Freaky – Am I “Normal?”

[Birminghamboy]

Hi.

I hav cum across this forum to help with my puberty, it is very good. I have today managed to pluck up the courage to post something which is proper freaking me out and has been for a week or so, I am new so if it is in the wrong area im sorry.

OK, I have recently turned 13 and have been masturbating about 4 times a week since I started yr7. My friends at school talk about stuff, sex stuff so I know a little about what goes on etc although I have never as such had a g/f or b/f for that matter.

First of all right now I think I’m gay and im scared. I have started to have feelings, like I love my best frnd at school and want to do “things” with him, boys things, wank etc however I don’t know how to go about it. When I wank I think about him most of the time, about wot we cud be doing to each other, I have watched gay porn on the net and think bout that stuff. It proper makes me horny and want to come (even though at the moment I still haven’t fully came) and I have no feelings what so ever towards girls… Am I gay? I don’t mind if I am?

Anyway, to make matters a whole lot worse last week I had a real freaky dream and I have been freaked out ever since, I mean like embarrassed. It wasn’t about my best friend but about my DAD!

Next week we have a school trip and I am sharing a dorm with my best frnd, I have been finking a lot about what stuff we could get up to etc whilst there for the week, things like wanking and maybe touching and some sex stuff, sucking etc. Anyway, last week I think on Tuesday I had this dream that my DAD was my best friend and that he and I were doing all the stuff I have been thinking about doing with my friend. Its really freaked me out and now when I look at my dad it feels really weird like fucked up and wrong. Is this normal, am I a freak? I was at school yesterday thinking about it and like I really am feeling it.

My dad and I are really close, like bezzy mates, I mean we do everything together, play football, golf etc but now I’m like so freaked out with this dream I feel like I don’t know what to say to him and he knows something is wrong cause like on the journey to school he has being asking if I am ok and if im being bullied.

Why was my dad my best friend and why was I dreaming of wanking, sucking, rimming etc with my DAD!

Please someone help me out here, do I need to see a shrink, am I normal and has anyone else ever had anything like this?

Also, my foreskin is really tight, when I am stiff it like has a loop of skin at the top towards the back of my cock and I can’t pull that loop over the head. I have read most threads about 4skin but is this normal too, just some reassurance.

Thank you and sorry if I have gone on a bit. :what:

[JackOfClubs]

If you feel no attraction whatsoever towards girls, then yes, its is a possibility that you are gay. As for the dream about your dad, I wouldn't call that normal, but we all have our weird dreams. I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with you though, your hormones are just going mad due to puberty. I can't help you with the foreskin though; I'm cut.

[Giles]

um... the dream about your dad isnt exactly normal but it could just be the hormones making you think of doing things with someone that you are already really close to.

as for the foreskin thing... just wank all the time. its what i did. now im ok.

with doing things with/to ur best mate. be really careful, dont do anything while he's asleep, only touch him if he lets you. ask before you do anything to him. if he takes it the wrong way (even if your gay) it can ruin your friendship, and im fairly sure you dont want that.

[marty]

gayness: it IS possible that you are gay. you dont have any sexual feelings towards girls. But it is not definite. at the very least you are bisexual. maybe you will develop sexual feelings for girls soon.

foreskin: just start to masturbate. that should loosen the foreskin

dad: that's not normal, but i wouldn't keep your mind occupied with these thoughts. Just forget about it and resume your life as normal.

[Birminghamboy]

Thanks for the replies, feel a bit better but still feel weird about the dad thing... Anyway, lets see what happens...

Any other post would be nice... :yes:

[djunlogical]

its does indeed sound like you have a igh chance of being gay, however this could be just puberty's way of giveing you a little "kick" if the wording is appropriate. Dont worry yourself over the dad thing, thats just hormones, you will probably find it turns into better or worse as the years go by, if yo want re-assurance, than I "know someone" who fantasisED about being raped by peadophiles, again, its just the hormones. The foreskin thing is completely normal, just continue to wank more vigerously (as in bigger strokes) each time, it should eventually open it up =) Hope this helps

[byee]

Welcome to thirteen! Please fasten your seat belt and make sure your tray is in it's upright position for takeoff into puberty!

Everything you've described here is normal, if somewhat (understandably) unsettling. Hormones are veeery powerful, they not only change the way your body looks and works, but most importantly, they also change your brain. So, things seem arousing, you have new urges, all of which are biological, caused by testosterone (the male hormone). What you're experiencing is the result of biology, it's not some *secret* message about your sexuality/'gayness', and it's certainly not about lusting after your father!

Dreams can have many meanings, but they're really just dreams. In your case, i'd say that the dream is a reflection of the new found excitement about sexuality, and the natural curiosity to experience what *others* are like, as you're anticipating on this school trip. Your dad's placement in the dream might represent a sense of security, you say you guys are pretty close, which would make these urges and feelings that are new and maybe exciting but yet still maybe scary easier to tolerate. So, your brain has inserted your dad there as a way you can feel more secure with the other stuff, he's like giving you permission to have them (although in a way that's a but unsettling!).

It might take a bit of time for the dream to wear off, and this might happen sooner if you do the things with your dad that make you feel close and safe with him. That way, you'll be getting that bit of security you need to deal with those *other*, more private urges, and keep the 2 seperate.

With regards to your tight foreskin, that's pretty common, the frenular band (the bit of elastic tissue that runs around the tip of the foreskin) needs to be loosened up a bit. Gently pull it back as far as it will go when you're in the shower and when you urinate, and eventually it will get better. Just don't force it, it'll take a while, it won't loosen much the first few times.

[bowlheadhere]

Hi.

I hav cum across this forum to help with my puberty, it is very good. I have today managed to pluck up the courage to post something which is proper freaking me out and has been for a week or so, I am new so if it is in the wrong area im sorry.

OK, I have recently turned 13 and have been masturbating about 4 times a week since I started yr7. My friends at school talk about stuff, sex stuff so I know a little about what goes on etc although I have never as such had a g/f or b/f for that matter.

First of all right now I think I’m gay and im scared. I have started to have feelings, like I love my best frnd at school and want to do “things” with him, boys things, wank etc however I don’t know how to go about it. When I wank I think about him most of the time, about wot we cud be doing to each other, I have watched gay porn on the net and think bout that stuff. It proper makes me horny and want to come (even though at the moment I still haven’t fully came) and I have no feelings what so ever towards girls… Am I gay? I don’t mind if I am?

Anyway, to make matters a whole lot worse last week I had a real freaky dream and I have been freaked out ever since, I mean like embarrassed. It wasn’t about my best friend but about my DAD!

Next week we have a school trip and I am sharing a dorm with my best frnd, I have been finking a lot about what stuff we could get up to etc whilst there for the week, things like wanking and maybe touching and some sex stuff, sucking etc. Anyway, last week I think on Tuesday I had this dream that my DAD was my best friend and that he and I were doing all the stuff I have been thinking about doing with my friend. Its really freaked me out and now when I look at my dad it feels really weird like fucked up and wrong. Is this normal, am I a freak? I was at school yesterday thinking about it and like I really am feeling it.

My dad and I are really close, like bezzy mates, I mean we do everything together, play football, golf etc but now I’m like so freaked out with this dream I feel like I don’t know what to say to him and he knows something is wrong cause like on the journey to school he has being asking if I am ok and if im being bullied.

Why was my dad my best friend and why was I dreaming of wanking, sucking, rimming etc with my DAD!

Please someone help me out here, do I need to see a shrink, am I normal and has anyone else ever had anything like this?

Also, my foreskin is really tight, when I am stiff it like has a loop of skin at the top towards the back of my cock and I can’t pull that loop over the head. I have read most threads about 4skin but is this normal too, just some reassurance.

Thank you and sorry if I have gone on a bit. :what:

First of all, reguarding your orientation "problem", you shouldn't be worried about categorizing yourself into "gay/straight/bisexual". Just think of yourself as a person, and no matter what the feelings you have for others are, they are just feelings. In today's society, we wade too much on stupid things that seem to be out of the ordinary (ie, being gay), which causes many like you to worry. But, from what I have read, you are perfectly normal. Everyone has had thoughts about the same sex (whether they admit it or not, everyone has).

Secondly, reguarding your best friend and dad, it is really just because of hormones, human curiosity, and possibly a lack of male prescense in your life. A lot of people have asked me similar questions about if they are "gay" or if it is wrong to think about the other sex and have sex fantasies about other males, but I must ask you one question; Do you currently have a lot more close female friends or male friends (especially when you were younger around the age of 6-10)? If you answered that you have more female friends, this can all be explained via an article I read (I wish I saved that web page! too many people ask this question). (This also applies to people who answered that they have more male friends, but mostly to those who have more female.) But basically it talked about how you seemed to have a lack of male presence in your life. When you grew up (again, if this applies to you), then you grew acustom to female rutines (not to sound bad, this is just the truth). Therefore as you began to grow older, you unconciously realized that you had a lack of male prescence in your life, and began to think and wonder about other males of your age. This is the same as why girls often think about what guys are doing, or how guys think about how girls are doing and how they are developing. With this in mind, you simply looked toward your best friend (or in some cases, people look to a "popular" kid because of the "power" he has at that point relative to you) because he was the closest one to you, and that you have known him for so long. One can only be curious about someone they know so much about (ie interests/hobbies/emotional stuff/etc), but at the same time know so little about them (ie. how far they are in puberty). This is why you have had dreams/fantasies about your best friend. Reguarding your father though, this can also be explained with what is above because he is seen as a "powerful" force in your life, therefore, you look to him and see how he is (sexually). You unconciously look up to him in this way because he has gone through puberty, and you want to know how you will most likely be when you are done (your parents are the closest to what you will be like when you grow up and out of puberty). Everything that applied to your friend, still applies to your dad, from what I wrote above. If this doesn't really make sense the first way through, just read it over, and I guarantee that it will.

Next, reguarding your foreskin "problem", I am guessing you are uncut, therefore you are normal. When I was growing up, I am also uncut, I had the same problem. When you are really young, there is no need for the sexual sensors (I am for some reason forgetting the word, sorry). Therefore, your skin will continue to stay "conected" or over your head until you develope sexually. The reason why it "comes off" so early (well, relative to when we all lose our virginity) is because in many cultures and during the time period of the cavemen, people would have children relatively young, around 14-17 (for males), therefore, you just begin to have your "skin reveal your head" around now. I dont know if that was necessary to add in, but at least you now know?

In conclusion, I just want to say that this comes from the knowledge I have (both from articles, personal experience, and school), so if I happened to write some incorrect information, please don't get mad at me. But I am pretty sure I am correct on all of the information above. If you dont really understand it at first, just read through it again, and/or take out the parenthasis, and it should make sense. I am just here to answer questions and help as much as possible, so sorry if you dont like what I wrote.

Hope this helps!

[Birminghamboy]

Thanks again for the posts, very helpful.

I feel a bit better now and have spoken to Dad so... LOL. How weird! :yeah:

[Birminghamboy]

Feel much better today, i'm off on the school trip tonight, bit worried about sharing with my best frnd, especially as he knows nothing about this. I'll update you when i get back next week or if i can get online...

:yes:

[cjdude]

i didnt read all the other replies...
but simply, its all normal.
ive had crazy disturbing dreams.
similar to yours, actually.
and yeahh i have friends ive wanked with.
its fun.
but since youre cool with being gay and stuff, remember to be slow with your friend and make sure he's okay with it.

have fun on your trip :)