Should I tell?

[wolfman775]

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Don't tell your parents yet. This is pretty serious, and it could get you in a lot of trouble.

You need to sit and think things through. Are you sure you're attracted to the animal itself? You could just be a furry and like anthro animals. Do you actually do anything to animals?

[wolfman775]

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I think you're a furry, not an actual zoosexual. You don't have actual feelings towards the animals, but you feel you are a dog. I guess they are a little similar, as you do have *some* feeling for animals.

But yeah, don't actually try to have sex with it. Even if they don't bite you, you're reproductive organs are different, and it'd up hurting you both.

[pontiacdriver]

I am zoosexual. I dont know wether I should tell my parents or not, and if I was to, How and when? I Realy need someone to talk to and I feel more at home on forums and in internet chat rooms.

P.S. If you dont have any good advice dont post here. And I mean it.

Please pardon my igorance here, but is a zoosexual someone who actually has sex with animals?

Well, you raise a very tough situation here if zoosexuality actually involves sex between a human and an animal. On one side there is no rational basis to sexual feelings and what causes them. At the same time there are just some types of sexual acts that are plain wrong whether it is sex between adults and children or humans and animals. I am not knocking you for feeling the way you do, but you cannot and must not ever act on your feelings. As the ASPCA and the Human Society consistently have said sex between humans and animals is never right as an animal cannot make the choice about sex in the same way a human does. Any type of sex involves mutual consent and the ability to make that consent in the first place, and if the parties are not equals either mentally or physically, then sex is always a bad idea.

To answer your question directly as to whether or not you tell your parents, I think you should tell us about your parents first. If your parents are pretty flexible, understanding, and loving, then I think you should open up to them. If your parents are really closed about sexuality and don't mind your feelings, or your relationship with them is otherwise strained, then telling them about this feeling is not the best idea. If you cannot talk to your parents, then talk to someone responsible like a guidance counselor at school (if they exist in your country), and trusted teacher, or someone else who is older who you can trust.

Someone above mentioned "furries," and there is always a chance you could enjoy the sexual side of that lifestyle. If that is the case, then I would not say your sexual preference is bad. There are folks out there who do get aroused by anthropormorphic animals or have transformation fetishes. As long as the person with whom you have sex acts is a human, then you are all right.

[wolfman775]

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[pontiacdriver]

I have had like a year and a half to think about this, and like my parents are realy nice but I dont usualy say stuff like that. I just dont want a bad reaction.

Well, if you have a pretty good relationship with your parents, then I doubt that they will get cross with you for your feelings. After all, we cannot control what we find sexually attractive, and everyone, including your parents, will have some sort of fetish. If you feel that you want your parents to know about all parts of you, then I would never, ever discourage that as a family that knows each other in totality is a strong one. If opening up to your parents about this issue is something that is important to you, then do it gradually. What I mean is you don't just want to come out and say you are a zoosexual as a lot of folks don't have a good understanding of it. As long as your feelings are not bestiality and you are more into the furry type of thing or transformation, then you are fine. How you approach your parents will determine entirely how they handle sexuality in general and if they feel comfortable with such talks. When it is all said and done a parent always prefers honesty from their kid and that their kid feels comfortable talking with them about anything. I cannot promise you that your parents will be jumping for joy that you are a zoosexual, but I reckon that as long as they know how you feel is a good step in understanding you as a person. After all, if you are into furries or transformation kind of things, then they will understand if you should decide to attend a furry convention or have that kind of artwork in your room.

P.S. How would you define a zoosexual based upon you personally? Are you actually into animals, or are you more into anthroporphic animals?

[wolfman775]

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[pontiacdriver]

Thanks for the advice, based on what you have said I might say but if I do it will be some time before I do.
And realy it's a bit of both, I like sort of anthroporphic stuff, but when I ly down and pet my dog I just feel like I have never felt before, its what I would say love must feel like, and I havent even felt like that when I had had a gf.

From what I understand of the furry groups it can be both a lifestyle but also have a sexual component, too. I am not going to knock you for finding certain types of animals attractive as I think some poster either in this thread or in another like it said that the reason why some folks find dogs sexually attractive is due to their uninhibited display of sexuality. I reckon that it is all right to appreciate the beauty of your animal and possibly even desire to be one, but I would never say it is all right to cross the line into actually having sex with an animal. I believe that we have an obligation to protect our pets like any other member of our family and to have sexual contact with them is no different than doing so with a family member. Just so I understand your viewpoint you would never consider having sex with an animal, right? I think your feelings are a lot more common than is thought, and I think there are large furry and transformation fetish movements out there, and I even think at least the furries have actual conventions.

I have always been curious as to what would cause a person to find something of a different species attractive, but then again there are stories that pop up occassionally of one species of animal adopting another one.

Well, don't worry about your family as they will never stop loving you. Just be yourself and always practice positive sexuality.

[wolfman775]

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I think it's best to keep it quiet for now. Wait untill you're sure that that's the way you feel. Could just be curiosity ;)

[Sapphire]

Zoophilia is the term and as such you are a zoophile and not zoosexual.
If you decide to tell them then do so out of a desire to get some help. I implore you to seek help so that in the future you don't put any animal at risk.

[wolfman775]

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[pontiacdriver]

I have before considerd having sex with my dog, but I have scince decided that it is wrong and I am not going to. As for why I am this way, that question has no answer. I just am.

Thanks for all the realy positive replies because some people are just realy horrible to people like me, and infact brings me to my other problem. About two months ago I told two people at school, and well, you know how fast rummors spread
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And now nobody will leave me alone, constantly asking absurd questions and saying I am disgusting etc.
What to do? There are people who dont mind tho and I feel like the only way to get people to shut up is to say I lied but then I would lose everybodys trust. even the ok people. :(

I am glad to hear that you would never have sex with your dog, and I hope you would not do so with any other animal. I think your type of sexuality is the hardest as unlike homosexuality your interest goes into an area where you can never have sex without actually hurting the animal and compromising your morals as an animal owner. With that being said I am sure that you can find a compromise as there are folks out there like you be it furries or folks who like to role play, and the internet has brought together more people like you. If your partner role plays as an animal, then I believe that is all right unlike having sex with an actual animal. Just be careful about who you meet online especially with your interest as some folks out there might genuinely not be good people. It is one thing to be friendly with someone who shares you common interests, but never hang out with someone who hurts animals by having sex with them.


I can see your fear about telling your parents about your feelings in light of your friends' reaction, but the key difference is that your parents love you unconditionally whereas your friends do not. As for your parents, educating them on your feelings is the best thing to do, and you might want to go to the local library and do some research on your sexuality as there has been quite a few studies on people like you. However, I do think that you should seek counseling as you need to have a human lover and not an animal one, and explaining your feelings to your parents in the context of wishing to seek counseling will keep things civil in your household. Counseling is a must for you as you don't ever want to hurt an animal, and you need to have a human lover and not an animal one.


As for the school issue, that was not the best move on your part to tell people about your sexual preference. I know you probably trusted those friends, and they probably were otherwise good friends. However, you have to be really careful in the future with whom you share your feelings about this. Just tell your mates that you are a furry which should be fine. There are a lot of furries out there, and you don't want folks to think that you hurt animals. By saying you are a furry you and not necessarily lying to the folks who accepted your sexuality, and you are being honest to everyone in that the anthropormorphic (sp?) animals probably arouse you which is not making you hide yourself. Also, I think a furry is much more accepted than someone who looks at animals sexually.

[Θάνατος]

I would not tell your parents, they will love you no matter what. The key is here that they may lose some respect for you and even chastise you. My parents would not speak to me for 6 weeks when I told them that I was bisexual so I could only imagine how a parent or parents would react to your situation.

I think you need to get some counseling to be able to move on to a normal sex life.

You said you told someone at school and the rumors spread about you, well you might get the same reaction from your parents at first but they will always love you.

I wish you luck and hope you find a real human lover.

[nickings07]

I am zoosexual. I dont know wether I should tell my parents or not, and if I was to, How and when? I Realy need someone to talk to and I feel more at home on forums and in internet chat rooms.

P.S. If you dont have any good advice dont post here. And I mean it.

Telling your parents is not a good idea, it will arise so many issues that you (nor your parents) WILL NOT live a normal life (even tho you don't anyways) again.

There is only one answer to this, and that is you NEED mental help. Sexual acts with animals or thinking about it are both just as equally wrong, in my opinion I would say bestiality is worse than raping a 3 year old baby due to the 'moral' aspect of it never mind the fact it isn't a human side.

Animals in no way have a sexual assets apart from 'raw genitals' and not only that but a human is not designed to to communicate and share feelings of pleasure in that manner with animals, look at it this way what if you by some bizarre sickening chance impregnated a dog, what disaster would it be genetically for the puppy/human baby.

To round everything up I would say you should be chastised.

[Sapphire]

Zoosexual is actualy a medicaly recgoniesed term that pretty much says the same thing, you can say:
a) I am a zoophile
OR
b) I am zoosexual

So HA! And I knew that anyway. :P :tongue:

Man, I just found the forums massive stash of smileys and they are so funny LOL.
There are many pieces of literature that place sex with animals as a paraphilia and the DSM is one of those. Considering that the DSM is very, very widely used in diagnosing disorders I think that zoophilias inclusion in that is much more persuasive than the case that is put forward for it being a sexual orientation.

Regardless of what you class yourself to be. You need to seek help so that you don't pose a risk to animals.

[clr9823]

Telling your parents is not a good idea, it will arise so many issues that you (nor your parents) WILL NOT live a normal life (even tho you don't anyways) again.

There is only one answer to this, and that is you NEED mental help. Sexual acts with animals or thinking about it are both just as equally wrong, in my opinion I would say bestiality is worse than raping a 3 year old baby due to the 'moral' aspect of it never mind the fact it isn't a human side.

Animals in no way have a sexual assets apart from 'raw genitals' and not only that but a human is not designed to to communicate and share feelings of pleasure in that manner with animals, look at it this way what if you by some bizarre sickening chance impregnated a dog, what disaster would it be genetically for the puppy/human baby.

To round everything up I would say you should be chastised.

First, it is IMPOSSIBLE for interspecies impregnation between humans and other lower mammals (well, actually, not sure bout monkeys cause the little scamps are so similar, but I digress).

Although I think all zoophilia acts are wrong, he doesn't NEED any mental help. As long as it remains a fantasy, it isn't actually a problem until people have impulses to act on them. For example, rape fantasy is quite common for women, but they probably wouldn't like for it to happen to them in real life

chas·tise (chs-tz, chstz)
tr.v. chas·tised, chas·tis·ing, chas·tis·es
1. To punish, as by beating. See Synonyms at punish.
2. To criticize severely; rebuke.
3. Archaic To purify - Taken from dictionary

I hope you don't mean 'chastise' as in the first definition, and the second definition won't actually help him. So, I am afraid to say, you are wrong in saying he should be chastised.

[Sapphire]

Although I think all zoophilia acts are wrong, he doesn't NEED any mental help. As long as it remains a fantasy, it isn't actually a problem until people have impulses to act on them. For example, rape fantasy is quite common for women, but they probably wouldn't like for it to happen to them in real life
That's like saying that pedophiles aren't in need of help until the time that they actually act on their attraction to children. A pedophile is a danger to children regardless of whether they have or haven't acted on their desires to date. He is a danger to animals in the same way. The fact that he hasn't yet acted on these urges doesn't stop him being a risk to animals or himself now and in the future.

He needs to address these feelings and desires in a safe space with a trained professional to help ensure that animals and himself are safe from harm.

[nick]

when I ly down and pet my dog I just feel like I have never felt before, its what I would say love must feel like, and I havent even felt like that when I had had a gf.

I have before considerd having sex with my dog, but I have scince decided that it is wrong and I am not going to. As for why I am this way, that question has no answer. I just am.

Thanks for all the realy positive replies because some people are just realy horrible to people like me, and infact brings me to my other problem. About two months ago I told two people at school, and well, you know how fast rummors spread
You strike me overall, having read a few of your posts elsewhere, as a nice guy. But to be honest this is not something many of us can relate to or feel comfortable with. But I don't think anyone on here should just condemn or throw shit at you, thats not what vt's about. You've been honest, and thats brave, and we should respect that.

If you lie down and stroke you dog and you feel warmth and affection, love even, for him or her, thats not so unusual. We have cats, sometimes I feel one of the cats loves me more than any living person and so its only natural to feel love and affection back. What is not natural for most people is to translate that into a sexual feeling.

It was silly of you to tell people that at school, its too unusual, you cant expect other people to understand. And however well you get on with your parents I really wouldnt tell them.

For the moment I would say keep it to yourself. For God's sake dont act upon it, just please dont go there. With a bit of luck its a phase you're going through and sometime you'll find yourself attracted to and falling in love with a guy or a girl and will put this behind you. I hope so.

O and I meant to say, I don't understand not really in the slightest, but if you want someone to talk to who will try not to judge and will at least listen and try to be helpful, give me a try. Nick

[Specter]

As others have already mentioned I strongly suggest you don’t mention anything just yet. I would recommend waiting sometime. Because its likely that you’ll grow our of these habits.

Try to look at this from someone else’s perspective, being attracted to animals isn’t exactly normal so I would hope this is just a stage you go through.

[alyssa4ever]

Well. Sorry if this topic is long gone. But beastiality isnt zoophilia. Beastiality is a force of sex with animals, but it doesnt involve anything other than pure need and "hornyness" of Having sex with them, either on the recieving end or giving side of it. It usually is forced, and is what makes them illegal, other thAn it being an animal. And zoophilia is a pure love passion. That you truely love the animal, (gunna use dogs), that you truely love the dog. And you are just showing him/her how you feel and want to be intimate with it. ummm,.....personally im not into animals, i love my german shephard to death, but im not about to go down on him lol how do i know about this? Lol my good friend watches this stuff. Gi really have no problem with her doing that, because its not my deal you know? She doesnt tell her parents because if it leaked to someone, it could do damage. If you just like looking at cartoon animals with human parts, such as furries, it doesnt mean you are a zoophiliac. Just a furry.