If You're A Bisexual Teen

[The Harlequin]

Hiya, recently (as I've mentioned a thousand times on this forum) I've just come out as bi, but I have found talking to a fellow bisexual who I know a very good adhesive to the anxiety of realising my sexuality. So if you don't have that someone to talk to, here's the place to find people who understand and empathise...

Also (general question) which do you tend to prefer, your own gender or the opposite?

[kitkat]

im bi, but i tend to like the same gender ;)

[Anonim]

If you get easily turned on by a girl and hardly by a boy.......... It doesn't mean you're 100% lesbian..? right? :S

[nachtspiegel]

It changes. Sometimes, I'm slightly more attracted to the same sex, and sometimes, I'm slightly more attracted to the opposite sex. Notice 'slightly.'

[Gangsturr10]

No, and sexuality isnt just by what turns you on ,you need to be emotionally attracted to them too. Like me guys turn me on like crazy but idk if I them emotinally so I think i'm bi-curious

[The Harlequin]

As Gangsturr10 points out, it's the emotional side of it as well as just the 'what makes you horny' bit. I'm turned on so easily by guys its unreal, but there's only one who I feel I'm emotionally attracted to as well, whereas I find it's much more common for me to feel an emotional click with a girl and think sexual later on in my assessment of them (X^,

Have you ever asked out a same-sex potential with a negative result and how did you deal with it?

[Gangsturr10]

yeah I always j/o to gay porn but idk if i've ever been emotionally attracted to any guys but there have been 2 guys that Ialways got nervous when I was with them and Ihad been friends with them for awhile when it startd, lol i'm getting nervous just thinking about them

[Zazu]

I've always been more towards my own gender, sometimes it will vary though.

[tomm]

It depends a lot, but i think i'm atracted for both sides equally. I don't mind the sex, if it's cute, i'm on! xD

[sildavin]

I find that im more attracted to my own gender more so then a female. idk why..but guys are just so much sexier sometimes....

[aaaaaaaaaaaaaaagg]

I'm bi and I've had a 4 month relationships with girls and guys. I think that I'm slightly more attracted to males though.

[The Joker]

Well, I currently lean towards liking guys more at the moment.

[Wonder.]

40% straight, 60% gay. That pretty much explains it.

[The Harlequin]

Lol! Lovin' your signature, BlackBat8 (X^>

Was anyone here outed from the closet before they were ready, you know like peeps finding out and exposin you to the rest of your school/family...? I ask because now I worry that I won't get the chance to explain it how I want to explain it, picking the best way to tell people can be nasty...

Do you guys/girls (oohhhh yeahhhh!!!) told people in different ways? Like one person black&white 'I'm bi' and then a more subtle approach with others?

And if you haven't come out yet who do you think you'd tell first if anyone?

[YourFriend]

Lol! Lovin' your signature, BlackBat8 (X^>

Was anyone here outed from the closet before they were ready, you know like peeps finding out and exposin you to the rest of your school/family...? I ask because now I worry that I won't get the chance to explain it how I want to explain it, picking the best way to tell people can be nasty...

Do you guys/girls (oohhhh yeahhhh!!!) told people in different ways? Like one person black&white 'I'm bi' and then a more subtle approach with others?

And if you haven't come out yet who do you think you'd tell first if anyone?

no i dont tell any1, not i intend to, omg its just gettting in my head how it would be when some1 knew! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!

[The Harlequin]

no i dont tell any1, not i intend to, omg its just gettting in my head how it would be when some1 knew! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!

Woah woah DUDE! Chillax for a second, man,
Where abouts are you in the world? 'cos that can seriously affect how people would react. There is no hurry to come out and i strongly suggest you don't atm until you feel perfectly comfortable with it yourself,

Look at it this way:
If we lived in past decades, like the 70s for example, people wouldn't understand us at all - let alone accept us! This is the best era for people like us, where if you're bi or gay the world is like 'So what?' an that's the way it should be,

I'm not saying there aren't still prejudices and homophobics out there because there are, and if you happen to be around them now you have Harlequin's sympathy, but I quote a song by The Calling called Things Will Go My Way:

"So hold me now,
And say it's not forever,
'Cos I know someday,
In time,
Things will go my way..."

>GOD i love that song, it helped me come to terms with my sexuality so much... Soz, a bit of an aside there<

[Gangsturr10]

Well it was before I even thought I liked guys. My brother and sister when I was like in 5th grade went around both the middle school and high school that I was gay. So I didnt have the easiest time before in school just cause my siblings thought it would be funny.

[morganism]

I am bi, but I tend to like boys a teeeny bit more than girls. (i am a girl)

[The Joker]

I would tell my mom first.

[bobbyredsnow]

my own gender is what i lean more towards, but i don't feel gay all the time so i say i'm bi....... 80% gay 20% straight

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i like guys like totally much better gurl

[punkjake]

What if you find some guy actractivr but you would NEVER date them or like them emtioninaly?Am i bi or just hormones

[pcd31]

I think I might be bi, there are some... ok a lot of guys that turn me on, but I doubt I'll ever date a guy because of all the prejudice against gays. So I'm sticking to girls.

[RandomChick242]

I have a prefrence for my own gender I must say lol =P

idk why I just like girls more lol

[RandomChick242]

What if you find some guy actractivr but you would NEVER date them or like them emtioninaly?Am i bi or just hormones

Well I mean you can think that someone of the same gender is hot and it won't mean anything so prolly not

[The Joker]

What if you find some guy actractivr but you would NEVER date them or like them emtioninaly?Am i bi or just hormones

It is a hormones thing, if you just find them hot.

[The Harlequin]

Hey, I'm wondering right: I'd describe myslef as bi but more into the same sex, but doesn't that just depend on the person who you have a crush on at the time? Like if you're in love with a girl then it'd be more attracted to the opposite sex, until you then fall for a guy,

Anybody following me here or have I just confused you all? (X^,

[Zephyr]

I've told my sister and my brother, as well as some people on here.
Everybody is pretty cool about it.

I still lean towards members of the opposite sex,
But I find it easier to connect with girls emotionally.

[The Harlequin]

I've told my sister and my brother, as well as some people on here.
Everybody is pretty cool about it.

I still lean towards members of the opposite sex,
But I find it easier to connect with girls emotionally.

Were you expecting that they'd be cool with it or that there'd be this big awkward space that some people have when they come out? I've told my stepmum and father but that's it, oh and one bi friend of mine... And the people on here obviously...

[jak]

I would consider myself as bisexual. I've mostly engaged in relationships with girls but never cared for them romantically; this was the case especially when I was younger. Actually, for the past few years I've avoided dating girls because I have no desire for them... As time passed, my physical attraction for females had drastically diminished. I never held a romantic position in comparison to the opposite sex.

Right now, even though I am very slightly attracted to a woman in the physical sense, I love guys physically and romantically. My mind is more open than when I was fooling myself to be something I am not.

[The Joker]

I think you are gay, if that's how you feel.

[The Harlequin]

It sounds like you could be either with this, you could either label yourself not very gay or extremely bi towards the same sex, I mean the thing with being bi is that your preference changes with the person, you never know,

As you say, best to keep an open mind,
(:^,

[TurboDieselBandit]

I agree, I am like 40% Girls 60% Boys. I sure hope I will be straight when I am old enough to marrie. I want to have a nice family, I don't want to be single, and I will never marrie a guy.

[The Harlequin]

I agree, I am like 40% Girls 60% Boys. I sure hope I will be straight when I am old enough to marrie. I want to have a nice family, I don't want to be single, and I will never marrie a guy.

That's interesting...
I'm actually in love with a guy right now so that might be clouding my judgement on later life, I mean I would really like kids, but I dunno, atm I can't see myself with a woman...

It probably also has something to do with girls treating me like s**t recently...

[polarbear]

i dont know if im bi i get a boner by breasts, masterbate to girls and dont get a boner to nude guys. but if i ever had the chans i would veary happily give a bj i just dont know id love to suck one of my friends penises. piz someone help me!?!?!?

[The Harlequin]

i dont know if im bi i get a boner by breasts, masterbate to girls and dont get a boner to nude guys. but if i ever had the chans i would veary happily give a bj i just dont know id love to suck one of my friends penises. piz someone help me!?!?!?

Sounds to me like you're just curious, which is completely natural, if it sticks around and you start checking out guys and girls and, as you say, start masturbating over both etc, THEN you're bi...

Fo the moment, it's just curiosity,

[tbboltz92]

I'am gay but i have that rare occasion where i find a girl attractve

[YourFriend]

i am gay and reject a girl

[gchurlik]

i am bi and i like sex with guys more but find relationships with girls better

[Xavin]

im bi i also agree with gchurlik relationships with girls are better. however not sure on sex with guys never had it with one, and if i did i dont think id be giving it doesnt seem so fun in my opnion

[XxemorawrxX]

so I'm kinda like stuck in the middle whith my orientation. See sexually I've actually been with several girls. Nothing all the way but oral and such has been done by moi. But nowadays I'm not turned on by girls as much as I am by guys. Like almost nothing towards girls. BUT...I've never done anything with a guy. Hmmm I've been wanting to try a relationship with a guy but I doon't think I can emotionally connect with a guy. So I basically like girls emotionally but not sexually and vice versa for dudes. IDK really what direction to go >.<

[The Harlequin]

so I'm kinda like stuck in the middle whith my orientation. See sexually I've actually been with several girls. Nothing all the way but oral and such has been done by moi. But nowadays I'm not turned on by girls as much as I am by guys. Like almost nothing towards girls. BUT...I've never done anything with a guy. Hmmm I've been wanting to try a relationship with a guy but I doon't think I can emotionally connect with a guy. So I basically like girls emotionally but not sexually and vice versa for dudes. IDK really what direction to go >.<

Well I started thinking you were just curious, then I wasn't so sure...
I think until you either have a mate you could experiment with or until you feel emotionally attracted to a dude you should stay put, trying to lable yourself now when you're so unsure is just gonna confuse EVERYBODY ~ you especially...

[XxemorawrxX]

yeah I guess you're right. Hahaha being in the middle really sucks in my opinion. It's like being in the middle of the road in raging traffic and both sides of the road seem like a safe haven but they each have their pros and cons and you wanna take the risk of getting hit by a car or something XD

[Oscarisme]

yeah I guess you're right. Hahaha being in the middle really sucks in my opinion. It's like being in the middle of the road in raging traffic and both sides of the road seem like a safe haven but they each have their pros and cons and you wanna take the risk of getting hit by a car or something XD

Omg I love your analogy. Yooh are an awesome kid xD

[The Harlequin]

yeah I guess you're right. Hahaha being in the middle really sucks in my opinion. It's like being in the middle of the road in raging traffic and both sides of the road seem like a safe haven but they each have their pros and cons and you wanna take the risk of getting hit by a car or something XD

At least we now have some idea of how the chicken felt, poor sod...

[tripolar]

This is long, get ready...

I always liked girls,not anyone else, then when i hit 15 i started to wounder about dudes, just to mess around not date, and i started to check out other dudes, and look at guy porn but got a guilty feeling after doing it, but that faded after time went by. Now i'm going into 12th grade,but back when i was in ninth grade this all started, i had a friend that i liked but never made a move, in 10th grade i had a wood shop class I made a bunch of friends but one was special. we had a lot in common like music, games, cars and other stuff, now i had a feeling that he wasn't straight because he never talked about girls, and i nicknamed him sexy hair just to poke around and see what he did and he liked it and would move around his hair and ask me to touch it, but the major thing was that if we would miss school on the same days some of our friends joked around that we were probably sleeping around instead of being at school and they said they were joking, but he would look at me smile about it. we would work on projects together and sat together at lunch and played xbox all the time, and we hung out twice before the summer, Now here comes the good part, now last summer right after school ended i went over and we swam in the pool and fixed a broken ipod, but when we went to sleep he asked me to massage his back and i agreed but i was shocked how that was really happening we did it for hours, took turns and it was fun, but it seemed like it was kind of awkward afterwords, I came over again wanting to do it again but before i could ask he asked me to massage him again, this time he was relaxed and so was i. That's when i started to think i was bi and not curious We didn't have any classes with each other last year and he was busy a lot and we never got to hang out during the school year i started to think that it wasn't going to happen again but in May we started to talk everyday (seems like the summer thing) and we hung out again and we messed around again, this time we also cuddled a bit, and also he seems to be more open and say more naughty things only when we're alone though not at school, like when we play halo 3 and we ride around on a mongoose he drives and i ride on back and he always says "i like to be on the bottom". we hang out and mess around a lot more and once at my house. after what happened this summer i know I'm bi and it doesn't bother me i like to call it "playing both sides". and what me and my friend do is i say messing around because we're best friends, what we do is a secret that is kept between us. I still like girls better but wouldn't mind messing around with a dude.

[Neverender]

As you used the anology of being in the middle nd how you could be hit by cars, you can just "step over the cars".

Simply, Dont head in any direction. Dont label yourself as Bi or straight or gay etc.

Just go in the direction you feel is right.

[tripolar]

As you used the anology of being in the middle nd how you could be hit by cars, you can just "step over the cars".

Simply, Dont head in any direction. Dont label yourself as Bi or straight or gay etc.

Just go in the direction you feel is right.

Nothing about getting hit by cars, its about we had common interests in cars.