girl troubles

[dxtr]

Ok so when ever I go out with a girl it always seems to go the same way. At first everything is going fine. Then they say that I a insensitive. Than we break up. I don't think that I am very insensitive, but mabey I just don't notice it. anyone else have this problem? and if so what did you do about it?

[bowlheadhere]

Maybe you need to try and listen to the better? After all, a girl wants a guy who is their everything, is someone who they can talk to about anything, and that will be their for them when times get hard. With this in mind, we can determine that talking and listening can fall into the three things listed above. Try to understand where they come from when they are talking to you, and make intelectual responses. They want a guy that knows what they are talking about and that can relate to them. Try not to make provocitive comments about her or anyone for that matter.

I mean, maybe I am wrong because I am just a guy, but this has worked for me so far. Hope this helps.

[dxtr]

Thank you I will try harder. Iv'e had kind of a rough childhood so I tend not to show any emotion. I think my main problem is making fun of other people (not my gf) which I see as just teasing but mabey they don't see it like that.

[bowlheadhere]

Well, I mean, we all go through hard times, we just have to rember all of the good times. I mean, there are so many people in the world would would kill to be in your position. Just remember the good times because no matter what anyone does, they can NEVER take those away from you. Try and just brush off the bad, because it only will last a short time compared to the rest of your life. Try not to stay on the bad, but on the amzing times you have had with friends/family/anyone no matter how brief they were. Always remember that there will be people there for you to support you through those hard times and remind you of the good.

Addressing your second statment, that could and is most likely the reason. I am guessing that you might have accidentily insulted one of their friends, and that really hurt them, or that they are scared that you may insult them the way you do others. I am not trying to be harsh here, but tell you how you can improve your life, its outlook and quality. Maybe instead of making fun of people that you try and become friends with those who are less than you may be. I mean, a girl wants a guy that they know will be there for them, so when you show kindness and genuinity this further enhances these thoughts a girl will have about you.

I was in the same patch you were, and when I looked back at it, I thought about why I made fun of those people in the first place. In my case, I realized that their was no reason for me to criticize others (because their really is no reason why you should) and that I was just being a jerk. You should try to think of the true reason you made fun of those people and try to correct your thoughts in order to break away from this. Embrace those differences people have, for these differences make us amazing people.

Hope this helps.

[The Joker]

Girls like nice guys. Listen to her every word, do everything she asks.

[sebbie]

Girls like nice guys. Listen to her every word, do everything she asks.

Then you will become her bitch :rolleyes:

Anyway treat her the same way she treats you, if she listens when you speak, you listen when she speaks. If she is polite to your friends be polite to her friends. If she is upset, try to comfort her etc.