Want to ask GF to have sex...

[punkjake]

Well I want to have sex with gf when we get a little older(14-16)I do really like her almost a Love and i know about condoms i problly steel one from my bigger bro XD but how could i ask her,need advice and would it be ok when we are 14 and we have sex be bad?

[Ripplemagne]

Definitely not fourteen or fifteen. Way too young. The offer was on the table for me then and I was wise enough not to do so. Start doing your research now because I'm willing to wager there's a lot about sex that you don't know about that you probably think you have a grasp of. Sixteen, iffy, but acceptable, I suppose. It's fairly common place, but I'd say wait longer anyway. But I'm abstinent, so don't mind my tired rambling.

Anyway, as for your problem, never ask a girl to have sex with you. You immediately put it out "I am a beta male." I'm not telling you to rape the girl, but let it flow into it. Just about any girl will tell you no if you ask her "lol seckz?" When the opportunity and setting is right, lead into it with foreplay. If she's in the mood, she'll consent when you get to that point. If she doesn't, then tell her that you understand and do whatever she's comfortable with.

[Raize]

Like Ripplemagne said, don't ask. If you're wanting to ask, then that isn't the right time. You need to wait.

It'll come naturally. Just be prepared once it (if) happens. Also, accept her answer if she stops or says no.

[Oblivion]

If you have to ask, either you're married, or your relationship is not quite ready for sex at all.

I agree with Rip, that 14 and 15 are definitely too young in my book. 16, or even 17 is too young to me as well. Legalities are also an issue, depending on your state/country, the legal age of consent usually varies from 16-18. But when you are ready, don't ask. Just... flow into it. Asking for sex just makes you seem like another horny teenage male.
However, I do think talking about it is fine, and actually a good thing. Talking about safe sex, and readiness is better than jumping right into it, because both of you could be pressured into it, or not be safe, etc. Plus, you might even be able to discuss how nervous you both are that you might not be able to preform well; almost all couples are. It'd reduce tension and make it even more fun for your first time.
Finally, I wouldn't hold out on this girl. In most teenage relationship, they don't last an extraordinary amount of time. If you're under 14 and waiting until you're ready or legal, I doubt you'll be with the same girl. Brutal, but true.

[sam i am]

don't have sex dude plz don't fucking have it my friend had sex with this so call "love of his life" i said hoe lol and got her pregnant he used a condom but a little u know what got in some how and now he got a 13 girl knock up just plz wait if u almost love her u can wait and there's other ways to show her how u feel

[punkjake]

thanks guys,i won't have sex:yes:

[sam i am]

ok np

[Bills]

Okay this girl And me have this thing. We got on the topic of a question game... It's where you text a question And they text one back. It gets the girl really excited and she now wants to do stuff with me. So the way to ask her say "do you want to play the question game?" if she says yes say "clean or dirty" make sure she says dirty then ask what you want..

[Syvelocin]

Please do not bump old threads, this one is from two years ago. :locked: