing: my mom got herself a new boyfriend and she's always hanging out with him instead of taking care of her children. We're three. Her boyfriend is 7 years younger than her and she thinks he's fantastic. She even wants to marry him! I've tried to make her understand that he's not ready to be a father, but she's stupid. What i hate the most is when she leaves me in charge of her two sons, my brothers. The smaller one has diabetis and i have to take a really good care of him because she's always too busy with her boyfriend in a bar, and she comes back from parties at 5 a.m.
What i need is to get ridd of him, or to get away from him, but she doesn't let me. Fuck. I hate her now, she has change so much: she smokes now, dresses like a whore, she acts like one, she doesn't let me hang out with my friends and i've tried to talk to her but she's like a fucking wall with the same phrase written in the middle "I'm the mother here, you must do everything i want to". Fuck her. She says she will stay with him forever and that my opinion won't change shit, so, should i let my guard down and accept the man thought i don't like him or should i go away to nowhere?

well you asked my oppion ,so I'm giving ot you face flat!Dude don't you ever say that if she died at this momment?If she loves him don't try to tear that from her,also she maybe annyoing but I bet you she still loves you,now for your side you need to maybe get a little more mature about taking care of your sibblings,but the fact that she acts like a whore,says I'm the mother phrase,and smoking is not cool!So try to sit down with and talk out your issues ok?Hope this helped.PS don't go away because theres no place like home XD

[Tian]

Ok, look first you need to talk with your mom, tell her what you feel about this problem. Talk calmy and be sincere. Also talk with her about the dangers of smoking, and the dangers of not taking care of her childrens how can it affect their opinions of their mom and how it can affect the love that they have to your mom. Then you need to talk with her boyfriend. Tell him the same thing you said to your mom. Also tell this to both of them. Leaving a child that haves diabetes in care of a minor can be dangerous, sometimes adolocents like you dont know what to do when a person have a low sugar level and they are feeling bad. Tell to your mom that she needs to spent some time with her family. That your life is too complicated without the love and care of her. Also I recomend you to visit a counselor or a psicologist and like that they can also give you some recomendations. Be calm, patient and positive. These three attitudes really help to solve problems like yours. Dont hate your mom every Human MAKES SOME REALLY BIG ERRORS!

Good luck!
Tian.
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