Ripplemagne
June 21st, 2009, 09:21 PM
“Don't even think about it and just do it. If you don't, you'll be regretting it the rest of the weekend.” -- Neil Strauss
Probably the most common question on every help forum is "How do I ask her out?" Now, many articles have been dedicated to answering this question, but the Ripplemagne is here to present his own spin on it. Now, you may take what you will from this and, of course, remember that not every method is absolute and you're not guaranteed to get her to say yes even if you follow this guide to a T (she may just not be interested), but it helps to have a foundation and my advice rarely (never) fails.
So, the first thing I want you to do before you begin reading is evaluate what exactly you're looking for from this guide. It's important to know this because you may subconsciously know a weakness that you don't acknowledge. Remember to constantly refer back to what works and does not work when dealing with the wimmenz.
As of now, I'm not going to run down the indicators she'll exhibit if she likes you. That will be for future work. Instead, we're just going to establish that you two know each other and there is a fair amount of chemistry.
Now, you're probably plaguing your mind with all kinds of anxiety, twitching about what to say, what to do, how you should stand, et cetera. "Is my hair okay? Does she like me? Should I wear cologne?" Forget all of that for a moment because none of that is relevant here. Your appearance is set before you leave your house and your psychoanalysis comes with the conversation; it doesn't precede it.
There's only one thing you should ever contemplate before asking someone out. That thing is something very simple that you should just think about in your spare time (make a to do list of things you would like to do and things you would like to see): What is the adventure on the agenda?
In other words, what are you going to be doing on your date? The wimmenz are raised on Disney and fairy tales and are militantly melancholy with their day to day activities. It is up to you to extend your magic carpet and show them a whole new world. You can take them to a museum, a gimmick restaurant (The Ripplemage likes habbachi), scuba diving, sky diving, mountain climbing, for a jog through a scenic route. You can even spend a quiet day at home, baking delicious treats to share together.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v236/ripped/carpet.jpg
The possibilities are endless. Make sure you know her persona to a certain degree, so that you know what she will be interested in. So many men seem to completely disregard this and, as a result, are left in a three hour conversation with a girl, where they're bumming over what to do. Worst comes to worse, the park and the movies are always fair options, but it's up to you to make those droll dates exciting.
I'll cover the qualities a girl looks for in a guy and overall demeanor in another article, but always be confident in the approach. But remember not to overanalyze or even think about asking the girl out when you're walking over or you're going to botch it. A lion stalks his prey, but only because he's waiting for the most opportune moment to strike; he doesn't think "Should I? Will the gazelle reject me? What if I fail?" He is hungry. So are you.
You want to avoid seeming like you were just talking to yourself in the mirror five seconds before talking to her, so don't do that. Don't rehearse. The major flaw men make is that they build a conversation around them asking her out instead of asking her out in the conversation. In doing this, you make the conversation awkward and stale and lead to the eventual let down when she finds your conversation skills are lacking.
Instead, it's very easy to start a conversation off with "Hello, my love." And for the love of God, don't say that in your serial killer, heavy breathing stalker voice. It's sarcasm, so make that shine through. Once the greeting is initialized, talk about something that will interest her. Not the weather, not homework, not your stamp collection that I know you have. This will build the flow for which she'll sail. If you have nothing to talk about, reevaluate if you should even ask this girl out in the first place because that's an indicator that you need to build a more stable foundation.
I don't care what Pick Up Artists tell you. If you're looking for a serious relationship, you don't ask a girl out that you just met. It's not good policy and is going to lead you to disappointment. I'm not a Pick Up Artist, so if you want advice on how to get laid, read "The Game" by Neil Strauss. But my goal, here, is not to wet your whistle; it's to get you the girl.
Alright, so you've got a conversation going. She's laughing at a terrible joke you just told and you're making a total clown of yourself. What now? You can never go wrong with "What are you doing this weekend?" It opens up for further conversation if she is doing something and if she's not? "Listen, I want to go miniature golfing this weekend and I need some arm candy. You up for it?" No, you don't have to use that exact line; it's an example of not being generic with the finale.
In conclusion, the best thing to remember is that you shouldn't put yourself around asking her out. Instead, place asking her out into yourself. That may not make sense now, but if you think about it, it will.
Hopefully, there will be more guides to come.
Probably the most common question on every help forum is "How do I ask her out?" Now, many articles have been dedicated to answering this question, but the Ripplemagne is here to present his own spin on it. Now, you may take what you will from this and, of course, remember that not every method is absolute and you're not guaranteed to get her to say yes even if you follow this guide to a T (she may just not be interested), but it helps to have a foundation and my advice rarely (never) fails.
So, the first thing I want you to do before you begin reading is evaluate what exactly you're looking for from this guide. It's important to know this because you may subconsciously know a weakness that you don't acknowledge. Remember to constantly refer back to what works and does not work when dealing with the wimmenz.
As of now, I'm not going to run down the indicators she'll exhibit if she likes you. That will be for future work. Instead, we're just going to establish that you two know each other and there is a fair amount of chemistry.
Now, you're probably plaguing your mind with all kinds of anxiety, twitching about what to say, what to do, how you should stand, et cetera. "Is my hair okay? Does she like me? Should I wear cologne?" Forget all of that for a moment because none of that is relevant here. Your appearance is set before you leave your house and your psychoanalysis comes with the conversation; it doesn't precede it.
There's only one thing you should ever contemplate before asking someone out. That thing is something very simple that you should just think about in your spare time (make a to do list of things you would like to do and things you would like to see): What is the adventure on the agenda?
In other words, what are you going to be doing on your date? The wimmenz are raised on Disney and fairy tales and are militantly melancholy with their day to day activities. It is up to you to extend your magic carpet and show them a whole new world. You can take them to a museum, a gimmick restaurant (The Ripplemage likes habbachi), scuba diving, sky diving, mountain climbing, for a jog through a scenic route. You can even spend a quiet day at home, baking delicious treats to share together.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v236/ripped/carpet.jpg
The possibilities are endless. Make sure you know her persona to a certain degree, so that you know what she will be interested in. So many men seem to completely disregard this and, as a result, are left in a three hour conversation with a girl, where they're bumming over what to do. Worst comes to worse, the park and the movies are always fair options, but it's up to you to make those droll dates exciting.
I'll cover the qualities a girl looks for in a guy and overall demeanor in another article, but always be confident in the approach. But remember not to overanalyze or even think about asking the girl out when you're walking over or you're going to botch it. A lion stalks his prey, but only because he's waiting for the most opportune moment to strike; he doesn't think "Should I? Will the gazelle reject me? What if I fail?" He is hungry. So are you.
You want to avoid seeming like you were just talking to yourself in the mirror five seconds before talking to her, so don't do that. Don't rehearse. The major flaw men make is that they build a conversation around them asking her out instead of asking her out in the conversation. In doing this, you make the conversation awkward and stale and lead to the eventual let down when she finds your conversation skills are lacking.
Instead, it's very easy to start a conversation off with "Hello, my love." And for the love of God, don't say that in your serial killer, heavy breathing stalker voice. It's sarcasm, so make that shine through. Once the greeting is initialized, talk about something that will interest her. Not the weather, not homework, not your stamp collection that I know you have. This will build the flow for which she'll sail. If you have nothing to talk about, reevaluate if you should even ask this girl out in the first place because that's an indicator that you need to build a more stable foundation.
I don't care what Pick Up Artists tell you. If you're looking for a serious relationship, you don't ask a girl out that you just met. It's not good policy and is going to lead you to disappointment. I'm not a Pick Up Artist, so if you want advice on how to get laid, read "The Game" by Neil Strauss. But my goal, here, is not to wet your whistle; it's to get you the girl.
Alright, so you've got a conversation going. She's laughing at a terrible joke you just told and you're making a total clown of yourself. What now? You can never go wrong with "What are you doing this weekend?" It opens up for further conversation if she is doing something and if she's not? "Listen, I want to go miniature golfing this weekend and I need some arm candy. You up for it?" No, you don't have to use that exact line; it's an example of not being generic with the finale.
In conclusion, the best thing to remember is that you shouldn't put yourself around asking her out. Instead, place asking her out into yourself. That may not make sense now, but if you think about it, it will.
Hopefully, there will be more guides to come.