What should i do

[cj4455]

i know this girl that ive likd since like fifth grade. (im in tenth now lol) I do all i can just to see her in the hall on "accident" and we are good friends i would say but shes always datin someone and i never have a chance to ask her out. BUt since we are good friends i thinks it embarrasing to say. hey wanna go out sometime cause we hang out after school anyway.So i dont know how i should ask her when she might become available again.
Im also really shy with girls and ive never actually had a first kiss yet. BUt im steppin up and it seems shes the only girl i really like now

[Jackie]

Well its a good start that you're already friends - that always bakes a great foundation for a relationship. About the other boyfriends thing - Id advise you not to ask her out when you know she's got another boyfriend. This will put her in a very awkward position, and she may think that a) you didn't know about the other boyfriend, and that you don't care about her enough to know these things; b) that you automatically think that you're better than her current boyfriend, which she may resent. So you might want to make sure she's free before you try anything.
About actually asking her out, I wouldn't freak too much. I mean if you guys hang out all the time anyway, it's obvious that she likes you enough to go out of her way to spend time with you. Also girls are easy - we're emotional and sentimental. If or when you're game enough to ask her out, give her a lot of praise, compliments and flatter her. Tell her you've liked her forever, pick out some specific things you love about her and tell her. It's probably best to do it face to face, and again she'll be flattered if you're embarrased about it.
Good luck, from Jackie

[cj4455]

thnx for the help jacki :)

[Webbeardthepirate]

Your only young once. I was in a similar circomstance, and I couldn't help but rat on the guy she was seeing ALL the time. He liked another girl and i told my friend this, and so my friend confronts the other girl and then other girl chews me out for making people mad at her. Love triangles are for books and television, they are not fun in real life. If you try to just be her friend you'll be miserable and not a very good friend. You owe it to her, yourself, and even her boyfriend, to own up to how you feel. If she shoots you down you'll be sad, and angry, but you'll be able to move on. If you stay quiet you'll have this chain holding you to her, you won't be able to have a relationship with some one else, and your personal growth will be stunted. If you confess your feelings and she throws over the other guy for you, GREAT. Your not the other guy and sometimes you have to do what is best for you, not what is best for some guy who is not you. If her boyfriend is also your best friend... I never had that happen to me, but I think that would suck wet horse blankets.

[cj4455]

Your only young once. I was in a similar circomstance, and I couldn't help but rat on the guy she was seeing ALL the time. He liked another girl and i told my friend this, and so my friend confronts the other girl and then other girl chews me out for making people mad at her. Love triangles are for books and television, they are not fun in real life. If you try to just be her friend you'll be miserable and not a very good friend. You owe it to her, yourself, and even her boyfriend, to own up to how you feel. If she shoots you down you'll be sad, and angry, but you'll be able to move on. If you stay quiet you'll have this chain holding you to her, you won't be able to have a relationship with some one else, and your personal growth will be stunted. If you confess your feelings and she throws over the other guy for you, GREAT. Your not the other guy and sometimes you have to do what is best for you, not what is best for some guy who is not you. If her boyfriend is also your best friend... I never had that happen to me, but I think that would suck wet horse blankets.

thats kind of how it is. i only likeo ne other girl besides her but not as much. I like being her freind and i dont want to make things difficult for her by telling her her shes in another relationship. I mean i want to go out with her but i dont want to hurt her by putting her on the spot. I mean i guess if shes happy then im not gonna bring her down. I think ill just have top wait it out and tell her when shes done with this other guy (if that happens) or just try to ge over her.

[Webbeardthepirate]

I can't tell you what to do, no one can. Telling her your interested will not hurt her feelings. Seriously, how can being told some one likes you make you feel bad. Unless you had to then kill them because your a hired assassin and if you don't do it the Family will come for you. That would probably be bad. But you will never hurtsomeone by telling them you find them attractive. Its you that will get hurt, not them. I mean if you would rather pine for her, it can be fun in its own gloomy way, and there is nothing wrong with a little fantasy.

She can't hurt you if you don't let her after all. But don't lie to yourself and say your doing it for them, your not. You are keeping your feelings private so you can enjoy them in private. I know, I do the same thing. But it is a dead end. I think you want to tell her you like her, or you never would have posted here about it. Personally telling a bunch of strangers on the internet sounds more embarassing, but of course you don't need to wory about us. You don't like us, we can't hurt you, we don't even know you. But I think you brought this up for a reason. If you want someone to tell you your not weird, your not. I can't speak for everyone else, but I have been there man. But you have to move forward to grow. Maybe your not ready, your the only one who knows that. But you actually won't know if your ready until you try. If you want to know how to start, ask her "Why aren't we together?" It says that you think its a good idea, and it starts out the conversation. You hang out right, so once the topic is broached just talk, go where the conversation goes. She may say something obvious like she is with what's his face. Brush it off, say besides that. If she says its cause you never asked, then ask if that is all it would take, if she says your like a brother, be incredulous. If she says she likes you just as a friend, be hurt. But you can't control the way she feels, any more then you can control the way you feel, which you can't by the way, so for godsakes don't try.

[Webbeardthepirate]

Sorry, the angry crew of pirates that lives in my head have been discussing this, and just said "Arrr, the lad be feelin' unworthing ta' be courtin' the fair maid, ARRRRR!" I think they mean that your not feeling like your good enough for this girl. There are two things that make you feel this way, says the pirates. You have put her up in the crows nest, and you've put yourselves down in the bilges with the rats. She's not really all that, but you think she is. But you have stated you've never kissed a girl, so you feel uncertain, you lack confidence in your own skills. Well, kissing is only awkward for the first couple minutes TOPS. It is perfectly natural to be uncertain, and no one expects you to be don juan out of the gate. "Arr that be a mixed metephore cap'n." Beyond that, ahem, you'll have to ask some one else. "The cap'n not be too good on 'er knowledge o' the biblical sort, har har har!" Yes, well, anyways. You have to remind yourself that your not a rat and have every right to be up on deck, and she isn't an ornament that deserves to be nailed to the prow of the ship that is your life to calm troubled waters ahead. "Arr, now he be Dr. Phil, the ship builder, har har har!"

[forestfire20]

i have to agree with jacki i mean if uve liked her for five years than she means alot to you and you really should try your best lots of comlimants, maby a gift every here and there, and if you tell her that you liked her for five years (wich is kanda a long time lol) than sheel fell bad if she says no wich might just make her say yes you never know right?

[Webbeardthepirate]

Seriously? You think he should GUILT some one into going out with them. Thats up there with buy a girl a fancy dinner and she'll have to sleep with you as payback. Oh, and just start things off with a little bribery, that's the best way to make sure some one likes you (he said sarcastically). I mean, its like saying at heart every girl is a whore that you can buy. Maybe they are, but If that is the case I don't want them, thank you very much.

Look, if your not ready, stay as you are. But people don't break up unless you give them a reason. If you wait for her to be dumped they your rebound guy, rebound guy doesn't last. If you wait for her to dump him, she's not doing that until she has a reason.

Give her presents and she'll like you. Sheesh. Give a girl presents because you want them to have something, not to make them do something for you. What is this, a power game? "I gave you a neclace, I have something over you, now you are my slave. Nu uh, because I have all the control and you can't make me give you anything."