Awww

[The Joker]

OK, I'm sorry if this is spam, but I just wanted to state my sadness.

My really good friend is moving away. I met him when I was in grade 5, he was in grade 6. We were always jokers, but both had a great serious side in both of us. We got along great. Then, the next year, during a certain period of time, we were REALLY close. Then he left for high school (grade 8 is the start of high school), and we kept in touch, occassionally meeting, calling each other, and talking on MSN. He just told me that he's moving away, and I'm kinda sad about this. He's a great kid.

[Aneklusmos]

Oh Matt that sucks, I'm sorry you have too lose a friend. He sounds like a great guy. Are still going to keep in touch over MSN? It's sad, but everyone moves on at one point, especially when we're young.

[The Joker]

Yes, we will still keep in touch, and he got my phone number again.

I offered to give him two of my autographed CDs of the band that we both love (one that I was supposed to lend to him a LONG time ago) and he said to keep it to remember him by.

[byee]

I'm really sorry for your loss, Matt! Saying good bye is hard, esp. when you know it represents such a permanent change from what you've enjoyed for so long.

Two things come to mind here. The first is to allow yourself to feel sad for him and to recognize the loss. Acknowledging the feelings doesn't make them go away, but it makes them easier to tolerate. And, try to share this with some of your people, get the support you need.

Second, realize that eventhough he's moving away, and the physical distance will make things harder (if not impossible) to enjoy his company as you now do, you can still maintain both the relationship, and (as importantly) maintain the close bond you have. Distance doesn't have to change that, it just means you have to be more creative in the ways you make (and share) contact.

[The Joker]

Tears are coming to my eyes a bit. Thanks Sam and Caleb.

[pkid]

What do you mean "REALLY close"? Were you guys doing things? or just friends?

[The Joker]

Ummmm, we were really good friends.

[pontiacdriver]

I agree with the posters above, and it is all right for the both of you to feel sad. However, unlike in years past you and your friend can very much stay in contact as there are so many inexpensive ways to talk to one another be it IM, webcam, or social networking websites. It can get scary knowing that there is a possibility that you two can possibly find a new circle of friends, but then again if you both keep in contact there can still be a relationship. Depending on how far your friend is moving maybe you two can periodically hang out with each other with either of you staying at each other's houses for a time?

I know how you feel, but just know that if you two are really close that his physically moving away won't destroy a relationship which is strong.