Really confused now

[Nik1234]

Over the past few years, I've struggled with trying to identify my sexuality.

As a young teen, I thought I was only attracted to women but felt different in a way I couldn't explain... never really had much interest in having sex like most guys do.

As time progressed, I've really started liking guys and am now confused whether I still like women the way I used to. I feel like I'm gay but I'm still in a kind of shock/denial.

The other day, when talking to my best friend on the phone; I almost came out to him, but turned my Freudian slip into a joke. I feel like the more time passes, the more I want to jump up and tell everyone, but I'm really confused whether I'm bi or not. I thought I was bi but now I'm not sure. My attraction for the same sex is increasing while desire for the opposite sex is decreasing.

I guess what I'm asking is: should I come out if I'm confused? I feel like I'm missing out on life and I'm becoming older. There is a sense of urgency pressing against me... I don't want to live a lie anymore... albeit I don't know the truth.

[kitkat]

i would not tell any1 but your closest friends

[Skeln]

Really, it's difficult to truely identify your sexuality before you're through with puberty. This is because your hormones are raging and you start to find the same sex more attractive physically.

I believe this is because we are now becomming more concerned about our own bodies, and when we see someone who has something that we like and want, we think it's hot so we are "physically" attracted to them seeing as how they have something we want on our bodies.

I would say that, until you're completely sure of your sexuality and you feel ok with others knowing and are willing to accept the consequences , you shouldn't tell anyone. It's ge5ts kind of weird when someone says, "Hey! I'm gay!" and the next day, "Hey! I'm straight!"

[Nik1234]

Thanks for the advice. I think I'm past the "comparing" stage and I'm pretty much done with puberty.