To future parents! What will you change?

[Smoke20]

I was just wondering when yall have kids, how will you raise your kids different from how your parents rasied you?

[Oblivion]

Moving to Family and Friends.
One thing for sure is that I'll stay in one place for most of their life with me, and not move around too much.

[Smoke20]

I'll start off 1st!
1. I would have more that just 1 kid. Because only having 1 kid makes them feel left out later on in life.
2. I would be a great dad. And care for them and always be there for my kids.
3. I would be loving but yet be stern.
4. I would teach my kids about puberty about age 11. That way they aren't wondering what the heck is going on with me.
5. I would spend every minute with my child as if it were the last.
6. I would teach them values in life. And how some people have such more of a harder life than they ever would.
7. I would teach them not to bully on kids. And that karma does happen!
8. I would love my kids that god gave me. And be thankful for them. Along with my wife!
I'm only 16, and I've allready been told many times that I would make a great dad! So how would yall change the way you raise your kids?

[Ella]

OK...

1. I would give them more freedom
2. I would give them more reason to trust and like me
3. I would be more honest with them
4. I would listen to and respect their opnions
5. I would try and sort out their problems myself, without pawning them off on a councellor
6. I wouldn't let it get that far in the first place
7. I would be happy.

[HelloWorld123456]

I think I will raise then like my parents did raise me I think they did a great job with me =]

The only thing I would change is that I wouldn't have only 2 children cause that ain't so great ... Maybe 4 or 6 =] Cause I think a home would be a home only if it is full of the little life of the children =D

Well I also wanna have a Child now ... I am only 16 ... And I am afraid to have one right now because people talk a lot =/

[Brilliance]

Well for starters..I won't marry an alcoholic ...

1. I'll trust my kids more then my mum trusts me
2. I'll love them like there's no tomorrow

can't really think of any others..

[kenoloor]

My parents did a very good job of raising me (so far :D) but here's what I would do:

- I would give them more freedom, both with language and just life in general
- Trust my kids with decisions in their lives
- Have two or three
- Give them the best education they can get (not saying that my parents didn't do that for me because they did)

[Origami]

I was raised right, but I had a very rough childhood.
My parents were strict on me, and I'll enforce rules but I don't plan on being as strict on my children as my parents were to me. Rules are a good thing but it creates room for conflict.
And unlike my father I plan on being there and providing for my children, giving them what they want and letting them enjoy their childhood. (:

[Reality]

To the people on about "giving more freedom". You do know you'll probably end up protective..? Your parents were once kids and probably thought like that.

And uhh. Well, I can't really say until I do become a dad.

[AutumnDae]

I actually think my parents have done a fine job raising me.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I am and continue to be and act on the morals of my Mother. My grandmama/grandpapa have told me the way i should act, and I continue to do that.

[BlackenedSilver]

I would..
1) Talk to my kids alot more
2) Not leave them with Grandparents etc too much.
3) If I can afford it, Leave work through their first 3 years.
4) Document every little moment (First word..)
5) Not pressure them into anything. (My parents didnt do this, until this year.)
6) Not stop them from doing anything in their life.
7) Love them unconditionally.
8) Push them a little bit to take up a hobby they enjoy. (Contradicts a bit, but I wish my parents had stopped me from quitting Dancing.)

[Cloud]

-i would not have a job that requires me to work away excessively
-i would talk to em and make sure they can actualy trust me
-id make sure they know they can talk to stuff with me about anything
-id give them privacy
-id give them freedom
-i wouldnt be a super protective person and would let them do what they want to an extent but still be as protective as possible without interfering majorly in their lives
yeah and som more i cant remember

[OnlyByTheNight.]

~I would give them a certain amount of freedom.
~I would expect them to do the best they can on everything.
~I would get them involved in activities from an early age.
~I would take time to talk to them and let them know that they can talk to me about their problems and trust me.
~I would give them privacy.
~I would spend as much time as possible with them.
~I would be really protective of them.

Ammm.... Ya I can't think of much else.....

[Aves]

I would give freedom, but be strict and make them know what work is, something I'm figuring out on my own.

[Antares]

Good question.
I would...
1. Have more kids
2. Have them closer together
3. Be a LITTLE but more free

Otherwise thats it...

[NightFighter]

i would encourage them to cry if they were upset.
Be supportive even if i think they made the wrong decision.
I think thats the only things i would change.

[Sage]

-I would let my kids use all the foul language they like. Eventually they will realize it doesn't make them profoundly cool.
-I would let my kids go to bed whenever they feel like it so they can find a time that works for them. I can't claim to know best for everyone.
-I wouldn't be racist or homophobic like my parents and teach my kids to respect people of every variety.
-I would be crucially honest with them at all times and not sugarcoat my childhood stories so they don't try to meet unrealistic standards.
-I would teach them to be respect of all things and people, and how to control their emotions so they can overcome normally stressful situations.
-I would encourage them to pursue their interests in life and not just go for the highest paying generic job like a lawyer or doctor.
-I would give reasons for any commands I give them and not just pull the "I'm older than you and smarter than you" card.
-I would allow them to dress the way they like and listen to whatever music they like and all such things, even if I'm not too fond of the style myself. Though I would give an honest opinion and not just say I love everything about them.
-I wouldn't shove a message of "don't drink or have sex or do drugs" down their throats, but I would teach them my honest philosophy of not needing such dependable things to find happiness in life.

That's all I can think of right now.

[Sapphire]

I'd put more controls on what can and can't be accessed from the computer.
Once they start really growing up I'd consider their room to be their own and wouldn't invade it.
I would allow them to grow up at their own pace. I have no interest in making them grow up too quickly because I've told them more than they should know.
I won't criticise them when they tell me the latest friendship dramas.

[Agent]

I wouldn´t yell at my kids for almost no reason.
I wouldn´t fight with my wife.
I wouldn´t complain about thing in job for my kids.
I wouldn´t call my kids with names etc.
I wouldn´t try to put my kids down.
I would be supportive.

[Ripplemagne]

Well, my father was distinctively absent. However, I can only hope that I can be half the parent to my children that my mom was for me.

[mrmcdonaldduck]

well
1. I would listen to what my kids say
2. Be reasonable
3. When older, ask them to help make the rules so they are fair
4. wont give their friends a hard time
5. Be supportive
6. Dont hit
7. RESPECT THEIR PRIVACY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Hyper]

Only thing I'd do differently for sure is be a father for my children...

[Zephyr]

~ I'd put my children before my love life
~ I wouldn't fight in front of them
~ I'd check in regularly to make sure that everything is alright
~ I'd be more trusting (I would always get in trouble for telling the truth because they would think that I was lying)
~ I'd encourage them to get involved with things (NOT push, encourage)
~ I'd listen to their problems and actively talk with them about it

Even though I'm not a parent, it's obviously a 24/7 job, and nobody is perfect when raising children.

[Muffins]

- I'd only want 2 kids, 3 at the most (not 5 like my family seems to much and my dad is always complaining about the lack of money we have..)
- Show them how to love your partner and how to treat women and be a good example and how to be a leader. (My dads alright but he always yells at my mom cos he thinks she doesnt do anything)
- Actually give them a real "the talk" so they dont have to find out the way I did. (pornography :whoops: :( )
- I'd actually listen to them.

[tyler27846]

I would be one of those parents who wouldnt check on them every 5 minutes
I would let them do anything they want as long as its no illegalother than that there wouldnt be many rules
Their curfew would be 2 am
Id be supportive
Try 2 be their friend but be a parent at da same time

[TODAYisTHEday]

I won't put so many restrictions and limits on them. I would let them date. If they talked to me about sex I would help them. I would let them. I'd buy them condoms. I don't want them to be strict like mine.

[Giles]

my parent have done a great job (so far) at raising me. soo there isnt a great amoutn i'd change but here we go...

1. "I" would talk to them aboutr puberty at age 11, so that they knew wat was goin on when it started.

2. I would check on their internet things all the time but be supportive no mattter what they were doing.

3. I would make sure that they socialised out of the house. with real people.

4. No matter what sex, i would make sure they trusted me enough to talk to me about anything (sex, relationships , puberty, jacking off etc.)

5. I'd slip them little things if i knew thye might want them... ( like condoms if i thought thye were having sex, things like tht )

thats it really :D

[justanotherguy93]

some things like my mom doesnt care if i drink as long as i know my limit. she "doesnt know" that i smoke pot, and doesnt care. but homework issues i might change like if i dont do my homework and i get a zero put in for that grade im grounded for a week

[punkjake]

I was just wondering when yall have kids, how will you raise your kids different from how your parents rasied you?

well if i become sucsful in my acting or animating job I'll problly move a lot...i will be nice to them spoil them a little but if they disrespect badly,hit,or cuss at 5-13 they will get in trouble.I will give them big presents I will tell them about sex,I will tell them if they want to have sex b4 marriage thats there choice but to use a condom,you can be thesit or athiest,I won't mind:) I problly have between 1-3.Oh and what my parents didn't do to me when i was little if i hit or hurt my bigger bro,they wouldn't whip me,which i will but that isn't child abuse!PSAlso I will tell them i would love them no matter what and ever they do just don't be mean ur mother,kinda like my parents told me :)