Gay or straite; what am I?

[shane]

Hello All, I'm new to this forum. I've found alot of it very helpful. Everybody seems really open, honest and willing to understand. So, insted of discussing it with someone and feeling humiliated and ashamed, I'll bring this to the web. I can't seem to figure out whether I'm straite or gay... I've had a boyfriend but I don't know if I was ever truley happy. Idk, i need help.

[averagemuscleguy]

well, which gender do you have the most sincere fun with? Are you happier and freer in a relationship with a male or femalee? What good and bad experiences have you had with both genders? If you ask yourself these questions (and fyi i dont reccomend experimenting with a bunch of people to see how you feel, its spreads disesase and hurt feelings) you should be able to find out. And from now on, think about how you feel when you are around both genders, and remember theres always the option on being bi, like me.

[shane]

Well, that's kind of the problem.. You see I usually "like?" guys, and if I Jack/O I generally think/watch gay porn. :/. I feel wierd saying this now. But anyways that one guy was the only relationship that I've really ever had, and we've never actually done anything. We talked about "it" alot but we just never seemed to get Around to it. But yet I still had an attraction to girls... Kinda, not their bodys but their personality.... So it confuses me.

[sebbie]

Your probably just raging hormones and will shag anything that moves, don't worry about being gay or straight for a while, just continue how you are and you will find your own path.

[Maverick]

I'm not saying this rudely but you have no idea how often this question is asked here with pretty much the same detail you're describing. I'm saying that because confusion is very common and you aren't alone.

Time will ultimately tell what you are. Eventually as you get older to say my age (19) things become a little more clearer. You can always test the waters more with relationships with girls and guys and see how they make you feel and if you enjoy them.

[Blkbeltteen]

Well, that's kind of the problem.. You see I usually "like?" guys, and if I Jack/O I generally think/watch gay porn. :/. I feel wierd saying this now. But anyways that one guy was the only relationship that I've really ever had, and we've never actually done anything. We talked about "it" alot but we just never seemed to get Around to it. But yet I still had an attraction to girls... Kinda, not their bodys but their personality.... So it confuses me.

Depends on your age really...

I have a few gay friends and I'm straight. After a while you get to know your sexuality more. At some point in time i thought i was gay too. But I decided I'm straight..

On a different note. I don't have anything against gays. I think they should have the same rights as straight couples.

Hope you find what you truly want to become either it be straight or gay.

[shane]

Ah thank you, I feel a bit better now. But in the mean time what exactly do I do bout my bf..? Should I dump him?

[sebbie]

Ah thank you, I feel a bit better now. But in the mean time what exactly do I do bout my bf..? Should I dump him?

So whatever you want it him, your the only one who knows how your relationship is going. :rolleyes:

[nick]

Your probably just raging hormones and will shag anything that moves, don't worry about being gay or straight for a while, just continue how you are and you will find your own path.
Yeah thats about right. Dont be in any hurry to give yourself a label, just stay relaxed with how you are and over time it will become more clear.

[The Harlequin]

Besides, there's no hurry in fin out what exactly you are right away. I mean it has taken me years of evaluating myself and analysing my feelings and past relationships to come to the conclusion that I'm bi, i you're in a relationship with someone think about how it is going but above all be totally honest with your significant other, nothing makes a living hell like a cloak of lies. He might no like what you have to say but t least if you're honest he can't really expect anything more of you.

Just take your time to find your feet, and you'll be fine...

[YourFriend]

Give it some time untill your hormones calm down adn then you can really decide or see what you really are

[bowlheadhere]

The definition of "being gay" is to have both emotional and phyical attractions to males. Many people our age (teens) go through hormonal changes which make us "think we are gay/straight/bisexual." In order to fully understand your specific situation, you need to know whether you have both emotional and physical attraction to males,although at this point it is quite hard to tell the difference due to our hormones. What you may be feeling, as many others do, is just the physicap attraction to males. Growing up, we have a certain human curiosity that moves us to try and think/wonder how others our age are developing, and how what we will develope into. At this point, you can not clearly define which orrientation you are. With this in mind, just think of yourself as a person. Do not try or take so much time away from your life worrying about such groupings. Live your life to the fullest, and dont let anything hold you back. Puberty is an amazing thing that brings us through some of the most exhilerating/exciting/fun parts of our lives (whether you admit it or not), so just dont try and classify yourself, just allow your body and emotions to do as they want to do. Trying to classify yourself at this age will only do harm.

Hope this helps...

[MichaelAdams1993]

Ah thank you, I feel a bit better now. But in the mean time what exactly do I do bout my bf..? Should I dump him?

I think that if you are still confused about what you want you should try being single for awhile why you figure youself out. Don't say anything to your bf about being confused cause this may make him think that he caused you to wonder if you are really interested in guys. Take some time and consider whether you have a want to be with a man or women and there will be your answer.

Yeah thats about right. Dont be in any hurry to give yourself a label, just stay relaxed with how you are and over time it will become more clear.

Exactly, there is no need to rush this decision and if you were to you might find youself with the wrong decision because you jumped to conclusions. Just take some time and consider all the possibilities.

Also, have you ever had a gf before and how old exactly are you, it is always really confusing at younger ages but as time passes and you grow up things slowly become clearer.

[Serenity]

Moved to Teen Sexuality.