Question... I need urgent advice!!!!!!!!

[bowlheadhere]

So last night, I was hanging out at my girlfriends house. We have been going out for two and a half years, and I live only a couple houses down, so I could just drive back whenever. The thing is that we were talking, and the night was really cold, so we lay talking under her sheets on her bed. I started to get hot, so I took off my sweatpants and threw them on the floor (I wore shorts underneath it because it is comfortable and all of you track/cross country people should know what I am talking about). It started to get really late, and we kind of just dozed off, and I kind of slept in her bed with my pants on the floor. Then the next thing I know is that her parents are in the room screaming. I tried to explain what happened and that I still had shorts on and everything, but then I kind of just climbed out/off her balcony and back to my car to return home. My parents don't know anythng, but I think her parents might say something. What should I do? Any suggestions?

[FalconSmash]

You always seem to get in trouble when you're with your girlfriend, bud.

Maybe you shouldn't put yourself in situations that you know aren't going to end well. Sleeping under the sheets with your pants on the floor? Come on, hahaha.

And yes, I know about the whole shorts/sweatpants combo, but from what you've told me about your girlfriends parents, they're really uptight. And you put yourself into a really, really bad situation.

Be more careful next time? Explain the situation to your parents as soon as you can.

[bowlheadhere]

You always seem to get in trouble when you're with your girlfriend, bud.

Maybe you shouldn't put yourself in situations that you know aren't going to end well. Sleeping under the sheets with your pants on the floor? Come on, hahaha.

And yes, I know about the whole shorts/sweatpants combo, but from what you've told me about your girlfriends parents, they're really uptight. And you put yourself into a really, really bad situation.

Be more careful next time? Explain the situation to your parents as soon as you can.

Dude, you don't even know! They got mad the last time when I snuck into her room because she wasn't allowed to go out that day (her parents just got mad at her for some reason). Maybe I should just go to my car with a blanket cause it would have gotten really cold, but that could have turned up really bad too... WHY AM I SO BAD AT THIS! I haven't and refuse to pass second base right now! AHHHHHHH!

[Lord C]

Obviously I don't know what kind of parents your parents are, but if I were you, I'd tell them before your girlfriend's parents do.

Maybe phone your girlfriends house when you know the parents will be in and explain it to them. By the sounds of it, they shouldn't be too surprised at a bit of intimacy considering you said you can drive back, you must be at least 17 (depends on where you're from obviously)

[FalconSmash]

Dude, you don't even know! They got mad the last time when I snuck into her room because she wasn't allowed to go out that day (her parents just got mad at her for some reason). Maybe I should just go to my car with a blanket cause it would have gotten really cold, but that could have turned up really bad too... WHY AM I SO BAD AT THIS! I haven't and refuse to pass second base right now! AHHHHHHH!

They got mad cuz you snuck into her room, bert... hahahaha.

I know we've discussed this before, but you need common sense, lol.

[bowlheadhere]

Dude, they grounded her because her dad had these apparently really good doughnuts and she took one... I was like? the shit? her parents are kind of mental though, they do random shit all of the time... It is kind of rediculous. Why does the person I am going out with have to be so amazing, but her parents are on crack or something?!!?!?!?!?!??!?!

I do though...

[FalconSmash]

Poetic Irony?

The point is you defied her parents wishes; she was grounded, so a boy sneaks into her window?

Pretty sure as a parent, in that situation, I'd have done more than be angry.

[bowlheadhere]

Shhhh! It was a stupid reason to ground her, and I just got back from a week in Oregon (this was right after our spring break).

I confused? poetic irony? confusion?

I think they thought she let me in from the front door... but they might cut down the tree in their back yard now... =(

[FalconSmash]

Look. Regardless of the reason for the grounding, she's STILL GROUNDED. I mean, it's
probably a good idea they chop that tree down, it would save
both of you from getting into a lot of trouble.

[bowlheadhere]

=(

that would be bad... i should just not see her when she is grounded/late at night...

[nick]

I dont think you should criticise the parents too much. If the come in and find you both in bed, under the covers and with your trowsers on the floor what are they supposed to think?

[bowlheadhere]

I dont think you should criticise the parents too much. If the come in and find you both in bed, under the covers and with your trowsers on the floor what are they supposed to think?

No, I criticise them so much because of everything they have done before.

[pontiacdriver]

So last night, I was hanging out at my girlfriends house. We have been going out for two and a half years, and I live only a couple houses down, so I could just drive back whenever. The thing is that we were talking, and the night was really cold, so we lay talking under her sheets on her bed. I started to get hot, so I took off my sweatpants and threw them on the floor (I wore shorts underneath it because it is comfortable and all of you track/cross country people should know what I am talking about). It started to get really late, and we kind of just dozed off, and I kind of slept in her bed with my pants on the floor. Then the next thing I know is that her parents are in the room screaming. I tried to explain what happened and that I still had shorts on and everything, but then I kind of just climbed out/off her balcony and back to my car to return home. My parents don't know anythng, but I think her parents might say something. What should I do? Any suggestions?

Well, even you have to admit here that the way things appeared looked horrible, and any rational person could reasonably assume that you both had sex. I think you and your girlfriend are going to have to come to an accomodation with her parents as if this is not the first time this has happened you are only going to make the parents more or less hate you. As long as your girlfriend lives with her parents and they support her you both have to do what they say as they are responsible for her. Basically, it is going to suck having restrictions put upon you both, but if you both live within such rules, then I think the parents might lighten up. If you and your girlfriend are sexual, then you both have no choice at this point to be honest.

As for your parents, I think you should be proactive and tell them exactly what you told us above. Again, the appearance of what happened looked really bad, and if your parents are not all right with your having sex right now, then you all are going to have to come to a compromise.

[punkjake]

tell ur parents EVERYTHING before they do,so they'll trust you,then tell your gf ur sorry and ect.

[kyle95]

talk 2 ur parents mate, b4 they do n tell the truth.

[Fusion]

I would give the parents a few days to calm down and then talk to them with your girlfriend with you and tell the truth straight out. There really is no need to talk to your parents about it. :)

[bowlheadhere]

tell ur parents EVERYTHING before they do,so they'll trust you,then tell your gf ur sorry and ect.

My girlfriend isnt mad, she understands. Her parents are just mad.

[Donkey]

Sit down with them, make sure you're all as comfortable as you can be, and explain to them being sensitive and understanding how they must feel about it.

This is obviously a very serious thing for them, as it would be for any parents so you can't blame them. If you both explain (choose your words carefully) what happened sensitively then I'm sure they'll understand.

[anime Freak]

you need to explain it to them in person and do anything you can to get their forgiveness